Ok. Well I met this guy through mutual friends. We seen each other before. When my friend told me he was interested in me, I couldn't put the face with the name. Anyway, my friend's fiance works with him. So her fiance gave her his number to give to me to call him. She sent it to me through email.
Anyway, we talk and I thought we were called. I have alot of respect for him because he never asked the infamous question, "Can I comeover tonight?". We basically had general conversations. I tried to go deeper but our conversations remained on the surface level. It was like he was trying not to offend which is cool. Well my friend's fiance had a b-day party 2 weeks ago and we met up there. We had a good time. So I thought everything was cool.
I'm not expecting to receive a call everyday but when I do get a call I atleast want to have a conversation for more than 5 mins. Well I got a call from him on last tuesday. Well that conversation lasted less the 5 mins. He basically told me that his job worked him hard that day and he was tired. He asked me what time did I get off. I told him at 6. Then it was a pause like he wanted to ask me to stop by after work. We ended the call. I called him on thursday and he answered the phone and said he'll call me back. He was at work and busy and thats the last I heard from him. I left a message for him today and I didn't receive a phone call.
I know I shouldn't be putting alot of stock into this but I'm just confused. Things seemed like they were going ok. Now I got a lot of unanswered what if questions like what if I bored him, what if he like women that gave it up off the bat, what if he's interested in someone else, what if he felt threatened by me? what if?
If all the above are true, then I'm glad that nothing happened between us. But I really like him and wanted to get to know him. I know there other fish in the sea but I pretty sure somebody at some point was at the place wondering why. So maybe he wanted me to be a booty call, but if that's true, wouldn't he asked by now?
2007-03-05 13:21:19 · 11 answers · asked by gloried 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe because you never invited him over for drinks and just acted like friends, he didn't think you were interested in him.
2007-03-05 13:26:00 · answer #1 · answered by JLB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whenever someone says their job works them hard and they're tired, it usually means they're making excuses.
When they don't call you and don't seem interested, it almost certainly means they are in fact not interested.
Most guys go out of their way to find time for a new gf, and don't care what the consequences are for their job or if they are tired.
I don't think you should worry about the sex part. Maybe he wanted it, maybe not, but you don't want to give it up just to make someone like you faster or bettter.
Just because he's not interested, doesn't mean it has anything to do with you. Sounds like you two were not much more than blind dates anyways. Those have low odds of success.
2007-03-05 21:37:17 · answer #2 · answered by PH 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why don't you just try to meet him in person and forget the phone call stuff. if he is busy at work, then try to find a spot by his office for happy hour and about 1/2 before he gets off, give him a call and tell him to meet you for a drink. If you are not of age, then that blows that strategy, but if you are, men love easy dates...i mean where they don't have to plan. and bring a friend...say you just happened to be meeting her there and wanted to know if he would like to join you.
2007-03-05 21:31:21 · answer #3 · answered by keepingitgoing 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe after meeting he realised you two weren't compatable. Theres nothing wrong with that. he sounds like he's not extremely into you, otherwise he'd organise to go out with you etc, so maybe all along he was wanting a booty call. Just forget him.
i hate those what if questions!
2007-03-05 21:27:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reading between the lines it would seem to me that you may have unreal opinions of your own sexuality and be a very vain woman. Many, many men do not necessarily see a new female acquaintance as a possible booty call! i suggest you reexamine all this more objectively.
2007-03-05 21:32:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, if the intention was for a booty call, either you or he would be at the others house doin' it.... but since you havn't i wouldn't worry about it... start playing hard to get... don't be around every time he calls... if he misses you and wants to spend time with you, he'll have to make more time... and it might progress from there...
2007-03-05 21:26:39 · answer #6 · answered by shiningstar1313 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give him time it doesn't sound like a booty call unless u already slept with him. some guys like to take thier time to get to know someone and also he has his own life to live so don't make him feel like it's mandatory for him to call u that will push him away.
2007-03-05 21:28:17 · answer #7 · answered by mrs. MJ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to look into him and his work schedule, see if your friend can verify his work hours
2007-03-05 21:31:10 · answer #8 · answered by blacksabbath200000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to look into him and his work schedule, see if your friend can verify his work hours
2007-03-05 21:27:56 · answer #9 · answered by walker9842 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you have sex? because if you didnt then you need to learn what a booty call is
2007-03-05 21:29:56 · answer #10 · answered by Dont get Infected 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋