Are you really happy with your girlfriend/wife? Or do you feel that you have 'settled', or are with them because you don't think you can do any better even though you know there is definitely better out there? Personality or looks wise?
How aware are you that there are more beautiful women out there?
Or do you not even think about these things?
Please explain how you feel about your partner. I need you to be completely honest here. Don't sugar coat it.
I'm beginning to believe that people pair off just because they have to be with someone, but not because they really want to, or really apreciate or are happy with the one they are with.
2007-03-05 12:48:08 · 10 answers · asked by jade 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
with my first wife, yes i settled, and it lead me straight to divorce. now my new wife is totally opposite. I have been truly blessed with this woman. do i think i could do better? no way. do i still look at beautiful women yep sure do, married, not blind. do we fight yep sure do, but i still love her. she is my friend first. like most i was attracted to her looks but then fell in love with all of her especially her mind and personality. alot of us do pair off just because, i did it. but when i met her, got to know her and fell in love with her, it was amazing. they say that behind every good man is a great woman. my wonderful wife is the reason that i am where i am today. i owe her more than i could ever repay. i am with the her by choice not convenience. honesty has been the key, that and God help me.....sorry guys...TALKING THINGS OUT. something that i was not used to, but it works. when you find it you will know! i have been away from my wife for a year now, she is due to join me in June. have i cheated NO, do i think that she has NO. okay enough of my rambling. good luck with you question.
2007-03-05 13:18:17 · answer #1 · answered by Tim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in love with my wife. Sure there are times when things are hard, but I do love her. As far as personality, thats what I like most. I'd hate to have a woman without an opinion of her own or who didn't put up a fight when it was called for. As for looks sure there is better out there, but most of the better looking women i've met aren't the same personality or smarts wise. (some dumber, not all) Did I settle? I don't think so, did I try for supermodel? Nope. The only complaint I can voice right now is her unwillingness to try for a better (higher paying/higher respect) job. She's got a teaching degree, but she isn't even trying to get a teaching job, because she likes working at a daycare, but she made me look for a new job when the one I had wasn't up to snuff.
2007-03-05 12:55:06 · answer #2 · answered by vospire s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say atleast 75% of all guy's are in a relationship for bad reasons. I think because for the average guy not ugly or super good looking, its hard to stay in the single game because its so much work getting a descent woman period so they settle with what they got because woman are so brutal out there and usually go for the bad boys or rich guy's. 1 out of every 5 to 10 guy's in the club, bar or at work there is one good looking guy or bad-boy who's is getting all the action while the woman totally ignore a regular guy. If she doesn't get that one she will move to the next really good looking guy or bad-boy. So I would say lots of guy's settle for the wrong woman or even an evil chick because they get out gamed where ever they go. I'm a in shape guy with a descent job and not bad looking but yet woman completely ignore me unless i start completely getting in there face bothering them and that's not the kind of guy i am, its to desperate. We all lose in the end the hot chick and the regular guy. But the hot chick loses harder cause she can never make up her mind until one day she's 40 years old living with ten cats.
2007-03-05 13:06:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude...doesn't sound good at all.
OK, very happy with my wife, but then, I'm a lucky guy.
She's attractive, intelligent, great at math, and a gourmet cook...oh, and the sex is great.
I think everybody deserves somebody to love.
Not everyone can be a Penthouse centerfold, either.
That said, I've had some great sex from women who were far from centerfolds.
There's a lot of beautiful women out there. What's the point?
Mine's good looking enough to turn me on. No complaints from this guy.
2007-03-05 12:51:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, I thought it was the right thing to do, but after 3 months of living together, she has become a super bittch. This is not only my side of the story, she really has become a bittch. I still sort of love her, but she is almost impossible to live with. I want to break free, but like you say, I hate being alone. Will decide soon what to do ?
2007-03-05 12:56:11 · answer #5 · answered by CLAUDE D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's my ex but I love him. I have always been there for him, always, no matter what he's done. I guess it's weird and corny, but that's how I feel and always will. I don't think there's anything left to say except even though were not together, he'll be someone I'll always speak of.
2007-03-05 12:55:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your very right alot of people get married for all the wrong reasons where it be because all their friends are getting married or they hate being alone or whatever i for one am very happily married and would do it again in a heart beat i feel lucky to have such a wonderful wife and concern myself blessed
2007-03-05 12:53:01 · answer #7 · answered by Robert C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people do pair off just to be with someone, others feel that they have honestly found their true someone.
2007-03-05 12:51:30 · answer #8 · answered by my_craig1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. You put it in such a REAL way. More power to you, now im gonna be thinking about this in my sleep.
2007-03-05 12:51:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 10:59:56 · answer #10 · answered by henshaw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋