my guy is a christian and i am not and he told me this; as for me and my house we will Worship god
i dont believe in god but i love him so much what should i do
dont preach to me i will report you if you do
2007-03-05 15:00:11 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i dont have a problem with his religion if he wants to go to church and read the bible fine just dont try to shove it down my throat is my attitude but how can i get him to accept me for me and stop trying to change me?
2007-03-05 15:10:47 · update #1
Are you planning on having kids? Because as far as the relationship between you two goes, I don't know how detrimental this disagreement will be; it may very well not be a problem. But if you're going to have kids, then you two better get something sorted, because if they see such contrasting values from their two role models, then it will not be good for them. Work it out between yourselves...
And to the people saying "he will try to convert you" - oh come on! You don't know her guy, and only she does. He believes in God, and she believes in the absence of God - what makes you think she won't be the one doing the converting? I'm not saying you will be, but the answerers don't know you or your boyfriend. only you do...
Hope that helps!
2007-03-05 15:14:12 · answer #1 · answered by Hi, how are ya? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You realy have to look at things from his perspective. He has an earnist belief that he should not be in a marriage situation with someone that is not a Christian just as you believe that there is not a God. For you to try to get him to marry you (or continue on in the relationship, whichever might be the case) anyway is no different then him trying to get you to become a Christian.
Now it was wrong of him to get into a relationship leading to marriage with him knowing this, but perhaps he thought (thinks) that you would change your beliefs before that (some of us are that nieve) or it is new belief. I simply don't know, so I will not pass judgement on him. But if he uses this to try to press you into becomeing a Christian, that is wrong.
Also, think about the practicle aspects of your marriage (if you continued in the relationship and got married). There are many issues that could cause problems. Money for example. Most Christians feel lead to give money to their church (often 10% of their income). Would this be alright with you? And what if you had kids? Would they be raised according in Christian beliefs or not? Could the two of you agree on this?
As far as I see, there is little chance for what you either of you desire in this, and perhaps it is for the best.
2007-03-05 16:02:07 · answer #2 · answered by BoranJarami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I won't preach to you, but I'd love to have a chance to talk to him.
I think what he did was wrong. (I am a Christian BTW) It's wrong to get involved with someone and then after there is an emotional tie spring an issue that's a part of you but you kept hidden before. It would be like suddenly announcing "Did I mention I used to be a woman?" or "By the way, I have incurable herpes."
I am not really equating being a Christian with changing sexes or with venereal diseases, but he should not have done this. As a Christian, and a counselor of young unmarried men, here is what I tell them: God says not to be unequally yoked - ignore that advice and you've just screwed yourself. Make of yourself a Godly man first and foremost. Then, and only then can God direct you to a wife to be equally yoked with.
He used you. As many Christian guys do use girls who are not Christian. To guys like this, girls who are not Christian are "more fun" on dates. They won't tell the pastor. They don't criticize you for praying one time when they're together and then trying to fondle them later.
Dump him. He's neither mature in his Christianity nor in his honesty with you.
2007-03-05 15:16:00 · answer #3 · answered by teran_realtor 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will never work if its a major part of his life. He will always try and convert you. Plus the biggest fights you can get into while in a relationship have to do with Religion, Money and Politics.
By taking up with a guy thats strongly opposite your belief in one of those areas, you virtually guarantee constant problems. Plus if you ever have kids, he's going to freak if he cant send em to church.
2007-03-05 15:13:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, no preaching. I don't want to get reported.
Just a word to the others reading this. Agnostics or atheists and believers rarely get along married. This is just a bad match from the beginning.
2007-03-05 15:04:53 · answer #5 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him the true: that u don't believe in god and never will, but I doesn't matter if he pray at home, and that u can go with him to the church to make him company.
2007-03-05 15:11:05 · answer #6 · answered by nevivanova 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GOOD FOR HIM!!
SOUNDS LIKE A VERY SMART GUY!!
I guess you have a choice to make. But, If you just play along to keep him, it will never work. Jesus died on the cross and paid for your sins and one day, you WILL believe it rather you want to or not. I hope its not too late.
and by the way, if you report me, oooooooooh well.....
2007-03-05 15:11:47 · answer #7 · answered by me 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2007-03-05 15:04:07 · answer #8 · answered by PROUD TO BE A LIBERAL TEEN! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋