Should parents be able to reclaim their children once they have been adopted?

Question

I was asking because some states give the parents a year to change their minds.

Answer 1

No. Once another family has adopted them then they need to respect that they gave up their chance. They could contact the adoptive parents and let them decide if they want to have open communication but they must respect their choice. Children deserve stability and bouncing from home to home isn't the best option. Children shouldn't have to feel guilty about leaving one family behind for another or feel pressured to choose. When the child is old enough they can decide what type of relationship they want to have with the birth parents.

Of course there are always different circumstances but generally no.

SD

Answer 2

I imagine that some birth parents do regret giving a child up for adoption, but for the sake of that child, I don't think the birth parents should be able to reclaim the child. You just have to trust the child has been placed in a loving home with people who really wanted a child and will take excellent care of him. Reclaiming that child will do nothing by complicate a lot of lives!

Answer 3

God NO - what chaos that would cause - plus then who would want to adopt knowing some long lost parent could show up and steal the kid you have been raising for X amount of years! Not to mention how traumatic that would be for the child. Imagine being like 6 and your birth mommy shows up and rips you out of the only house and family you ever knew - what a nightmare!

Answer 4

I dont think so. Imagine how mean that is to the parents who adopted the child. They are usually infertile, kind people, who all they want is to have a child, and they adopt one, and then a couple years later the girl comes back and wants the child back just cause she got a job at the grocery store.

Answer 5

No. The impact on the children would be devastating! Never mind the adoptive parents.
Think if YOU, growing up, would all of a sudden be given to strangers you never heard about before, because, as they claim to be your real parents!!!
Looking at the answers above I am aghast at how many people think in terms of the 'rights' of the new parents only, few think about the feelings of the child. I find that terribly selfish and disgusting!

Answer 6

No - with the single exception of IF the child mkes it clear that THEY fully support the idea.

Parents give up for adoption for a variety of reasons, if parent gave up a child for the childs best interests - parents very ill and struggling to give child a stable / safe home etc. If the parent(s) then recovered and was cleary cable of giving the child a loving secure home AND the child(ren) WISHED to return to the parent, then I think under certain circumstances, such a move might be appropriate.

Where seperation was done for cruelty / neglect / abuse, then "no" has to be the only valid answer.

Mark

Answer 7

If the parent wasn't consulted on the matter, yes (there are people who literally sell babies).
If the child was adopted legally, however, the parents would have to have given up their claims to the child. These people should not be allowed to reclaim their child.

Answer 8

I don't really think that's fair to the child. Being in a safe constant environment changed to an environment with an adult they don't know of if they do, prior experiences may not have been great in the first place. I only believe what is in the best interest of the child should occur, not whatever a fickle minded adult believes.

Answer 9

I don't think that is very fair. I personally have a child in the care of another family. Im lucky enough that they keep in touch with me, and send me pictures. But I don't think any parent who has given up a child, should have the right to claim it back. That just messes with the childs mind. They get used to calling one set of parents, mommy and daddy...and then all of a sudden this weird lady comes out of no where and says that she's your mommy...not good.

There are reasons you gave your child up, and you can't just turn around and say....oh never mind. Its not fair to the people, who have raised your child...not at all. I would never dream of doing that.

Answer 10

No. Children services gives the parents a chance to get their live together before it gets that far. I do not think visitation is good. One thing about children when they get a certain age they may wonder or try to find their parents. Now you are their parents and you are the one that is there for them now.