Should I be concerned if my child is having "phone sex" with her boyfriend?

Question

Moans and groans are what I hear coming from her room! Should I be concerned? Worried Parent.

she and he is 15, not young, young but young.

Answer 1

yes, i started having phone sex at 13 and got pregnant at 15 i now have twin 6 year old daughters and they are a definite handfull, it just escalates to something further. talk to her about sex and do not let her know you know about her having phone sex so you can monitor her sex life and she can have her privacy. it will only be a year or two before she most likely will be having sex if not already ( due to the way things go these days ). before it is to late put her on birth control and explian to her about sexually transmitted diseases and safe sex. by doing this you will not only have her on somewhat of a leash but she will feel more comfertable about being open with you in general and this is where alot of parents go wrong .
* do not break them up trust me with kids if you say no or push them in a different direction they are going or want to go then what do they normally do push you back ultamitally harder andmake life more stressful for you so it could push her further into his arms and thats not what you want.

Answer 2

Yes, how old is this girl. I didn't even know about phone sex until I was out of the house. These kids are having sex at such young ages now. I am in no way saying anything about your parenting. There was a little girl on here the other day that was 13 and pregnant, going after church to confirm it. It is scary now days. You need to be concerned since she may already be doing other things. If she is doing that, then she is just one half a step away from the real deal. You need to be very up front and talk to her, but not in a confrontational way. You do need to set some rules though. Again I dont' know how old this girl is, but my parents did not let me have my own phone and when I was on it did not let me talk in my room with my door closed. I hated it then and hated them, but it kept me out of a lot of trouble. Good luck but I think you need to take some appropriate steps to stop this.

Answer 3

The first thing I would do is confront her. While she's on the phone walk right into her room, make her get off the phone, and talk to her about it. If you catch her doing it again pick up the phone in another room and tell her to get off the phone. This might embarrass the boyfriend enough not to do it again. And if you catch her a third time take the phone out of her room and make the only phone in the house right in the living room with the rest of the family.

Answer 4

my only question is, would you be as concerned about this if your child were a boy? 1. you don't know for sure they are having phone sex, you only heard groans... which could be "OMG, we have a test tomorrow?? I didn't study!!! *groan*" and even if she is having phone sex, wouldn't that be better than real sex?? while it may disturb you, at least she isn't getting pregnant... also, do you not remember the hormones going through your system when you were a child? they make you do some strange stuff at times...

Answer 5

Of course. How old is your daughter? when young girls are thinking about it and fantasizing about it then you know that you should make a move and start talking to her about it. Ignoring it will cause you more issues down the road...you know what I mean. It is not adnormal for teenagers to be thinking about stuff like this, but actually doing the phone sex is a good idication that she will soon give in to temptation. You don't want to start out your conversation with her as though you know what she is doing (cause then she will not be able to trust you knowing that you have been listening in) you don't want to be mad at her either (or else she will not want to talk to you about it). Having a good conversation about what sex is, what it means and when sex fits into your life are definatly good starting points. I would also get her on a birth control plan...cause even after you have spoke your peace...she will ultimatly make up her mind as to what she wants to do and if it is sex then you know you have done your part in protecting her future. I hope that helps, good luck to you.

Answer 6

Yes, I'd be concerned. My reasoning--you start off with holding hands, then that isn't enough..then you go on to kissing and that isn't enough after a while..then you go on to other stuff, then it leads to phone sex and then after a while that doesn't give them the same feeling anymore..and it will eventually lead up to real sex. I'm not making this stuff up...I've heard it elsewhere by numerous people.

I am about to turn 14 so I am in this generation so I know what people at my school do and stuff....

Answer 7

Honestly, if my mother had sat down and talked to me about sex one on one instead of shoving a sex education book under my bathroom counter, I think I would have been better off. I wouldn't be too concerned if they are having phone sex. I would much rather see teenagers today having phone sex or masturbating by themselves than being sexually active with another participant. That is the way STDs and pregnancys happen. But I would definately try to sit down and talk to her. Unfortunately, there isn't too much you can do to make sure she doesn't become sexually active other than talking to her. But educating her on STDs and pregnancy might help her to make a good decision. Good luck!

Answer 8

How old is she? I'm guessing because you called her a child she is young so I would have to say yes you should be concerned. If it hasn't already happened then this could possibly lead to her being sexually active. You need to step in and be a parent on this.

Answer 9

it is a toughie. do you want the "suitable issue to do" answer or what my loopy butt could do?? ok properly that is both. ideally, i imagine you ought to enable your daughter understand that you overheard her communication, no longer on objective yet that she became being loud. And enable her understand you're proud that she took that stand with her boyfriend. perhaps talk over with her about the pressures? enable her understand she will manage to come back to you. or talk even as the right age could be, I advise if she's in route of 18 you may only could enable it flow. you've had a reliable run. If she's like 14 or something, save chatting with her. Me...even as a mom...i could have a touch chat with Arnie. deliver your daughter out to the mall along with your spouse and characteristic Arnie spend some one on one with you. So he's waiting to be a guy? enable's see how he feels asking you to have sex along with your daughter for your FACE!! Scare the crap out of him (dont do something unlawful) and enable him imagine you're psycho! enable him understand that in case your daughter is waiting and he or she makes a call to bounce on him, properly there is truly no longer something you are able to do. yet that if he maintains to emphasise her, or in case you even listen that he's added up the concern, you're going reachable him a handful of his own nuts!! the perfect issue you want is a few pimple confronted jerk to emphasise your daughter into doing something she doesnt favor to do. reliable stuff dad! you probably did reliable!

Answer 10

well if the child is under 17 then yes. this will prone her 2 do the real thing. and who knows she might become pregnant. if she is over 18 then u r by your self. once a child reaches 18 then the child is a legal age 2 do what ever. but if she attends high school then u r steel in charge of her.so yes be very concerned aout it. and even if it means breaking them up.