I broke up with my gf last Tuesday because I felt as though I wasnt commited to the relationship anymore like I used to be and I didnt want her to stil be in a relationship with someone who is confused and unsure of their feelings.
2007-03-05 12:28:59 · 25 answers · asked by caring black guy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yea, I think honesty is the best policy. If you continuited to be in a relationship that you were committed to for the sake for her happiness, then you are not really making her happy. You would get worn out from dealing with the relationship and if she ever found out how you felt, she would be hurt that you did not care anymore and did not tell her.
2007-03-05 12:32:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello~
Yes. You done the right thing by breaking things off with your girlfriend. Some may tell you that you didn't, but trust me your correct in your judgement call.
Your girlfriend should appreciate your honesty because there are some who would have stayed in the relationship cheated and carried on leaving space for the friend of a friend to tell the girlfriend.
You respected your girlfriend (x Now) by doing this and in my opinion it takes a real man to step up and think of the other person instead of themselves in certain situations.
Now you should take this time to find yourself. Find what it is about you that your unsure of and confused about. It is possible that you were just tired of being settled and that's ok. I don't know your age, but now days to many younger people are getting involved without seeing the world and experiencing life.
You take care and know in your heart that yes that is a good reason to break up with a girl.
Good luck in your future.
Ssgtmommy
2007-03-05 12:38:01 · answer #2 · answered by ssgtmommy01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes this is a good reason to break up with your gf... i don't know if you have ever heard the song by latif called i don't wanna hurt you... its sounds a lot like your situation you should try listening too it... but yes u should have broken up with her because eventhough she might not understand it right know you are actually doing the right thing it would only hurt her more in the long run and it wouldn't be fair to her to continue a relationship that you are "unsure' about
2007-03-05 12:41:30 · answer #3 · answered by co 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand why you broke up with her, but did you talk to her about your relationship at all? Or how you were feeling? It IS good that you don't want her to be in a one-sided relationship, but you may still have feelings for and just need to work things out. If that is something that you need to do on your own, then it is good that you broke up with her. But if you didn't talk to her about things, I would say try to now.
2007-03-05 12:34:25 · answer #4 · answered by julieCoolie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea it is a good reason. Me and my girl went through the same thing. She thought I wasn't commited anymore. We didn't break up over it, but somethings needed to be done to show that I was just as commited now as i was before.
2007-03-05 12:39:07 · answer #5 · answered by rzacg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would tell her that your unsure of your feelings at this point in time. But since your unsure you should say: There are many things going on and I'm feeling unsure and in the process I didn't want to hurt to because you meant so much to me!
2007-03-05 12:35:53 · answer #6 · answered by LoVeD FoReVeR 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally, why lead her on, maybe 2 or 3 months down the road she wants to marry you, but you don't feel anything toward her. By telling her now you don't hurt her near as much later, and also give her the chance of not wasting the next few months.
2007-03-05 12:35:01 · answer #7 · answered by xjrich5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds about right! But you might live to regret it! the best thing you can do is imagine the worst possible sittuation. Something like you walking in to her house in a couple of days and catching her having sex with another guy! if you just got a horrible feeling in your stomach as you read this. Then you've made a mistake!
2007-03-05 12:36:26 · answer #8 · answered by martin b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing. I mean you wouldn't want to hurt her or anything. If I were you I would have done the same thing. She will probably find somebody who will be commited to the relationship everyday of his life.
2007-03-05 12:35:40 · answer #9 · answered by *~*Alyssa*~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is definitely fair, it's nice to know that you would prefer to end it and not lead her on if you aren't commited to the relationship. Good on you for being honest. Thumbs up.
2007-03-05 12:35:56 · answer #10 · answered by jimmy_chick78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋