I live with my baby daddy's mom and dad and they think that its bad to take baths with my son. He is Only 18months.
I could see it being bad if One I was getting something out of taking a bath with my son. But I dont so I Dont thinks its bad at all.
My mom use to take baths with me and my brother. She stoped taking bath with us when we were like 2 1/2 to 3 years old.
I have told my boyfriends mom and dad that I dont think its bad because I dont get anything out of it and they still think it bad.
Does anyone know what I should say or do about this or should I not worry about what they think??
2007-03-05 14:00:22 · 28 answers · asked by Loveable_Lilly _2007 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
How is it bad?
Your son isn't going to notice that you're naked until he realizes there is a difference.
If you want to bathe with your son, do it. Personally I bathe with my son (17 months) and I love it. It's a great way to end the day and have fun while bonding.
2007-03-05 14:03:27 · answer #1 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it's bad at all. What i think is bad is other people teaching children that their bodies are something bad or something to be ashamed of. In public one should cover up but at home and with your young family it should not be an issue so long as you aren't being sexual. It is the human body and yes men and women are different and you won't be able to hide that fact for long. I shower with the door open then walk around my room naked while i brush my hair and get dressed my kids come in and out of my room if the wish, my son is 5 and my daughter 3. Sometimes i even walk down to the basement to grab my favorite jeans out of the dryer. I don't usually sit in the bath with them but i have before when they were babies. I find it much more relaxing to take a bath alone when i can lay down and close my eyes. Sometimes i shower with either my son or daughter in order to speed up our cleaning up time. My husband also shower with my daughter once in a while. We ask them what they want shower or bath. They choose. My kids are older and i let them wash themselves with the soap but i still wash their hair. Your son is young and still needs help and lots of supervision. Is this wrong, no? What is wrong is trying to turn natural normal thing into some sort of perversion.
2007-03-06 00:06:12 · answer #2 · answered by noone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think taking a bath with your baby is a beautiful thing. I think as long as your both comfortable you should do what makes you happy.
I'm curious to know why the parents think it's so bad???
I take a bath with my son all the time. I think he feels secure with me there with him. ( he'll be 1 in a couple of mos.) Plus it's the only way he lets me wash he's hair!
2007-03-05 22:12:16 · answer #3 · answered by Doll D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't remember at what age I stopped, but when my son was really young either myself or my husband would get in the tub to bathe our son. At times one would be in the tub holding him to "swim" and the other would be sitting at the side of the tub either washing him or getting the towel ready. Gabe was too big for his baby tub at about 4 weeks old and to put him in the tub by himself we couldn't put enough water in the tub to keep him warm long enough to have a good bath. He is 28 1/2 months old now and from time to time I still get in the tub with him to play in the water, this way he gets more water to play in but I still can make sure that he doesn't stand up in the tub and most of the time I can get him cleaner being in the tub than kneeling at the side of the tub. My situation is a little different than just weather I want to bathe with him or not, I find it painful to lean over the side of the tub to bathe him, it gives me really painful muscle cramps most of the time.
My mom used to bathe myself and my sister together until I was about 5 or 6 and she was about 3 or 4, somewhere around there. Someone snapped a picture of us one time and we were around those ages, probably no older than that though.
There is nothing wrong with bathing with your child. It is a form of bonding.
2007-03-05 22:11:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Children at this age have NO CONCEPT of SEX. All they know is that you love them and you treat them with love and attention. There is nothing wrong with taking a bath with your baby. Its a great bonding and high quality time as long as you are careful that nothing happens such as falls etc.
Your mom was right, probably around the age of 21/2 years its time to tell the child that he or she is getting too old to bath with mommy. By this time they are starting to ask questions. You should still be at the tubside when they are bathing.
I would like to suggest though that if you do not wish to be subjected to judgement and interference............you should get a place of your own. If it is their home and this is distressing them you certainly shouldn't argue with them about it.
2007-03-05 22:09:00 · answer #5 · answered by Suean 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't see a problem. Personally, when I want to take a bath with my 2 year old I put on my bikini (its just me, Im weird that way) because he just likes to play in the tub and I get in with him once in a while (not to bathe). But he loves baths with my husband and I don't see anything wrong with it. Its very rare, but the baby enjoys it and like everyone else said, it is a bonding thing and it is cute. Who cares what anyone else thinks.
2007-03-05 22:51:41 · answer #6 · answered by Tink 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As a mother of two little girls (2 and 4 mths), I don't see any problem with you taking a bath with your son. I often have to bathe with one of my daughters, in order to get a bath or shower for myself...lol.Other than the person who sd you should stop playing house, or whatever I agree with everyone else's answers.
Children learn best by what you teach them....seeing how you bathe yourself is a great example for them. Once they start to point out differences in your bodies though might be a good time to stop. My husband does not feel comfortable bathing with our girls, which is fine since I do.
Everyone is going to have their own opinion...and I think that since you are living with his parents you need to have enough respect for them to sit down and discuss the issue calmly and explain your position. If they are unwilling to give on the issue, then maybe it is time to consider another living situation. It comes right down to one fact: he is your child....raise him as you see fit.
2007-03-06 02:15:04 · answer #7 · answered by nanabon 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no it's not bad. i took baths with my kids until they were probably 2. not every bath or all the time but it's fun for the baby and fun and relaxing for you. There's nothing dirty about it and it's kind of icky that they'd think it was bad. Even know I will still bring my 6 yr old daughter in the shower with me - especially after a day at the beach! Quick and easy way to wash all that beach sand off!
Relax - you're doing fine!
2007-03-05 22:05:13 · answer #8 · answered by Suzanne 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes taking a bath with my son (16months) is the only way I can get a shower!! He's still young enough to just play and enjoy the water and not be inquisitive about mybody or his. Once that happens he'll have to either bath with his father or alone.
To clarify he does bath alone 96% of the time but like I said sometimes its my only option to just put him in with me. Its much safer than leaving him run around the house byhimself to get hurt!
2007-03-05 22:04:39 · answer #9 · answered by mewiegele 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
no i don't think it is bad it is an easy way to keep an eye on the baby cause a child can drown in less than an inch of water but u should stop when he gets a lil older when he can see a difference in parts around 2 or 3
2007-03-05 22:05:55 · answer #10 · answered by bebe_08_02 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋