i am soo depressed and i dont want to lean on anyone because it will make me weaker. i need to be independant. and its hard to be totally independant. and the ppl i want to lean on arent really eva there. what should i do? i need to talk!
2007-03-05 14:34:24 · 5 answers · asked by Miss Casey 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
First -- and this is important -- it NEVER makes you weaker to lean on your family and friends, to depend on others for support. It is almost the very definition of humanity to need support from each other. I understand what you mean about the people you "want to lean on [aren't even] there." Some of my peeps seem unable to understand me, too.
If you have the resources available -- insurance or an employee well-care program or through your university -- please talk to a professional counselor. The benefits of speaking to an objective, well-trained, unbiased outsider are amazing.
I have been down lately, myself, so I very genuinely sympathize with you. It is hard to lift yourself out of it. You know, Tom Cruise wasn't totally insane when he suggested exercise to battle depression. There is plenty of research to support that. And call somebody -- any old friend. You don't have to tell them your feeling down. They need never know. Just talking to someone -- other than yourself -- will distract and comfort you. The thing is to silence your inner critic and to distract yourself with anything until you genuinely feel better.
I'm on your side. Best of everything to you.
2007-03-05 14:56:52 · answer #1 · answered by talkingofmichelangelo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be time for a third party perspective. You know, someone that can give you some objectivity. If you were to talk to a friend, they'd be too involved in your life to be able give you objective advice anyhow. Why not see a psychologist or a counsellor. Anyone that isn't involved in your life and who you deem fit will get things started.
And, know that this WON'T make you weaker. It can only make you feel better. Think about it. It actually makes you stronger. It says: "I know what I want and I'll do what I need to get there". And, in your case, you want to be happy and you know what you need (an objective ear to help you sort things) and will do what you need to get there (you make an appointment).
Good luck. Go and get happy girl!! Make an appointment with your family doc or a counsellor or a psychologist. Make the first step and the others will be easier. This is the hardest one. From then on, things CAN only get better.
BTW: We ALL need this kind of help at some point in life. If people tell you otherwise, they're lying or not really living!!
2007-03-05 22:50:31 · answer #2 · answered by K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Independent doesn't mean suffering by yourself- independent also means knowing when to ask for help. If you need some help, go get it so you don't spiral out of control with your depression before it's too late to get the help you need. There is nothing wrong with needing people from time to time to lean on, talk to, or offer guidance in times of struggle. Call up a counselor and talk to them if you have guilt about laying your burdens on your friends- or even a hotline # - they are always available to listen and offer encouragement or resources. There's no reason to be alone in your sadness and depression. Nobody makes it through life alone, we all need people to help us along the way. Good luck to you.
2007-03-05 22:57:01 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The other posters have given you excellent advice. But I would like to suggest something else. Are you aware of FREE 24 hour Distress Centre and Crisis phone services? They are listed on the inside cover of your phone book. If you are feeling depressed and are not sure what to do next, call one the above lines and talk with a counsellor. They have trained volunteers who can help you. Good Luck.
2007-03-05 23:08:36 · answer #4 · answered by spiritwise333 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a doctor, who will diagnose the extent of your illness, and may prescribe medication and counselling, but because medication can take some time to be effective, practice daily for 20 mins. and whenever you feel the need, the meditation technique at http://www.healthyplace.com/communities/ See http://beattheblues.info/? and www.depression.com/- and the blogs of Shan Eris on "tackling depression" at MySpace in www.myspace.com Online counselling is available (free) at http://www.counselingnet.com/main.html
2007-03-05 23:49:53 · answer #5 · answered by CLICKHEREx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋