2007-03-05 13:32:23 · 9 answers · asked by jserak13 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Is it his permission you are seeking or his blessing? If he doesn't give his permission would that truly stop you from asking for her hand in marriage? If not, then you are asking for his blessing.
Okay off my soapbox.
I think at least a week prior. You may get nervous talking to her dad, and may need time to recoup before you ask her. I don't think there is an official structured guideline on how to do this. Do what you feel most comfortable with.
2007-03-05 13:40:38 · answer #1 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on a couple things. Are your girlfriend and her father really close? Would they talk in between? I just wouldn't want Dad to give ANY hints that something big might be happening. If they are pretty close, I'd ask 1-3 days out from your planned proposal night.
If they don't talk very often, then you'd probably have more time, say 5-14 days.
You might even have to consider her relationship with her mom. Women are notoriously worse at keeping secrets than men, so if Dad tells Mom, and Mom and GF are close, you'd be back to having 1-3 days of safety before you'd have to start worrying about her getting the hint that something was up.
2007-03-05 21:56:53 · answer #2 · answered by xgravity23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to ask her today or tomorrow, it really does not matter how far in advance you ask him, the fact is that you respect the father enough to even ask. My husband asked my father that morning and that night we were engaged. Good luck. Many guys do not even ask the father anymore for their daughters hand in marriage. You need to give yourself a pat on the back for that on. Good Luck again....
2007-03-09 20:16:10 · answer #3 · answered by tide chic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my fiance did it on the same day, but he and my father have a great relationship and everyone knew my engagement was inevitable. I recommend talking to both parents if possible. The mothers really like that and your bride is less likey to think the practice is chauvanistic. It also is a signal to the parents that you will treat your wife as an equal in the relationship.
2007-03-05 21:53:21 · answer #4 · answered by c q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you want to get engaged, discuss it with your girlfriend. I think you should take her Mom and Dad out to dinner, and after dinner over coffee and dessert, I would ask him this way:
Mr.....................I just wanted to tell you that I love your daughter very very much, and I want to ask her hand in marriage, but because I respect you and Mrs........I wanted to ask your permission. I am planning to give her a diamond engagement ring and hope to marry her maybe next year. I hope you will approve.
2007-03-05 23:41:14 · answer #5 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is sooooo sweet...my bf actually talked to my dad on New Years Eve and didnt ask me to marry him until Valentines Day....im sure if you have a specific date that you are goingto ask her and he knows that...he will keep your secret I knowmy dad did!!!!
If you want a better timeline I would say at least a week...Just in case he needs time to think about it!
2007-03-05 21:59:41 · answer #6 · answered by Soon2BMrsCarlson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to the dad about a couple weeks prior. If you don't ask him at least a couple of weeks prior, then he will think you don't really care what his response is, because you would do it anyways. Even if you would do it anyways, you don't want this to be the first thing he thinks of when you talk to him.
2007-03-05 21:45:00 · answer #7 · answered by goaliegirl87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask the father before you ask his daughter to marry you!
2007-03-05 21:56:39 · answer #8 · answered by charmz21lucky 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
At least 2 days!!
2007-03-05 21:36:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋