I started dating him in may 2005, 5 days before my 16 bday. he will turn 20 in june. i lost my virginity to him. my parents didnt like that so they made me break up w him that year (2005) they saw that it didnt work so they told me that i could be w him. cause they did want me lying to them. so then we still dated. by june 2006 he joined the army.. they didnt like that.. they thought he was taking the easy way out to college. but yea he came for xmas break and they started being stupid and this time made me break up w him for real. they threatened to send me back to my country if i kept our relationship. i couldnt. he left back to finish trainin and we have been hiding our relationship, he brought me a ring and we are getting married in july. his mom is against it too. but a lot of ppl told me. (not only teen friends) i should go for it cause they cant make not love him. we have talked about everything. college etc. we have been through a lot more than this do u think u should do it?
2007-03-05 13:44:49 · 22 answers · asked by sony v 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would say to wait until your family approves of it OR until you can afford to live on your own. Waiting won't hurt anyone.
Good Luck!
2007-03-05 13:49:46 · answer #1 · answered by emp04 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You just may have a love that will last a lifetime, but at 18 and 20 you are still developing your skills at decision-making. You may be making a poor choice. I'd suggest you wait another year or two, if you possibly can...just to be sure you have made a good life decision. Marriage is a serious matter. Divorce is such a miserably bad thing. Don't get married until you know for sure what you want out of life and are ready to make a permanent commitment. Get some more education first, too.
2007-03-05 13:53:40 · answer #2 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your parents shouldn't control you. You are your own person, it is totally up to you who you marry. If you love him more than anything, go for it! If you are worried about parents, well, try to convince them that he is your love, your only love. Life is getting later for you, if you don't find a guy soon, you will be a beautiful 22 year old that is always teased. My sister loved a guy when he was 20, she was 17. They are married. You are not too young, if you love him, you love him. There is nobody else, and you really love him, forget your parents. They'll just have to live with it. You are a young lady now. You could move out if you wanted. By now, they have no more control, except to convince you. Go for it!
2007-03-05 13:52:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was 18 I was dating this guy and I thought I really liked him. My parents got upset over something one day and they kicked me out of the house. The literally disowned me for 3 years. It made us like each other that much more I think. That was four years ago, we go Monday for a divorce hearing. We have a 5 month old child he doesn't even see now. So yeah you love him but why not wait a while? Live together, see if it's what you really want or if your just trying to rebel agaisn't your parents.
2007-03-05 13:51:51 · answer #4 · answered by specklesanne_13 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to see what your heart says.
Your parents are not marrying him..and his parents are not marrying you.
If you two are going to be together..and that is what the both you truly want. Then both your parents are going to eventually have to accept it.. wether they like it or not.
You need to talk to your parents..its your life..and you have to live it how you want it...your 18 now so you can make the deicisions you want without their consent.
However you should sit them down and tell them..that you and him love eachother..and theres nothing they can do to stop that love.
Tell them that you are planning on marrying him ..and they cant stop you..and you would rather them be happy for you..than resent you for it.
Tell them you want them to accept your decision.
Its hard for them..to know their little girl has grown into a woman..and is moving on and living her life...
But if its not with this guy..there will be an other guy..
and you will eventually have your own life...and they need to understand and accept.
Being in the army is not an easy way out of college..it provides a great future..let your parents know that this guy will take care of you and treats you right.
2007-03-05 13:59:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry for sounding rude but screw everyone's opinion on the subject. It's about what you feel in your heart and what you know is right for you. Which decision would make you happier? What do you want? Some people might say, "hell no...it's too soon" but how would they know unless they are really in your shoes?? You two could be made for one another (each other's soul mates). You never know. On the other hand, maybe you have doubts in your mind and maybe in your head you're not completely head over heels for this guy. I don't know you and I don't know the relationship you have with this guy. Do what you feel is right. What does your heart tell you to do?
2007-03-05 14:59:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you love him then EVENTUALLY i would marry him but First make things right with your family (cuz you'll be needing them alot more than you think) and wait till your a bit older. i got married at 19 and i love the guy but being married is hard you have to be responsible for alot of things and it is very hard you have bills to work with and there isnt always enough money and then you start to fight and you have to try to make it work through the easy and hard times all im saying is dont rush into it take your time and really think about it. good luck
2007-03-05 13:52:59 · answer #7 · answered by Nance 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
family life is not just you and your guy.
it will involve both of your families.
the problem would u be able to support yourself in case he does something "stupid" again? because in the worst case that he does something stupid you might end up having no one to turn to. yeah right now you have friends but what happens when they too have their own families as well.
i would suggest that if he really is sincere he could go and talk to your family and show them his sincerity and to have both your families respect your decision to get married.
2007-03-05 13:52:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think u should just break up with him and find another guy later your only 18 your too young slow down a wait u can do it
2007-03-05 13:50:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No because I was 21 and it was felt like that was the thing to do but it was all a mistake if more email me bryant_jms@yahoo.com
2007-03-05 13:50:45 · answer #10 · answered by Bryant J 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋