I was abused for 10 years mentally and fiscually, I divorced him after almost seeing death, I have meet someone really great but i get scared at looks and actions that make me go back to my past expereicence with my ex. Thinking this great guy is going are is hurting me when he isnt.
2007-03-05 14:39:29 · 7 answers · asked by Moonlight 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
please! it's time to let go the past! if u still thinking about ur past...it's not fair to the great man! he loves u...and u should try to give ur trust to him! learn from the past(u should have known what is the criteria of bad people rite?)
2007-03-05 14:50:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're best bet is to be open and honest with him. Talking about your bad experience might make you feel more empowered that you got it off of your chest, and tell him how you feel. Because you don't want those repressed feelings and the anguish you went through to carry on into another relationship with a man who isn't like that. I had a bad relationship and I let my current boyfriend at the time know and I felt better because he understood and he listened what happened to me and he never hurt me. Let him be apart of your healing process and he will be sensitive to your needs and not wondering what's going on in the inside of you that might make you paranoid about your current relationship. Life is about risk: everyone must make choices with risk factors, you just have to determine if this is worth your time and dealing with the good and bad consequences. After bad relationships, there is still hope for love. So don't give up and show him your vulnerability for that might make your love grow stronger in the future.
2007-03-05 14:53:01 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. PHILlis (in training) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some counseling, women persons in abusive relationships tend to be attracted to an analogous style of guy and finally end up dropping the helpful ones and going back to the lamers. ruin the cycle and advance your self-nicely worth and comprehend you do not choose abuse or deserve it. You deserve a helpful guy. Being form does not make you susceptible. do not mess it up with an analogous or yet another jerk. sturdy success!!
2016-10-17 09:07:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing i can say is that you have to be open and honest in the begining. If there is something you think might get in the way you should be up front about it. If you dont think there is a reason to say anyhin you should not even bring it up.
2007-03-05 14:44:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you got a second chance, I know it's hard to think it's all going to go perfect you're afried it's to good to be true. Be happy and go with the flow you will see it is alot better, and when you feel scared just think of other things that make you smile.
2007-03-05 14:48:54 · answer #5 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let the past ruin your future.
It's in the past for a reason...
And don't blame this guy for the things the other guy did.
2007-03-05 14:43:33 · answer #6 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
does this guy know about your past? maybe being open with him could help you a bit. Let him know so he knows wat not to do and wat to do to make yuou better, you know. Im sorry for wat happened, and i think it is great that you got out before it was too late!
2007-03-05 14:45:17 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ ☮ ☺ ♫ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋