I know this guy and I like him..
When we first met, I really like his personality..he seems so perfect and everything..he likes to help ppl, and I really like this quality.
Then one day I told him that I like him, and he went silent on me..he didn't really respond...he didn't say anything like "I don't like you" or "go away" kind of thing..I assume the silence is a rejection.. I must admit, I told him abt. my feeling way too early..
Anyhow, for almost a year already since i told him how I feel..he keeps doing this..he imitates me(my actions and hobbies), impresses me with his "cool" vacations to hawaii and such, waits for me(it's really obvious, yet he pretends he didn't wait), and he always says he's on a date with some girl to make me feel jealous (he doesn't have a gf, but he goes on dates).
Ive never get the courage to ask him how he feels about me again since I'm afraid he might go silent again...
What is he thinking? Why is he keeps doing this?
2007-03-05 13:10:19 · 7 answers · asked by ocean09 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he's just playing mind games he probably doesn't like you the way you like him just go and find someone who wants to be with you for real.
2007-03-05 13:26:09 · answer #1 · answered by Juliaysha247 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very simple answer is, he does likes you and wants you! But he doesn't have the courage at this time to say so - possibly out of fear of rejection, so he's attempting two things. Firstly, to woo you over with his "impressive" sides - e.g. similar hobbies. Secondly, he's watching the reaction - and trying to gauge how you feel about him. If he claims he's on a date and you seem jealous - he'll think you like him. If you don't - he'll assume you don't care! It's like he's building up the nerve to tell you...and convincing himself you do definitely like him. Quite possibly, he really thinks you're such an amazing person, that he can't believe you'd like him! So - he goes out of his way to impress you, making sure that you like him - before he says it too. Perhaps he's afraid of being stood up - some guys are great but really suffer in a way that they feel any really great girl wouldn't go out with them, and so when someone wants to - they take a while to believe it - he's not too confident in just talking, clearly, to need to pull stunts to impress, so he does that instead. Show him you like him - and appreciate him waiting and stuff - if you still do like him! :-)
Unfortunately, it can get confusing. His behaviour might seem weird to you - and so you'll back off, out of confusion. So - he starts to wonder if you do like him after all, and will try harder.
He's simply unsure - he likes you but wants to make sure you like him too - and mean it - this is why he's trying to impress you with what he sees as his strong points! Just let him know you like him, how I said, and be casual...see if he'd like to go to a movie or lunch or something - time he can relax in, learn to just talk to you and realise he doesn't have to set up scenarios for you!
Good luck! If i can help more, please do contact me.
2007-03-05 13:20:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing for you to do is focus on yourself. Once this guy sees that you are not focusing on him anymore and you have other options(guys) he will see what a great girl hes been playing mind games with and hopefully come around. It might just be too late you may find another guy who knows how to treat you. good luck
2007-03-05 13:17:28 · answer #3 · answered by ShaRon d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he likes you, and when he tells you he is going on dates with other girls, he is sort of testing you to see if you care or not. Sort of like when a girl sits in the car and waits for her boyfriend to open the door ... she wants to see if he really cares.
Be honest with him, and tell him that you liked him, but you want to know if he has feelings for you or not, so that if he really doesn't ... you can move on and find a guy who does.
2007-03-05 13:15:44 · answer #4 · answered by Joseph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys are like that. Don't let it get to you. i know its hard but if u just find someone you liek to make him jealous. (wow that sound soooo shallow) but still it could work!
♥Hollywood
2007-03-05 13:14:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he likes you too. Maybe he's just messing with you for now. Just go up to him, maybe he's jealous of something too!
2007-03-05 13:14:22 · answer #6 · answered by Gainy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably likes you...u should go talk to him about how weird hes acting...cuz thats pretty wierd
2007-03-05 13:19:19 · answer #7 · answered by eatleavz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋