Is it ok that I feel bad because my parents bought me a car?

Question

My parents bought me a beautiful 2005 Mustang (my dream car for the past 2 years) and my boyfriend is mad at them. I'm a university student and my money comes from my parents (although I'll be working all summer). My boyfriends works. He says I'm too spoiled and that they should have bought themselves a car or lent us the money for a house. He also says if they had to buy me a car it should have been an old beater because I'm just going to crash it. He says I don't need a car because he drives me places (we live together).


I always feel guilty when I get something cool and don't really like to tell people about it, but this time is pretty big.

Thanks everyone, it must sound really weird but it's been I've felt this way my whole life and it's been hard for me. I mean, my parents aren't super rich, more like average, but I grew up in a really poor small town. In school some people wouldn't even talk to me without making faces'and I know they called me spoiled behind my back all the time because they did it to the other girl who's parents took her to Hawiii. I always behaved myself and get good grades though. Plus my dad wanted me to have a car so I could drive home and visit him ;)

Answer 1

Don't feel bad just because you have parents who love and care about you. YOU ARE NOT SPOILED!

To me, a spoiled person is someone who is bratty, immature, and who thinks he/she is entitled to everything and who doesn't even work hard at all. You seem to be someone who at least has goals and who shows it by even being in University (not just some easy-to-get-into Junior college although places like that are good, too) and planning to be working during the summer. This is from SOMEONE WHO KNOWS. Don't let anyone who is jealous of you get you down!!! If you were a horrible person who didn't want to go to college and who mistreated people and who committed crimes I'm a bit sure that your parents wouldn't have given you a car.

Your boyfriend seems to have succeeded in making you FEEL GUILTY for something you DIDN'T DO WRONG. I mean, you didn't cheat on him (at least from what everyone has read), you haven't done anything wrong, and not only that, because of your situation, YOU FEEL UNGRATEFUL. BE THANKFUL for your car and what you have- who knows, you might even deserve a more understand boyfriend!

Answer 2

Your boyfriend is right. You are spoiled. BUT - if your parents really can afford these kinds of gifts, and enjoy giving, then, by all means, accept the gift(s) and make sure to appreciate them - don't ever take the gifts or your parents for granted. Let them know that you appreciate both the gifts and them wanting to give you the very best.

You might feel better about yourself if you had a small job on the side - it might be good for you to make some cash yourself and know that you too can work and go to school and handle responsibility.

Finally - you might be better off without this boyfriend of yours. In your little ditty, you have explained that he says you're too spoiled, that you don't deserve nice things, because you only ruin them, and that you don't need to be able to go anywhere on your own - he can take you and maintain full control over where you are with and with whom at all times... Combined with the fact that he thinks your parents should lend THE TWO OF YOU money for a house, makes me think that he is not only a controlling, abusive SOB, but a golddigger as well. Lose him, honey, your man is there to support you and love you for who you are, NOT to put you down and take advantage of your parents' money!! Good luck!
-c

Answer 3

try to feel fortunate that you have rich parents that can spoil you. just don't let your parent's wealth rub off on you. hope you can still be humble and appreciative of the value of a dollar.

if you're just a college student, then the concept of buying a house with your boyfriend seems a bit premature.. i'd wait until you know your relationship is going to be long-term before you get into mixed marrital assets of sort.

having a car can make life so much more convienient.. take advantage of having it. if you feel guilty about being rich, then park that guilt until you get older in life, then when you are well established, get involved in charity work where you can give back your time and money to those who are less fortunate, and that should make you feel better..

Answer 4

i know what you mean honey, i always have trouble accepting gifts. ive had to pay for anything i wanted since i was about 15 just because my parents wanted to get me used to life. if your parents were nice enough to buy you a car, then thats fantastic. i would question your boyfriend, he sounds more jelous than mad. if anything he should embrace it because now if his car decides to up and die, you have a back up, and he doesnt have to do all the driving. it isnt very nice of him to say you are spoiled, because if you really were spoiled, you wouldnt feel guilty. and you are gonna be working all summer, a truely spoiled person wouldnt dream of working, they would just go up to their parents and ask for cash.

Answer 5

I would't feel badly one bit. Sounds like jealousy to me. When I got my first apartment, my parents gave me the money to furnish it brand new, and my then boyfriend was so jealous, he wouldn't even come over to see it after it was finished for two weeks. I was spoiled, but not a brat. I worked very hard in school and had just finished my graduate degree, and never really gave my parents much trouble. My parents had the money, and they felt I earned it, and I don't think I should have apologized for what they could do for me versus what his parents couldn' t do for him.

Answer 6

It sounds like you need a new boyfriend. He's very opinionated, and you really love this guy? Your parents can buy you anything they want--and he doesn't have anything to say about it. He doesn't sound as if he has much fath in your driving ability. I would think about making a change.

Answer 7

properly, your father and mom kinda spoiled you fantastically because they bought you a variety spankin' new vehicle quite of like an previous Civic like maximum of different scholars. besides, it truly is effective in case you experience undesirable, yet you are able to feel free that your father and mom love you and take care of you to boot

Answer 8

Not your boyfriends call.
Your parents were generous in gifting you wih the car. Accept it graciously, thank them and enjoy the car.
Sorry your boyfriend is so jealous/resentful of the fact you got a car, but.......

Answer 9

Don't listen to your bf...! He is just jealous that he couldn't get such a nice car. You deserve it...and what are parents for? *wink* Ignore him! You shouldn't be feeling bad and let your parents know u love them and get them good gifts. Why would he want something for the both of u--ur parents know u wanted this and he knew u would get it and wanted something nice (such as a house) for the both of you's.

Answer 10

It's good that you feel guilty about your parents buying you a car. It means you APPRECIATE it. What's NOT good is your boyfriend's jealousy over it. It seems that he is making too much of a big deal over something that you couldn't control.