17 year-old in love with a 48 year-old.?

Question

Hello, it's me again. Though just by reading the 'question' title, you will assume I am crazy, and/or sick, stupid, infatuated, etc. But I can assure you, your assumptions are incorrect. I have known him for 4 years now, and I definitely convinced: he is the one. I've been in some relationships with loving partners who were attached to me, but I had to end them all since they weren't what I truly wanted. My teacher was. Nobody else will ever replace him, not even a near-identical copy...I want the original.

Anyway, I don't plan on getting in a relationship with him until I am at least 18. So don't worry - I am smarter than you see me as. Me and him have almost everything in common: I was so surprised to learn that his past was even similar to mine, and how his interests are the same as mine.

So anyway, I have numerous reports on how I flirt with him, and how he seems to flirts with me, and if you are interested in helping me with this, send me an email. Also, he knows I love him. :)

Email:

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I'd rather spent one lifetime with him then brave this world alone.

I told you, I don't want anyone else. Just the original. And trust me, I know a lot of people, none as amazing as him, in my eyes.

What do I want from him? Love. Never money. Love is what I seek, what I need, in him.

I would like to thank you all for your kind comments (most of them, anyway.)

I am still sitting here and will be checking back here for a few days in hopes of new replies. And if you want the whole deal, send an email.

Answer 1

wow

Answer 2

Hey, I was 15 n fell for my former 29 yr old teacher. He fell for me too. We were seeing each other unofficially for 4 yrs. We were "in love" according to us. We spoke for hours, had so much in common, loved being in each others' company... the whole works! And guess what... now I feel like I hate him... why, he got married to someone he met after a couple months, a month ago.

Hey, I know how you feel and this may be the hardest thing ever, and I do know that nothing anyone says can change your mind 'cause trust me, I was in a close enough situation. But plz, try to take my advice. Be careful.

No matter how close yall seem now, how much yall have in common, you 2 are living in 2 different generations, and believe me you would have issues.

I planned my life out so things can work out for us. But face it, a person so much younger is a 'set back'. You want different things at different stages. He knows everything already and that might be good for you to get some experience, but you need to experience life yourself. You're a little too young to decide that's what you want. And most older guys go through this period, but at the end of the day they want someone their age, on their level. Save yourself the heartache that would generate from all the fighting. You guys are too different right now. You need more time to mature.

It's inevitable for yall to have more probs than usual couples face, my advice to you is to save your relationship, don't get too close to him right now, go out with other guys, gain some experience, be friends though, and if in 5 yrs you feel the same way then by all means act on it. But not now sweety, I know what I went through and I wish I can take it back! Sometimes love is just not enough!

Oh and think of all the young guys you can have. And think of him being in his 70s and you just nearing 30... it's a set back to you, like it or not! Live life a lil still... I know what I'm telling you!!!

Answer 3

I'm 20. I dated someone 17 years older than me this past year. Trust me, it's not all its cracked up to be. And yes...we had LOADS in common and YES we had a great time...and yes, he is fantastic in many ways--namely that he is emotionally stable and very patient. The problems come in at several places:
1) At different points in your life. You might be going to college or thinking about starting a job; he is thinking about retirement.
2) Viagra...there's no denying he'll need it if he isn't already on it!
3) He's the same age as your dad. Maybe older.
4) You will change your mind...you aren't the same person now you will be in 5, 10, 15 years. You are always changing.
5) He's going to be dead in 40, maybe 50 years if you're really lucky. If you're not lucky, in a few years...and what if you're stuck with little ones?



At least mine was 8 years younger than my mom and 13 years older than my dad....48 is just plain creepy for someone who is only 17 and not even an adult. If a 48 year old is interested in someone who is 31 YEARS younger than him, that's just plain sick. Stop and look at it objectively...think about if it was one of your friends..lay it out on the table. As someone who HAS dated someone very much older, I urge you to give guys around your age a chance. I know you're looking to find approval on here, but any sane person won't give it to you...I'm sure your parents won't approve either.

I don't know the whole story with yours...but mine had never been married, didn't have kids or anything like that...he spent all his post-high school time in college, law school, and professional school. You need to stop pursuing this man. Hopefully, he is not interested.

Answer 4

You have to understand that although his past may be similair to your life now, he's past that stage. You need to grow in your own way and experience all the things that he got to experience when he was young. You may truly love this person and i am in no place to judge but think about it for a second! Do you really want to be with some 3x your age! in the end it will be your decision, yet be careful, things may not always be as they seem. He may seem like a nice guy but wouldn't any 48 year old man be interested in a 17 year old?

Answer 5

A window without a view is exactly what this guy needs. If he is flirting back then there is something wrong with him. You obviously have your own issues to deall with most likely the fact that you were molested and your daddy not being around. Get some help, seriously, talk to a counselor or something. And waiting until you're eighteen, doesn't make you smart, you are just trying to keep him out of trouble. . .stupid.

Answer 6

Uhhh wow. I am so sorry for you because think about it, you have your whole life to go yet and you wanna spend it with someone twice ur age??? He will be dead before you and you know you are gunna make him your everything and when he's gone you will have nothing and your life after that will be pain and misery. I have seen this before and the women (younger) ended up cheating on him because she didn't get what she wanted from him and he found out and killed her and then her bf. Crazy huh?? I hope it doesn't happen to you and i wish you luck in your marriage with an old person... PEACE

Answer 7

Not that I think that you're crazy, sick, or demented, but just how much life experience do you really have? He is more than twice your age, and I wonder how he feels about you. How many "serious" relationships have you been in, and for how long? I think that you need a little more experience in life and dating before deciding "he's the one." It's good that you think that you know what you want, however your preferences will change over time. Good luck in your endeavor.

Answer 8

hey,age aint nothing but a number,but dont be stupid. ur business is ur business but um....if u guys are intamate just think about the consequences for him. he could get in a whole lot of trouble being that u r a minor even if the intamacy is consentual. But to add my advice u r still young, a nice OLDER YOUNG man,at least 5-7yr difference u should try.GOOD LUCK

Answer 9

I will not touch the age issue. I want to focus on the fact that you say you love him and you aren't in a relationship with him yet. You are in love with the idea of loving him. Give yourself time after to have spent the intimate moments together (NOT SEX) and also the rocky issues together then analyze if you love him or not. See how he acts around you in public and when you are alone. I'm not saying cut things off with him but PLEASE go slow. Wish you the best!

Answer 10

Obviously this guy has a fetish for young girls. You, although young now, will not remain that way forever. Yet his fetish will. It's simple mathematics...he will eventually dump you for another younger girl. And get real with yourself...your 17, it's puppy love. What happens when your 30 and he's 61? Your too young for prunes...go for the plum.

Answer 11

On one hand you've deceived your spouse and on the different you're afraid that what is going to take position if she unearths out the reality. faster or later it ultimately come out. If she is organic and loves you in reality it will be heartbreaking for her. You made more suitable courting also with this kind of woman that she has different companions and many babies, one among them she claims to be yours. Now carry jointly some braveness, sit down jointly along with your spouse and three babies and tell them the reality of the mistakes you've dedicated. Beg their pardon and promise them that you'll ignore that short-term courting that you carried on for decades. they could forgive you.....