I know that life is also somehow better; but still, I feel so guilty for wishing that I never had her. I also wish that she would be 18 and gone already. She sticks to me like glue. The moment she gets home, its "Im hungry, Im thirsty, play with me, Im hungry again, play with me again, yak yak yak." I'm losing it. Help.
2007-03-05 14:02:31 · 28 answers · asked by Cas 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
What you have said is very sad (imagine how your daughter would feel if she knew you feel this way!), but feeling suffocated is a very real and difficult situation to be in.
Try acting excited to see her too. When she gets home, be the first to say "Let's play! Do you want me to help you with your homework? I'd love to!" etc. Do little things to let her know you care: write "I love you" or a little funny joke on her lunch box napkin (my mom used to do that when I was a little tyke and I absolutely loved it!). Surprise her with her favorite breakfast food on Saturday morning. Set aside a special mother-daughter time where you take her to the park, the zoo, or the local science/discovery center. Color with her and act like it's the best thing you've done all day. Go for a walk around the block and call it something special "Our Time" "Wonderful Walks"... something happy like that.
Perhaps she is sensing this resentment and clinging to you even more to make up for it. If she starts to feel more secure in your love for her, she won't have to be so clingy.
Don't let the guilt you feel for your feelings of suffocation (which, as I said initially, are valid realistic feelings) get in the way of showing her that you love her.
P.S. Some other people were very rude to you in their answers, and I hope that you will be able to ignore their mean-spirited responses. I hope YA will deal with those answers appropriately. Meanwhile, you are doing the right thing to seek a solution to your problem, which those people did not acknowledge. Don't let their rude, condemning epithets get you down. You have enough to deal with right now without cold-hearted people slamming you.
2007-03-05 14:19:43 · answer #1 · answered by xgravity23 3 · 7⤊ 0⤋
I have two kids a boy and a girl. They are only 1 and 2. I get stressed out at times, but I can take a step back, and breath. My kids are my world. If I didn't have them, I don't know what I would do. Both my kids were not planed, but they are here. They did not ask to be put on this earth.
You really need to get some help. He is your DAUGHTER. A child is so precious. Think how your life has changed for the good with her in your life. Think of all the times she made you smile,don't think of all the times she makes you upset or mad. It does neither one of you any good.
I never once wished I never had my kids. I would be lost with out them here.
I think you need to talk to someone before you hurt your daughter, and then it would be to late.
2007-03-05 14:44:00 · answer #2 · answered by Rebecca B 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'LL TAKE HER!!!! I have an 8 yr old Daughter that I'm SO thankful for, and she would LOVE to have a Sister. I also have a 20 yr old and a 26 yr old so beleive me when I say these are the best years of your life and they will be gone in a SECOND!
When you are old and have the house all to yourself you will wish you had that little girl "sticking to you like glue" Cause you reap what you sew and by the time she's older YOU will be driving HER nuts! and trust me...she WON'T be sticking to you anymore.
Don't spend time beating yourself up, just hug that baby before it's too late
2007-03-05 14:40:45 · answer #3 · answered by TriciaC 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hi, well you sound a little frustrated. I know it's hard being a parent, I have a 12 year old with autism and a 13 year old with a brain injury and a cyst in his brain. I get frustrated at times but they were a gift from God to me, I have never ever thought that I wish I never had them, in fact that thought has never crossed my mind. You should just try and get a babysitter more often, it sounds like you need to get out and just have some space that's all. Just try and keep your head up and you should really appreciate your daughter, life's too short and nothing lasts forever.
Take care.
2007-03-05 14:46:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think about that sometimes to,my daughter is seven and sometimes she wears me right down especially after a long day at work.But it just takes one second to realize that if i didn't have her i would be so lost and my life would be so different without her.I thank god for giving the opportunity to be a parent.The reward is having someones unconditional love...forever,thats hard to come by these days.I tell my daughter that dad needs quiet time and ill go off and read somewhere,not so much for me but for her to so i don't snap at her.So dont feel guilty I'm sure that you are having normal feelings, hang in there
2007-03-05 14:26:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are unbelievable!!!! Time to be a grownup! She didn't ask for this life, you gave it to her, and you have to do all that is right by her. She is not doing anything any other kid doesn't do. Believe it or not she idolizes you. She wants to be with you constantly because she loves you. You are her comfort and security. Get some help, and more than just yahoo questions. Someday you'll realize what a precious gift you have been given and it will be too late she'll want nothing to do with you. There is nothing more perfect and honest than the love from a child and you sound like you need it! I hope you come to your senses and realize what you have.
2007-03-05 15:45:33 · answer #6 · answered by anncinn 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't know what it is like to have children because I don't ave any. However my sister has two, and she feels the same way. Is there a father that can take them for awhile? If there is let him have them for a time why you take some time for yourself. Ask grandparents, other family, or even some friends to help you a little. Just don't give up on her, love her and I can guarantee that she will love you back.
2007-03-05 14:10:42 · answer #7 · answered by eeyore 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like postpartum depression 9 years late. That little girl is the most precious thing you will ever encounter. Take every opportunity to enjoy her. Yes, it is hard to be a mother, and sometimes you just wish you could not be responsible all the time...every one feels that way. You need a good support system, family, friends, whoever you have in your path.
2007-03-05 14:14:16 · answer #8 · answered by luberfish 1 · 6⤊ 0⤋
First I would seek help for your depression. Also explain to you child that you need mommy time. Set aside 1 hour a day where she plays with her toys or colors or watches a video. Set her up with a snack and a drink tell her you will be in your room and that you are taking mommy time. If she needs you for an EMERGENCY to come get you and explain what an emergency might be.
2007-03-05 15:02:48 · answer #9 · answered by lostcause4luv 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what to say to you. Send your daughter to my house. I'll adopt her and take care of her without complaint. You have a wonderful gift and are too selfish to see it. I wish I had a little girl to play with my son and to want to spend so much time with me. There's something wrong with you. You need help.
I just looked at the questions you've asked previously. You just asked about going on vaca with your bf. Is your daughter getting in the way of your good time?
OR
are you the man you said you were who has already gotten a DNA test done and your ex is after you for child support???????
2007-03-05 14:32:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋