My granduncle of 82, just 3 days ago, thanked me for the brownies and cookies I had made and sent him over the mail, just to surprise him and offer him a treat.
I asked him if he had liked them and he said yes, so I tiold him I'd be sending him another Batch soon.
With this he was pleased.
The very next day when I called my grandaunt of 73, she gave me some terribly tragic news. He had contracted pneumonia over night, because of an outstanding cold and was taken to the hospital.
As I write this, I have just been informed that "complications" developed, have rendered him "brain-dead and that the prognosis was extremely poor, but that 2 more days of tests would be tried to improbably help him. Sitting here, remembering his voice, frail and yet enthused at a new batch of brownies.
"i'll send them to you promptly" , was the LAST thing I said to this good man, dear to me.
My question is this, if you had known what was to follow, as I did NOT, what comment to a dear one would you have made?
2007-03-05 12:37:14 · 7 answers · asked by skydancerwi 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No one ever knows when something like this is going to happen. You took time and effort to provide him with a treat he enjoyed. His last thoughts of you were "sweet" ones.
We all need to keep this in mind and when we leave the company of a loved family member or close friend, say something kind.
Through unknown gossip and stubbornness, I lost the last two years of my son's life. He died five years ago at age 41. I make sure my other children and grandchildren know how I feel about them.
2007-03-05 12:43:27 · answer #1 · answered by Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there is not way that you could have known what was going to happen, and I think that it is better that way. You remember that last conversation that you had with him and you made him happy by showing that you care. You could have said how much you loved him or your favorite memory with him, but I think that what you did say last says a lot too. You sent him brownies and cookies because you care about him, and little surprises like that really show a person how much you love him/her. I really do hope that you are able to speak to your granduncle again, and maybe take him some cookies. It sounds like that would make him smile!
2007-03-05 12:46:10 · answer #2 · answered by julieCoolie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you are extremely upset about what has just happened to your granduncle. But, keep in mind, he probably did not know he was going to be that ill, just like you did not know. He was pleased because you cared that much about him to send him a surprise and offer to do the same very quickly-it put a smile on his face.
That is something you should be pleased with. that he was happy, smiling and enjoying a treat one of his relatives made for him because they thought about him. At least he knew he was being thought of and that he was loved. And, to know that you feel sad about his illness, somewhere, he is smiling, knowing this.
If anyone of us really knew when our love ones were going to leave us, we would all say our peace. But, it is not the case. You live each day to the fullest. And your granduncle has lived it up to the last day-with some baked brownies from someone who wanted to make more-with a smile on his face. That is the only thing you could ever ask for.
I never really said goodbye to my Mom, but, the last time I've seen her, I kissed her. (We really never did that.) And, two days later, she told me she was in the hospital and not to worry because "she was going to be home soon". If I would have known she was going to die that night, I would have disobeyed her and went to see her. But, I did not-I did like she asked. But, the last time I saw her was a pleasent time. And, the last time you heard of your granduncle was pleasent for the both of you. So, please, do not feel down. He knew you love him; and you did love him. That's all that matters.
2007-03-05 12:49:59 · answer #3 · answered by uchaboo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am soooo sorry, but I can not think of anything that I would say but what you did. He enjoyed the rest of that day until he went to the hospital. No body can ever predict when a loved one will get seriously sick and just be grateful that you had a granduncle like him and be glad that you brought him a liitle bit of joy.
2007-03-05 12:44:15 · answer #4 · answered by Stumped 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for the health problems in your granduncle. Your conversation with him was a perfect one. He knows that you love him and that you were going to make him more treats. The only thing that I want people to realize is that we always need to talk to our friends and families as often as possible and as kind as possible. Let them know that you love them and care what is happening in their lives! Life is short - be kind to one another!
2007-03-05 12:47:36 · answer #5 · answered by happy_southernlady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-18 06:29:02 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably what you told him already glad you enjoyed them and I love ya
2007-03-05 12:45:03 · answer #7 · answered by workin_man66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋