I've known this guy for six months and have been dating for about 3 months. We're not bf/gf just dating, you know hanging out and enjoying each others company. Well we've already had some heavy make out sessions and this past wkend everything was done but the actual deed s.e.x. He wanted to but I was just not ready and said no. I just recently lost my virginity to my x which we broke up 3-4 months ago and I'm just nervous about having sexual relations with someone already. Believe me when I say this guy is GREAT but I just keep thinking "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free". Then again after being in a 2yr relationship I myself am not looking for a bf/gf deal just yet. PLUS I know hes dating some other girl that lives 3hrs away from where we live. He hasnt seen her in about a month but I know he talks to her frequently. Should I really worry about her? That also makes me wonder if I should sleep with him. What do you guys think?
2007-03-05 12:57:36 · 5 answers · asked by TheLight 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No he doesnt have a girlfriend. They're just talking. Like me and him are just talking.
2007-03-05 13:18:49 · update #1
Don't have sex with him. He's seeing someone else. You said yourself that you aren't ready for a relationship yet, and at this stage sleeping with him will only make you feel more connected to him and possibly more hurt when he's running to the "other woman." You said it, just keep drinking the milk. Have fun, be safe and only do it if you feel that YOU are ready.
2007-03-05 13:05:01 · answer #1 · answered by peachtool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont sleep with him. he is useing u as a side dish. he has another girl. if u give it to him he will never respect you. i am sure his main dish has no idear about u. if he cares for u he will give his main girl up for u. i know from experience dont be a side dish u will never end up first. he is cheating on his girl now he will do it to u. just think he is hiding this from his girl friend what is or will he hide frim u? hes no good get rid of him now while u can and u r not so attached once u sleep with him u will feel more attached
2007-03-05 21:14:42 · answer #2 · answered by amymamagurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
plz don't. sounds like the loss of your innocence bothers you. I'm sure the actual act was nice, but, was it worth it, considering y'all didn't last. will this dude still be around when you give it up. i think not. its interesting that y'all youngins take sex as a another day. my word, that's a powerful tool, created by god, for use with your life time married partner. plz cherish it, b/c yalls regrets will come quick
2007-03-05 21:09:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no u shouldnt sleep with him if u have to do that to keep his interest then u dont need him its way to soon to be sleeping with him give it time and if u two get really serious then think about it
2007-03-05 21:02:24 · answer #4 · answered by Robert C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make him wait if he's worth it he will stick around if he doesn't then you know what his motive was
2007-03-05 21:12:18 · answer #5 · answered by Juliaysha247 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋