My ex Andy is my 1st true love, and its been 3 months since we broke up!!! Well, of course he's moved on quicker than me, and I have already gotten another bf, his name was Peter, but I broke up with Peter cuz I decided I wanted to be alone for a while. Well now Andy has found himself a girl, and from what I've heard, she is prettier than me, and he finds her more interesting and he says shes "perfect". I looked at Andy like I was going to cry, and I feel like I am, and I dont know how to let him be happy without me feeling jelous and hurt! If Andy and I are gonna continue being friends, I dont want this other girl getting in the way of it, and I dont want me to get in the way of him and his new girl. HELP!
2007-03-05 14:18:21 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ah - there's the key. You're still trying to be "friends" with an ex, as if you could shut off all your emotions like a light switch.
Once you take a relationship from "just friends" to "boyfriend", it is extremely difficult - if not downright impossible - to make the transition back to "just friends" if things don't work out.
For your own peace of mind - let Andy go for good. You don't have to be enemies, but you don't have to hang around for every Tonya, Debbie, or Jane that comes into his life. You can't change it, so why put yourself through the agony?
Learn the lessons and move on.
I do commend you for having the wisdom to break it off with the transitional guy (Peter). Most people don't have that kind of self-confidence and security to move on from a transitional relationship so quickly. Applaud yourself for that! Now, keep on being your own best friend and let Andy's ship just sail on by!
(ps - I don't know who is telling you the new gf is "prettier" than you, but whoever it is - is NOT your friend! Lose them too....)
2007-03-05 14:26:34 · answer #1 · answered by CassandraM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of those things you can't help. Either try to distance yourself from him, or resolve to be friends with him no matter what.
It sounds like you still love him, though, so I would try distancing, just so you can let go of him, and move on. I know he's important to you, but you can always try to be friends with him later.
Sorry if this isn't much help, and good luck.
-AOS
2007-03-05 14:22:53 · answer #2 · answered by Atrophy OS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its going to take some time..but you'll get over it! Pretty soon it will be like nothing happend, your just friends! I dated this guy for awhile...we broke up....I got married...he wanted me back... I got divorced...he got married! LOL We are still good friends but when he first started bringing his new girl around, things were kind of akward. But it all worked out. I talk to her just as much as I talk to him! It gets easier, just give it time!
2007-03-05 14:25:44 · answer #3 · answered by tadreams95 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and move on.
2007-03-05 14:21:24 · answer #4 · answered by Soccer Lover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
welll u better catch out with me...............
2007-03-05 14:36:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋