To summarize:
This is the first time I've had feelings for any girl in several years. We started out meeting in class. At the time I viewed her as any of my other guy friends. Several weeks ago, things changed and I asked her out to get some drinks/dinner. She accepted, we had an awesome time together, but admitted she did feel awkward and needed some time to get used to it. Understandable.
Here's the catch: She has a boyfriend of a few months. When I asked her out things had been rough between those two. They broke up for a few days but got back together 2 nights ago.
In the midst of the fighting, her and I had a long talk and agreed to date each other in a little over a week; she wanted time off from everyone. But now her and the ex are back together, is it even worth it if she has a boyfriend?
What should I do? What are signs that i should stop/continue pursuing her
2007-03-05 14:31:21 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For the record - I don't mean to sound cocky - I do know when I screwed up and when I don't. In this case, it's the situation which is causing this; not me as a person or what I did.
I also know when I've been "friendzoned" (I think all guys, at one point in their lives, have experienced this) and well.....in this case, there is a large gray area so I don't know
i don't know if this matters or not, but she has heard of my seemingly promiscuous past history....she's probably somewhat skeptical of me and my intentions as a result
2007-03-05 14:49:20 · update #1
she sounds confused and unsure of her feelings. for now back off if it is ment to happen it will
2007-03-05 14:35:04 · answer #1 · answered by resigned 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is possible that two can go for one in particular. Instead of your making the initiatives, you must also see whether she is also prepared to accept. The first trial will be to keep away from her for couple of days. If she misses you and shows that she missed you when you see again, then pursue further. Give her company as much as possible. Try to understand her needs, her likes and also her dislikes. If you can match a personality of her choice, you will win. Her other boyfriend must be of " don't care" nature. that is the reason she had even given you an opportunity. Take advantage of it and use it for your benefit.
Winning a love is a necessity sometimes, but it is an art too. Use the skills, you can win
2007-03-05 14:40:46 · answer #2 · answered by atom45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The girl had a chance to date you when she broke up with her ex. She however choose him again. That should be a huge sign that shes not interested. I hate to say it but this girl never had any intention of having a relationship with you. You were done before things even started. Asking out a girl who already has a boyfriend never works even if she says yes. Just be friends and have her set you up with one of her single girlfriends. It will work out better for you.
2007-03-05 14:40:16 · answer #3 · answered by ski025025 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get the impression that her other relationship is not very stable. Back off, and play it cool. Be polite when you see her, but don't ask about the bf. Show a little interest, be clever and funny, but do not act like you are pursuing her. By all means, continue to play the field. It is possible that she may see you with other women, get jealous and want to come after you!
2007-03-05 14:46:19 · answer #4 · answered by Joe Wanderer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Odin sorry to say but I suspect that you are waisting your time on this girl. You may have been just a distraction at the time she was breaking up. You sound like a nice guy stay friends with the girl you never know what might come of it but for now just stay in the background.
good luck!
2007-03-05 14:39:19 · answer #5 · answered by Mazzie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Easy my friend shes not stable person or she doesnt know what she wants yet my opinion is stop and look somewhere els you will be the one who will suffer at the long run. and remember if you happend to be the reason for their future brake up just remember what comes around goes around if dont believe it just try it
2007-03-05 14:39:23 · answer #6 · answered by richson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, if she has a boyfriend, im sorry, but just let it go its natural course without adding any unnecessary stress to her life and relationship. If, by doing this, it ends, THEN when she feels ready, go ahead and try. but not now. she's distracted, her heart isn't in it, and you aren't going to be happy with the results.
2007-03-05 14:37:58 · answer #7 · answered by satirev 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she wants u to be her bestfriend at any situation! and that date thing...no offense...but u are the object of runaway to her! but i know exactly that she is madly fall in love with his boyfriend! my advice, let her go! if u keep pursuing her, the only u get is her body not her SOUL!!!...u might have the chance to make her fall in luv with u...but could u stand up for a long time?...
2007-03-05 14:41:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop now do i need to explain the obvious you are intelligent to know why take a look at the situation from the outside now back off
2007-03-05 14:34:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Right now I don't think you should continue to pursue her. She might eventually break up with him for good. If she does then there's your chance but don't wait up for her and let her know your not gonna wait around.
2007-03-05 14:36:19 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋