I’ve know this guy for about a year now but not personally. He is a pre-med major coming from a privilege family. I knew his ex-girlfriend very well. His ex girlfriend was very HIGH maintenance. She loved designer everything. Just this past Christmas he told me that he spent $700 just on two presents for her. His ex girlfriend was very out going, I’m more reserved. She came from a privileged family (Mother’s a psychiatrist, father’s a surgeon). My parents are more middle class (mother pre-school teacher, father’s a machine operator). His previous girlfriend is the total opposite of me. He is so stuck in his old girlfriend ways that he is always buying me things. Expensive bags, ipod, clothes, all for no reason. I’m not into these expensive things like his previous girlfriend. Nor is my life anything like his. I can I make him see I’m not like his ex in anyway?
2007-03-05 12:55:20 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just tell him that you appreciate the gifts he is giving you but that is really not your style... he probably is not trying to change you into his girlfriend his just used to how things were with her... besides they are obviously not together for a reason... he apparently likes you more because he is with you and not her... so don't compare yourself to her because in his eyes you are obviously superior
2007-03-05 13:01:37 · answer #1 · answered by co 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you appreciate that he's considerate enough to pick up gifts for you. Then let him know that, as much as you love the things he's given you, it's not important for you to have expensive items, and you would be just as happy with occasional small tokens of affection. He'll probably appreciate hearing it, I'm guessing it will be a welcome change!
2007-03-05 13:02:54 · answer #2 · answered by M L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel. I have to contradict what a previous answerer said: Nothing fixes by itself. If you do nothing about it, you will alienate and eventually break up. So simply tell him you are uncomfortable with him buying you expensive things.
2007-03-05 13:05:46 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. Zaius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Scale the broken hearted rich boy like a fish before he's finished rebounding, give him a list of things you always wanted and send him shopping. He can afford it, and if he's serious about you, it's all good anyway.
2007-03-05 13:03:32 · answer #4 · answered by blogbaba 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him!! make him see you bcuz he's obviously stuck in "ex" zone. His ex was shallow and self-centered and you seem to have great personality. Believe me, there is no comparability between the two of you. You are you, make him see that
2007-03-05 13:01:17 · answer #5 · answered by Kisha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him on a romantic date... like a picnic at night, or go to the beach... simply tell him that you aren't in it for the money.. & you just want his time... hint that you like things like flowers *simple stuff* not expensive jewelry. Just talk to him.. communication is key in this instance...he is trying to show that he cares about you... but... just let him kno that you aren't into that...
2007-03-05 13:01:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he likes buying you these things? Maybe he thinks you'll appreciate them more than she did since for her they were an every day thing. Just a thought.
2007-03-05 12:59:55 · answer #7 · answered by TheLight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be urself and let that be good enough for him if that's not good enough then he doesnt deserve u
2007-03-05 12:59:58 · answer #8 · answered by Robert C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'll say just be yourself. he'll see without you telling him and appreciate you for who you are.
2007-03-05 12:59:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk to him about it
2007-03-05 12:58:18 · answer #10 · answered by Shakespeare, William 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋