I just found out my aunt has cancer?

Question

She is my favourite aunt. I want to send her a card, but I dont know what to say. I feel so awkward, bc I would like to talk to her but I have never known anyone to be sick before. I feel so powerless to help.

Answer 1

just let her know that your thinking of her, and if she needs anything that you will be there. the best thing for someone is to know that they have people around that love them. there are so many things that they can do now for cancer. what she needs now is for people to be with her. it will be a hard time, but being around people she loves will make her feel so much better. i hope everything turns out well!

Answer 2

You are not entirely powerless. Tell her to Try Vitamin C therapy. A few years ago a cancer researcher came out with a paper saying that the best cancer and infection fighter as yet found was Interferon, but, at the time, it cost $15,000 a gram. The good part was that Interferon was a product of the natural breakdown of Vitamin C in your system. Shortly after that paper came out the FDA tried to make Vit C by prescription only. Guess why? The FDA says that the RDA for Vit C is 64 mg a day, just enough to prevent scurvy. Linus Pauling, who got a Nobel Prize for his work with Vit C and a second Nobel Prize for organic chemistry, said 1000 mg a day as a minimum and 2000 mg a day if you are sick. On a personal note, I was sick twice a year, for 2 weeks at a time, for 20 years, and was flat on my back for at least a week each time. To this day the doctors have no idea what the problem was. After I gave up on the doctors I tried Vit C. I took enough to keep from being sick and just below too much to get diarrhea. It followed a bell curve over 2 weeks with a peak at 40,000 mg a day – about 300,000 over the 2 weeks. I was not sick for those 2 weeks and after a couple of years of that I have not been sick since. I did not dissolve my kidneys, as some doctors said would happen. I did not get any calcium build up or stones and did not dissolve my cones or solidify my joints. Try it, but drink a lot of water – Vit C is a natural diuretic.

Answer 3

I would buy a blank card with a picture of something she likes on it, maybe a teddy bear, cute cat, little puppy, something cheery. I would write something like "Just thought of you today and wanted to let you know that. If you need anything please call me and let me know. I love you." and sign it.

It doesn't matter so much in what you say, it's just knowing that you are there and care enough to send a card.

I'm a cancer survivor and I know sometimes it is hard to express your feelings, you know your aunt is probably scared, anxious and so are you. The best thing to always do in these situations is follow your heart, say what you are feeling or thinking.

Don't stop with 1 card, keep in touch, send her a card a week to cheer her, take her some cookies, do a chore for her, give her a call just to say hi and talk about something important in your life, and just listen if she wants to talk.

people often don't realize because you feel awkward, that it doesn't matter to the sick person what you say, it is really more that you are there and around.

Answer 4

I know its a really difficult time. I have had cancer plague our family. Pick a card with nothing inside and maybe find a favorite photo of the two of you together. Inside write a light hearted happy card, tell her of some event you enjoyed together and just let her know you are thinking of her and you are only a phone call away if she needs someone to talk to. Be a support by just being there to say hi and put a smile on her face. If she doesnt want to talk about her illness talk about good times to take her mind off it - this helps more than you could every know. Search the internet for any helpful articles and information and mail it to her (or email). There is a new product in australia that is the extract of psk coriolus versicolor. Search the internet for psk coriolus versicolor and you will find more info. I wish I knew about this years ago. I now take it as a preventative measure due to cancer history in our family. I buy mine from www.psktrammune.com.au Hope this helps. Regards, Michelle

Answer 5

It's really normal to feel that you don't know what to say. So don't SAY anything. Let her talk. She probably really needs to let out all of the emotions she's surely coping with. Make sure you tell her you love her, and want to help. And then DO help. Whether it be driving her to a doctor's appointment, or picking up her dry cleaning, or cleaning her house. Love is something that can be demonstrated, not just spoken. Let your actions speak for you. And give her the opportunity, the freedom, to express how hard things are sometimes. Often, people turn away, uncomfortable, when confronted with a loved ones' pain. Let her know you'll listen. It's a huge gift. And you may become even closer than you already are.

Best wishes to her as she begins this fight. And to you, also, for caring so much. It means the world.

Answer 6

Honey I know first hand about cancer. she would love for you to be there for her when she needs you bring her a bouquet of flowers and tell her you love her and talk about all the good times you've had together.My Daughter is going through her second bout of cancer. she is very optimistic that she will get through it again. You need to be positive right along with her. Try to lift her spirits. and tell her she will be well soon. Try to get her out once in a while. if she can. I know there are periods that they are not to be with people because they have no imune system, because of the chemo, but tell her to keep up her spirits and pray for her. That will do more than you think. That is what got my daughter through it the first time. Her optimism and the prayers. She is one not to dwell on her illness, and I think that helps too. I will be praying for her also. God Bless her and you for caring so much for her. And honey she will know that is is an awkward situation for you so not to worry about that, she will probably make you feel at ease when you see her. God be with you both.

Answer 7

You didn't say what type of cancer but I'm sure she's getting the best treatment available. Send a card and tell her what you said here.......she is your favorite aunt and you love her very much and also why she is your favorite and that you are thinking of her,praying for her and that if there is anything you could do just to let you know.It means allot to people when they know they have made a differance in someones life. Good luck and keep the faith.

Answer 8

Send her a get well card or an encouragement card. Hallmark has the right card for you. Call her every week to see how's she doing. Even ask her if she's needs help with anything. Let her know that you'll always be there for her.

Answer 9

When my wife had cancer, what went a long way was people dropping in, at the hospital and at home, just to say hello.

""Hi, i was in the area and thought I'd drop by."
is explanation enough. An inexpenside gift is appreciated, , a cup of coffee from a C store, a small bottle of inexpensive cologne, is always welcome.

Take her for lunch , even if at McDonalds,

Transportation s Very appreciated. Tell her, " 4PM, I;m available, "

Of course, a lot will depend on her condition.

Just being there is a BIG help.

Keep your visits short but often.

Answer 10

Dont feel powerless. The best thing you can do is try to help her. Get some medicine. Can buy alternative natural cures for the cancer. Try looking up cesium chloride with rubidium and DMSO, oxygen drops, ip6 pills, Vitamin C (liquid kind that is placed in an iv that goes straight to your arm) and fresh aloe vera plants. With the Aloe Vera plants, you can get one at the local flower shop. Cut off the pricks. Then cut a chunk to throw into the blender with vanilla icre cream. This is extremely bitter, but its a known natural cure against cancer in my country. Its cheap too. Wonder why nobody said it ha? For cesium chloride, get the one with rubidium because rubidium helps the body absorb the cesium chloride. There is one with DMSO, which is another known cancer killer. You must eat bananas and/or potatoes after you take the cesium chloride to replenish the potassium that you have lost taking the medicine. Oxygen drops are used so that your body can take in more oxygen. Cancer cannot live at the site of oxygen. IP6 pills are just extracts of brown rice. They bind with the iron in the cancer cells. Iron is the building blocks of cancer. So without it, they wither away and die. Also, cut off all iron from your diet. You can also help take the iron out of your diet by eating brown rice instead of white rice. The brown rice binds with iron in your whole body, thus taking out any that you accidently eat or cant avoid. The vitamin C you really have to yell at the doctors to administer it. Its a known cancer killer in the medical community. But nobody knows about it because its too cheap to be called a cancer cure. If you can get them to administer it, its going to be Vitamin C 1 mmol/L and or 10 grams per 12 hours. This goes straight to your blood so it can take cancer out in a matter of hours. The vitamin C pills dont work because they have lost their ability after they were put into pills. You really have to just keep yelling to get this medicine. Um, get a doctors note from your family doctor. Then call the hospital and ask them that you want this vitamin C. Dont tell them you have cancer. Then tell them to fax the letter over, or send it to you. With this, go to the hospital and tell them you want vitamin C so that your mom can get rid of her colds. She has a weak immune system, etc etc. All of these will cost you alot less then the 4 grand you need for chemo therapy. Chemo is bad though because your mom can die right away from it. And also, even if she does beat the cancer, her body is completely deteriorated. So, have all of these sent to you next day and you should be fine. Um, the aloe vera alone can kill everything, but sometimes its not enough because the cancer is too large. So, take these in combinations. Take the aloe vera right away because its available in the flower shops. Good luck.