okay so i'm a little late with my period and i think i might be pregnant. my boyfriend and i are questioning to keep the baby or not, but then again i'm only 14 and i know for a fact my parents will not be happy. so do i keep the baby (i know i shouldn't cause i'm so young) or not (but then i don't want to kill my own child.) what do i do?
2007-03-05 13:49:14 · 29 answers · asked by lost teen? 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Do you know how long the waiting lists are for adoption? There are so many parents out there that have been waiting for years to adopt a child because they cannot have one of their own. If you are pregnant or if you happen to be in this situation ever in the future, give adoption a chance. It will change the lives of a childless couple.
2007-03-05 13:54:11 · answer #1 · answered by Ann 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, US ADOPTIVE PARENTS and agencies DO NOT call it giving a child up. We try to get people to understand that it is placing your child for adoption. You are not giving your child away, you are placing your child with 2 loving parents that will shower the child with love and affection and anything else that child needs.
The first thing you need to do is find out if you are pregnant. If you are then you need to tell your parents and his. You all need to come up with a conclusion to this and I HOPE AND PRAY that it is not abortion. There are so many of us that can't give birth to children that are looking to adopt a child. In the United States there are so many couples that want to adopt a baby and there just aren't that many babies available. It seems a lot of young girls are deciding to raise the child themselves. I have seen firsthand some of the terrible consequences of that decision but of course there are also cases where it has worked out but that is when the grandparents are TOTALLY involved in the raising of the baby. You may want to talk to a local agency to see what your options are. They don't push you one way or the other. They just help you to understand ALL of the options you have.
I wish you and your boyfriend luck in whatever you decide to do.
2007-03-07 07:58:14 · answer #2 · answered by tammeert 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is responsible for his/her own action. In this case, you have made a baby (like it or not) so you must take responsible toward this baby.
If your pregnancy doesn't threathening your live (medically speaking), then you have no reason for abortion (which would make you a murderer). This baby (like it or not) is a gift from god and also a training for testing your sense of responsibility, so in the future you will not do something irresponsible as having free sex at a very young age (especially if it was done just for having fun with your boyfriend) and then being terrified of the outcome like questioning whether you're going to keep the baby or not.
Human lives are not for playing. Your duty as well as your gift right now is to give birth to the baby, and raise him/her to become a good person that will not take the same path as you have taken.
2007-03-05 14:43:15 · answer #3 · answered by sejati 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open adoption is a great option for you being so young, yet caring. But you really should think about this for a while and talk it over with your boyfriend, parents, and boyfriends parents. If you go to church you should also consider consulting you pastor as well. Bringing a child into this world is a beautiful thing. If you choose to give your baby up for adoption, don't EVER feel that you are a bad mother. Adoption is a VERY respectable thing. I hope it all works out for you sweetie.
2007-03-05 14:23:51 · answer #4 · answered by twisteddistance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be a total wreck right now....no one can give you the answer you are looking for but you.. That is a decision that you should make along with your parents and your boyfriend parents. You never know things may turn out for the best . 1st find out if your actually pregnant (why stress if your not pregnant) if your not then you need to run and get on birth control and if you are pregnant and you don't feel comfortable speaking you your parents by yourself go to a family friend or someone else your parents respect and let that person give you some support to help discuss your situation with your parents. Remember we all make mistakes and you will get through this . ( dont forget prayer works also)
2007-03-05 14:01:52 · answer #5 · answered by nikki B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first, buy a pregnancy test to make sure you really are pregnant. Then if you are, keep the baby. If you can't take care of it put it up for adoption to give it a chance of a better life, but if you want to keep it, you would definitely need your parents help raising it because they are hard work and tire you out fast. If you didn't use protection, I would suggest you do, or maybe go on birth control if your parents would allow it.. since you are sexually active it's a good thing to think about.
2007-03-05 13:57:41 · answer #6 · answered by Britt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First find out if you are even pregnant to begin with. Then you talk to lots of other girls who have been in your situation that are actually your age. This is a huge choice and its permant. You dont get to change your mind. My opinion is you have thebaby and give it to a couple who can not have children of their own. This way you are doing a wonderful thing and learningalot of valuable life lessons in the process. Your parents will come around with time no matter what choice you make. But always keep adoption as a big big big option. Many couples will even pay you, then you could go to college and ease some of the finacial burden off your parents. Do lots of research if you are even pregnant. buy the test then talk.
2007-03-05 14:14:34 · answer #7 · answered by mewiegele 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you get rid of your child I suggest you do adoption, not abortion. There is this thing called Open Adoption. You could see your child anytime with its new parents and you get to pick wether the caretakers are good for him/her and your child will always know it is adopted. If I were you... Im guessing I would look around me and how the baby would take impact on my life(Work, School, emotional) I wouldn't get rid of it because I would never even dare to do anything like that. Talk it over with your boyfriend, if he is ready for a baby. Then tell your parents... Don't wait.
2007-03-05 14:00:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you need are answers. Obviously you cannot afford to raise a child at this time. You have to decide if you are willing to put schooling on hold for the next several years. You are not even an adult and this will cause you some problems. There are programs and help groups available. Try to talk to a guidance counsellor at school........one that you like............call the kids help phone line...........talk with someone at the health department....all of these things are free. They may be able to refer you to an appropriate person who can go over all the options with you. Don't just accept the first answer...........try to get all the info you can. You don't have a lot of time, but you do have a week or two maximum to make a decision. Take the boyfriend with you. You both need to understand. You will of course have to face your parents. You may need their help. Stay calm, get the information, get control by being informed and then involve the people who need to know. Good Luck.
2007-03-05 14:02:04 · answer #9 · answered by Suean 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't have an abortion, I was 16 when i got pregnant and my dad wasnt very happy but i still kept the baby and later found out that having an abortion is ment to kill the baby and has been known to kill the mother also, If you don't want to keep the baby, look into adoption, but not abortion
2007-03-05 13:54:36 · answer #10 · answered by Blondie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋