When I get really angry I...?

Question

Recently I have been under a lot of stress and preasure and I am just really grumpy. So I am recently getting really angry about little things. I don't want to break down crying (unless it is in private in my room or something), which I always do even if it isnt that big of an issue. So instead, I have been casing mild pain to myself. Like if I get really mad at someone and I don't want to lose it and scream, I gently bite down on my tongue. It doesn't severaly hurt, it doesn't come close to bleeding, it just lets me vent a bit. Sometimes I bite my tongue, other times I dig my fingernail into my other fingers. There aren't any scars or anything, and I think it helps me a lot. Is this bad?

Answer 1

Everything huge starts somewhere little, I guess.

Answer 2

Self injury is a coping mechanism and it is not at all appropriate under any circumstances. It doesn't matter how few scars there are, the problem is, you have stress and you are under pressure and you need to deal with your problem, not hurt yourself to keep from harming others. It seems, from your posting, that what ever you are going through is causing you tremendous anxiety. Stress adds to anxiety, kind of like pouring gasoline on a fire adds to the flames. Fear is the underlying emotion in cases of uncontrollable anger so, you must sit down and ask yourself what it is you are afraid of. Why are you feeling threatened? What makes you feel that things are so out of control? Make a plan of action to restore some equilibrium to your life. If your finances are overwhelming you, go to a debt manager and make a plan to become debt free. If your job is causing you stress, find a new job and leave the old one behind. Remember you are your most precious resource and make a plan that will restore order to your life and make things more bearable for you. It isn't wrong at all to care for yourself and put your needs first. If you do that, you will find peace and leave your anger behind.

Answer 3

I'm not a self-mutilater, but it sounds like your on the road to that. No anger is a symptom of depression, especially if you cry when your alone even when the issue isn't a big one. You definately should see a pshyciatrist to talk about this anger. I had a friend who would black out when she had anger. She put me in a headlock and choked me till I almost passed out because I was teasing with her telling her I was gonna tell a boy that she liked him. She still doesn't remember it to this day, and now she's on topamax for anger. But if not that maybe an anti-depresent. hurting yourself is not a healthy way to coap, and my concern is its not serious enough to bleed or scar right now, but will it later. And then what do you do when you can't stop.

Answer 4

I used to get angry about little things,I would go into a tantram (like a child), I saw a Dr. and was subscribed anti depressants these calmed me down. Hey I used to throw things at my husband whenever I felt he angered me, but the anti depressants helped. that was back in 2000. Now in 2007 I am seeing a pschotherapist and he has been very helpful indeed. Maybe seek a professional - like a counsellor or a psychotherapist to give you support. The person I see is very supportive and understanding, so it's up to you, take my advice and seek help from a Counsellor, Dr, or a psycho therapist / ologist. I am sure your anger will subside.

Answer 5

Anger can be controlled! Why so mad? Is there something you can do to change the situation? Anything? One thing you can do to make a positive step forward? To be that angry is bad enough, but to hurt yourself? Why? Wow! Hurt? Think about that word. Pain inflicted on yourself or someone else. Smile in the mirror! Want to see that ? Of course you do! You have the power within you to change any situation. Can you think of one thing to do to try to better yourself! Do it! Run with it! Do one thing for someone else that you do not expect a thank you from. Even a bright smile at a stranger can so wonders! You know, one day I met this man and I was nice to him. He said I was the first person in years to even pay attention to him! He thanked me! Smiled at ME!!!!!!!!

Answer 6

yes thats bad!! You need to find another way of venting! I go where no one else is, like in the car or empty room and scream my guts out! Then I take a deep breath and go back to what I was doing.

Answer 7

as of now its not a big deal, but things like that seem to have a snowball effect and will get worse and worse. what you need to do is find another way to vent your anger. listen to music, go punch a punching bag, talk to a friend, go for a walk, or find something that will just calm you down. it will work much more effectively. good luck!

Answer 8

Hi,that's not really healthy.It's the exact thoughts that u mentioned above that led me 2 b a cutter when I was younger.&,that is a big deal.It takes awhile 2 overcome.&,it's very difficult!Good luck 2 u.&,I wish u the best!*

Answer 9

That's how alot of young girls start out, and then the next thing you know their cutting themselves. I've heard from girls that do this that their reasoning behind it is because they can control that pain and take emotional pain away by distracting themselves. You are not alone. Get help before it gets worse.

Answer 10

Buy one of those little spongy type stress balls, they have them in the drugstores. I really used to tear them up when I was having a lot of anxiety. They're great.

Answer 11

yes, because it can lead to cutting and other forms of self mutilation. Get some help from a counselor and find healthier ways to vent.