So we fell in love, everythin was perfect we talked for hours never argued. Now we made it 2 our 3 month and we started arguing alot lately about the stupidest stuff and its not even imp. Basically i blame him he blames me. He syas he loves me and yesterday he told me hes growin apart from me. I sugessted a break he didnt want it he wants 2 go campin w/ me Sat and and hes excited but today when i asked how hes growin apart i asked is it bc of the arguments he said i dunno, no. So im tryin 2 bring back the spark into my relationship and be how we were before without fighting and just having fun and crying when we both had to leave each other. Does anyone have any sugesstions on what i can do to have him fully back and actually feel safe again? I tried not arguing 2 day and being happy and he was happy 2. He used 2 call me and now when i call him we end up in an argument and he doent look forward to talkin 2 me over the phone due to the arguments! help people help!
2007-03-05 12:50:42 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
kv is right. the first few months, y'all are absolutely infatuated with each other. but it starts to wear off and you start to see their faults and wonder "where'd my mate go?" almost every relationship goes through this. if you manage to make it through the next few months, most likely y'all will last a while :)
2007-03-05 13:27:06 · answer #1 · answered by fear of the dark 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys are just in a rut right now. Relationships do this thing where you are good for 3 months at a time and then arguments start happening. Don't worry you'll get over it. I suggest picking and choosing your battles. What this means is, if he starts to argue about something stupid, choose not to argue back. If you feel yourself getting annoyed, think of something nice he did for you, it takes the concentration off of the bad. I have been working on this for a looong time!! Good luck!
2007-03-05 13:01:31 · answer #2 · answered by kv 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what in the world are you arguing about? the reson u are arguing now is because you are more comfortable with each other... in the beginning, we don't want to upset the other for fear of losing them, so we withhold our feelings.. then we get more comfortable and express ourselves more... whichever one of u is starting the fights should chill out a little and learn to pick your battles... not everything deserves to be given that much attention... some things do.... really think about it before you jump on each other and also, try to be calm when disagreeing... do not place blame... thats not important... just try to compromise.. i know, its easy for me to talk... but its true...
2007-03-05 13:02:59 · answer #3 · answered by shiningstar1313 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats tough man.
the only real advise i can think to say is that it doesnt work trying to recreate things. dont go over the past and try to add it up again. it never works.
also i think it is good to be with someone who can talk to you nice and openly. me and my girlfriend went through a difficult time and i really felt like i was moving away from her but i never said anything to her because i didnt want to upset her, but it ended up making it much worse.
have a nice time camping - hope it doesnt rain.
2007-03-05 12:59:22 · answer #4 · answered by splinter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude hes not interested anymore. hes arguing with you as a way of trying to make you disappear. he found someone new. sorry abt that. unless you guys like to argue as a way of conversation
2007-03-05 12:59:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋