Me and my boyfriend dated for 2 months then i broke up with him for another guy (i know it was a BIG mistake) but we didn't date, but a day after we broke up he started dating someone else. About 3 weeks went by and me and my x didn't talk. Then one day i called him and we started talking blah blah blah, so we started dating again ... we've been dating again for 2 weeks. We talked and he said that he forgave me for breaking up with him for the other guy and that if he hadn't then he wouldn't be dating me. Well whenever we're on the phone and I tell him that I luv him (I really do), he goes yeah i bet you do, and one day i asked him what that meant and he said you probably just dated me so you could hurt me again, and i was like no im not and i asked him if he didn't believe me when i said that i luved him and he said maybe a little, and i was like not completely and he said no. And he just keeps making remarks like that, what's wrong ... is he not over what happened? I need some help!!
2007-03-05 15:02:45 · 12 answers · asked by girlwithspunk17 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've appoligized for what i done, and I've told him that it won't ever happen again, but he won't listen or i guess he doesn't believe me i don't know ... sometimes i wonder if he still likes me like he use to, it's different now then it was before, and when we talk on the phone sometimes we just sit there in silence, i need some help! is our relationship headed down?!
2007-03-05 15:05:39 · update #1
He is hurting, and wondering if this will happen again. Your actions is what will prove to him that you truly love him, not mere words. Just hang in there and be patient.
2007-03-05 15:13:43 · answer #1 · answered by Carlene W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's hurt and not over it... plain and simple. He should not have agreed to begin a new relationship with you if he was not ready to move past prior bad acts, That being said, he will more than likely not get over it, and he will use it to make comments to you, in an attempt to make you feel as bad as he did (if even subconsciously) I would thank him for the great two weeks and move on......it's not worth feeling as if you were in the wrong for something that should be in the past...
2007-03-05 23:08:22 · answer #2 · answered by JustJen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey,
well, you obviously hurt him once. and it's only natural for him to have doubts, on taking you back. i mean not to put it in a bad way. but for ex: waht if you lent a friend you FAV. CD. and stressed it to her that you this was your all time most adored cd. and told her to take super care with it. then, she lost it. would you really trust her completely with anything else very special to you??
& another thing...when you said you loved him. i see where he's coming from when he says "a little". because you cant possibly love him. or else you wouldnt have left. him. i mean you can love him. but not LOVE him, rele.
tho, i think he maybe is taking it too far. he's sounds like he's holding a grudge. and if he has a problem with it, then why did he take you back?
2007-03-05 23:16:19 · answer #3 · answered by 8teen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he isn't over it...if he was then he wouldn't care much about being with you...cus it wouldn't matter what happened but it matters and only you can make this right...one can forgive but your actions can only make him forget...you got yourself in this and you either kiss up or back out of this relationship...it can still work but not unless you make up for it.
2007-03-05 23:08:43 · answer #4 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his feeling got hurt and you are the only one who can repair them through love patience understanding and actually expressing those feelings to him,he afriad he'll get hurt again if you do love him then step up to the plate and wrap your arms around him whenever you get the chance and tell him how good it feels to be in his arms
2007-03-05 23:08:24 · answer #5 · answered by resigned 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look u hurt him, u are going to have to show him to u are sorry, just not tell, him but show, him, trust me i know, i'm was just as stubborn, he needs to see it and experence for him self, he is in denial, u are the only one to break it, u need to to show him u love him. AFFECTION!!!!
2007-03-05 23:13:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems like he is still hurting(or maybe has some trust issues).... but I hope he doesn't just bring it up , for the heat of the argument, because that is B.S.,
hope it works out!!!
2007-03-05 23:08:01 · answer #7 · answered by DOC Holliday 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
looks like he cant let it go. tell him that he cant keep holding that against you, you know it was a mistake, you are sorry, you are proving that so he needs to let it go or let you go.
2007-03-05 23:08:34 · answer #8 · answered by gurly gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
w0w lyke 2 mani wordz
2007-03-05 23:05:19 · answer #9 · answered by poo hed 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I'm really weary of these "Dear Abby" questions.
2007-03-05 23:06:49 · answer #10 · answered by Smiley 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋