hi I'm melody and i'm christian. i met a guy 4 years ago and he is muslim, we didin't see each other, by the way we really love each other and he loves me from all his hearth. he keeps saying that if i marry him he will do anything for me. don't think that i'm stupid, i want marry him because he doesn't me because of my money, look or for using me. he loves me for my self and nothing else. by the way we both have strict family about our relogion. the problem is, he wants from me to change my religion to islam, because he thinks that in future we'll have alot of religion problem. He also respect to my religion very much. But i dont want to change my religion to islam but i'll respect his religion too. i keep saying that we won't have any religion problem and i'll try to do everything for him, because i love him. Now i am in that situation that i should choose one between my religion and HIM, and i can't forgot both of them i want both at the same time. Please tell me what i have to do
2007-03-05 12:26:11 · 11 answers · asked by Washington D.C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Melody - I think you are not ready to marry, reading your question makes me think you should wait, there is more to marriage than love, feelings and emotions come and go, love is a choice not a fancy or a feeling, when there is an obstacle like religion in a marriage things are often very difficult and a majority end in separation and divorce
"an almost 75% failure rate for inter-faith marriages - 3 chances out of 4. 5"
2007-03-05 12:40:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try to find other Christian or Western brides of Muslims. Talk to THEM,..
You know this guy that you're considering spending your life with. My sister-in-law is married to an Egyptian Muslim, but he's non-practicing, she's a non-practicing Catholic and all is well,.. they're very happy and wonderful people,.. both of them.
4 years is a good long time to be involved/dating/in love with someone but you're looking at the rest of your life here. Do as much as you can NOW to be sure that you're ready for this.
2007-03-05 21:40:51 · answer #2 · answered by RockHanger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey listen, that is a tough situation but you have known your religion for a lot longer than him...and who knows he may not be around as long as you think. Besides, I know for a fact that I would never be able to convert to another religion for someone else. That has got to be something you do on your own, and I would hate to see someone lose faith in Christ because as you know he is the light and the truth.
If the both of you truly want to be together, nothing will stand in your way.
2007-03-05 20:35:32 · answer #3 · answered by HARRY S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him how you feel. Explain to him that your religion is really important to you and you want to continue to be christian. hopefully he will understand how much this means to you. You shouldn't have to choose between the two. Come up with a solution. Hopefully you will be able to work things out without damaging your relationship.
2007-03-05 20:35:23 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Emily♥ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't do it. You're setting yourself up for a life of subjugation. It's not a matter of choosing between your religion and him it's a matter of choosing between your respect, freedom and dignity and him.
2007-03-05 20:32:18 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As long as you are willing to be a widow in the next 5 years after he delivers that fertilizer bomb he put in an ice cream truck and drove into a elementary school in your neighborhood. Allah Akhbar Jihad!!! lol
2007-03-05 20:34:05 · answer #6 · answered by Justin G 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
tell him you just cant do that and have him change. if not just say forget about it and religion isnt what matters. its what love and feelings you have for each other,
2007-03-05 20:29:30 · answer #7 · answered by raidersss 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why can't he change to your religion? you've never met each other? your question is somewhat confusing in many ways. if you love each other, screw the religion. you have yours, he has his.
2007-03-05 20:30:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't let religion come between you. i am an atheist so i don't believe in either religion. I do believe that people fall in love with who they were meant to. if you truly love him, marry him. it is wrong to expect him to change his lifestyle if your not willing to change yours!
2007-03-05 20:37:15 · answer #9 · answered by matt c 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
if Jesus was really your lord you wouldn't consider turning your back on Christ, who died for you. The Bible which is the word of God does not allow you to marry an unbeliever- listen we are all His creation but we are not all His children, Jesus Himself told the pharasees who their real father is--satan. The 'Allah' they pray to- is NOT the God of the Bible, Who's Son is Jesus.
Leave that man, go to Jesus, if the Holy Spirt was in your heart I wouldn't have to even tell you this.
2007-03-05 20:33:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋