I need a hand figuring out whats fair and not - and what to do.
My g/friend of 1 1/2 years and I moved in together 8 mths ago.I had to move towns to be with her-her home town is small and limited,doesn't have much,so we agreed after a few months we'd go somewhere with more future and fun,together.
Problem now is,I feel my life has stalled. After I moved it was like the truth came out - suddenly she doesn't want to move "for a while" - and her idea of spending time together is constantly having to hang around with her family - say, for 8 hours a day and each night after work! I have no life - and when I want to see my friends & family, play sport, etc, she blocks me with excuses..tells me I don't need them - that Im too dependent on them all. I love her and want to be with her - but how can I have a bit of a life of my own? I'm so bored and frustrated sitting around all day with her parents or friends (half of whom have kids now) just idling...and feeling so lonely with it all.
2007-03-05 13:31:47 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell her you need your own space to do things on your own. if she can't respect that she isn't worth your time
2007-03-05 13:35:32 · answer #1 · answered by f d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what you need to do. That means if you want to go out and be around other people and have fun, do it. Just because you're in a relationship, it does not mean you are not allowed to do anything your partner has a problem with, unless it's valid. Next time you want to go out with family or friends, go. And when she has a problem with it, blow it off. Not like a jackass, just like it's not a big deal. Take back some control in the relationship by making some decisions for yourself and sticking to them.
Always know that you have power being a relationship just as much does the person you're with.
2007-03-05 13:38:16 · answer #2 · answered by mrmanseven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to her. communication is key to EVERY relationship. If you need to, blams it on yourself. Announce that you're more apt to being a happier human if you have a little interaction with those who play such a huge role in your life. Mention that they're your friends & family, TWO categories that she might fall in between, and that it's not fair for you to have to cut them out, because they help make who you are...the person she loves.
2007-03-05 13:38:57 · answer #3 · answered by jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to be honest with her and tell her how u feel sounds like u need more of a life than what she wants its possible its time for u two to part ways and find what u really want out of life
2007-03-05 13:36:30 · answer #4 · answered by Robert C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that its not working out and move back to where
you came from, tell her you are not happy and its not a good thing tell her if she wants to come fine if not then ok but tell her you got to move.
2007-03-05 13:37:01 · answer #5 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest, you kinda sound like a trophy husband. tell her your concerns and if she ignores or disregards what you have to say, she doesn't care about how you feel. then its up to you to decide whether to move back home or be willing to put up with being ignored in the relationship.
2007-03-05 13:55:34 · answer #6 · answered by fear of the dark 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to find something 4 you.... she is too possesive
2007-03-05 13:37:44 · answer #7 · answered by htrime 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋