met my sister for the first time 16 years ago. I being born again and her back then turning to me with her problems talked to her about God and told her about salvation which she excepted the Lord over the phone with me. sent her a bibleThen things happened and lost contact with her I prayed all the time for her. And in these last months the Lord was urging me to find her I believe with many failed attempts on my own then with God direction the day I found her I used those same sites with not finding her but that day God brought me thru those sites were new info was and I found her. month of emailing and talking to her she brought me into her problems again which she says she feels so lonely unsucessful and depressed never getting that life she thought she would have. her son died last year 18 doesnt understand why God did that. I talk to her and bring up scriptures and she sends me back emails on self satisfing self will ideas how to make it in life. I know this is wrong what do I sa
2007-03-05 12:44:21 · 11 answers · asked by shelby8687 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You tell her you love her. You listen some more - and you tell her you love her. Then you listen some more and you tell her you love her - and God loves her too - and tell her you will pray for her.
You can't change your sister. But you can change the way you see her. If you begin seeing her as a loving, unselfish, beautiful soul - that's what she will be.
You're doing just what you should be doing. Listening, loving and praying. She is so very blessed to have you as a sis!!
2007-03-05 12:50:15 · answer #1 · answered by liddabet 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Learn about the stages of grief. Help her to walk through them. Suggest she find someone she can trust that also knows the stages of grief. Pray someone will come into her life who also knows the pain she is going through as well as God. Until she has worked through her grief she will not have enough emotional strength to deal with anything else. I know, I've been there. God will take care of it if you don't push her away with too much pressure. She needs care, love and acceptance now.
2007-03-05 20:54:35 · answer #2 · answered by kaehya2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with lizzabizza.
I've been in those dark emotional holes and people telling me about goodness and love didn't matter. But hearing it over and over, it did -- slowly -- start to sink in.
Sometimes just making it through the day is good, and if you can keep gently reminding her of that, it can be the start of a foundation for accepting recognition of other goodness.
2007-03-05 20:57:33 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask the Lord what to say. I hope this turns out well. I will pray for you ad your sister. Im sorry I cant be much help.
2007-03-05 20:50:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would just be patient and loving in explaining to her things like God's plan. You need to be gentle with all of this information, because she will most likely be hostile toward this information, but be persistent and things will come around.
2007-03-05 20:58:41 · answer #5 · answered by Death of Reason 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes nothing needs to be said. As a matter of fact I think we try to "fix" people way to often. Just listen. Don't say a word, even if what she is saying sounds morose.
2007-03-05 20:53:27 · answer #6 · answered by gtahvfaith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to pray and ask God, she needs to see God as not only as her father, but as her best friend to come to when she has problems.
2007-03-05 20:47:58 · answer #7 · answered by Luna Winter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Preaching to her wont help her son. So... stop preaching. let the scars heal, then preach
2007-03-05 20:48:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about helping her with reality and not with fairy tales?
2007-03-05 20:51:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure all of this happened? It wasn't just... you know.. a dream?
2007-03-05 20:46:43 · answer #10 · answered by NONAME 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋