Help me Help Me Help Me!!!!!!!!! Okay I'm still in love with my ex boyfriend but we havent verbally talked in like to years but we talk over the internet sometimes. Like we always talk about our relationship and he says he still loves me and all this stuff? Is he lying? Should I tell him how I feel? I'm just to scared of getting my feelings hurt? It took long enough to get over him the first time. What should I do?
2007-03-05 12:21:28 · 16 answers · asked by rainakafreak_egirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's easy to love the memory of someone special. It's easy to think I might have been to hasty when you have a couple nice convos with this person and your are lonesome otherwise. This is temptation asking if you want to be strong or to succumb to old outmoded habits and conditioning.
This sort of thing usually happens just before we get exactly what we want - so I suggest you turn away from the past and look toward the future. The new is always greater than the old and as terrific as the old one seemed the new one will be that much better. Know it. Expect it. The RIGHT one is just around the corner.
Peace!
2007-03-05 12:27:22 · answer #1 · answered by carole 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello~
Frist you need to think about the reasons you both broke up to start with, has either one of you changed since that time?
I think that before you tell him how you feel you frist need to know if he is playing around with you or being serious.
It takes a long time to get over people that seems to be the love of your life (at the moment) So be careful as to not get your heart broken or have to go through the process of getting over him yet again( Honestly I don't think you got over him the frist time)
Take some time away from chatting with him online IF he is really serious about you and means what he say those 3 words that people find so easy to roll out of their mouths. When you come back online then you'll have all sorts of messages from him. Let that be a sign that he may be serious.
Also during the break from the feelings still being with your X get out and meet some other guys. You know he's not the only one out there so get yourself out of the box and see what else is out there for you. You just might find that your NOT still in love with this x of yours.
In whatever you do I wish you the best of luck but don't be fooled by someone telling you 3 words that can easily be said but not always easily showed.
Take care and have a wonderful week!
~Ssgtmommy
2007-03-05 12:32:18 · answer #2 · answered by ssgtmommy01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay first of all go get that book "Girl, He Is Just Not Into You." Hello sweetie I hate to be the one to bring on the bad news but just move on! If he really loved you don't you think he would have called, sent flowers or something to prove his love? It is very easy to say things on a computer when you do not have to look that person in the face! Are you still in love with him because you have not found another? The best advice someone ever told me was you have to kiss alot of frogs to meet your prince and this is true. A lot of times when we get out of a relationship we are still in love with the RELATIONSHIP not the person. As people we like to be with someone, and when we aren't it is hard to be a lone. I remember when I was in love and that person and I broke up, I remember how much it hurt and how I thought I would never find another. He also contacted me a few years later and said the I love you crap and you know what as much as it hurt I had to say sorry you missed out the first time, if you really loved me you would have tried to save us! Go get yourself a new outfit get all dressed up and go kick it on the town with your friends, stop looking for love it will find you when you are least expecting it too! Also stop talking to him cut him off everytime you let him make contact and say things that he doesn't mean you get hurt! So honey stop hurting yourself! Let him go move on I promise there are more out there and I promise there is someone that will love you for you and will never leave you or continue to hurt your feelings! Good Luck!
2007-03-05 12:35:06 · answer #3 · answered by surfjax32 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you *ever* want to get over this guy, you will *not* give him any of your time. The more you invest, emotionally, the more it will hurt later on when (not "if") he hurts you again. I can tell you from experience that if there's even a glimmer of doubt or suspicion in your mind, do not ignore it. As a woman (especially), know that you should *always* trust your instincts! It's one of the few good things we have going for us.
He may or may not still love you. People tend to throw around those words when they know that it can work to their benefit by doing so. You may still love him, but no one deserves someone who is only out to toy with their emotions. You're better off being happy with yourself, by yourself (along with good friends and a loving family).
2007-03-05 12:37:03 · answer #4 · answered by Smurfette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think back to why you broke up in the first place. Me and my ex do the same thing but i know that he will only hurt me again like he did the first time. Don't ever go back, you moved on continue moving on. It will only end the same as before. You are forgetting all the bad things that happened and focusing on the good things. Be honest and remember it for the way it really was. As for what should you do, that is entirely up to you, i'm just giving my view.
2007-03-05 12:28:14 · answer #5 · answered by jimmy_chick78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you nevertheless have emotions to your ex? in case you dont have emotions, dont hardship/sense in charge too a lot! he's your ex boyfriend, you're sure to constantly think of a few issues he does are candy. Ive gotta say nevertheless....... in case your boyfriend properly-knownshows out i don't think of he would be happy! maybe it may well be suited in case you informed him your self, i think of he'd understand extra in case you heard it from you and he would rather have the means to help if youre puzzled approximately all of it! :) i'm hoping it seems ok!
2016-12-18 06:28:01 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you once got hurt by him he''ll prob. hurt u again mabey worse. You could tell him that you have feelings for him but you just wanna stay close friends because he hurt you before. And be honest tell him you afraid. I think you schould move on, and find a BETTER man that will treat you right!!
Best Of LUCK!!! :)
2007-03-05 12:29:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to widen your social circle of friends. You are thinking of your ex becos you miss him. I understand how you feel. But you need to let go, and let it be happy memories.
You are worthy of someone out there who will love you whole-heartedly and believe me this is true as it happened to me. So don't ponder on it too much, ok?
2007-03-05 12:26:21 · answer #8 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loved you as he says... he would be looking for you, asking you out and trying to win you back, I think he's just doing that to see what he gets.
Take care..... Don't get hurt AGAIN!
2007-03-05 12:25:35 · answer #9 · answered by BitterSweet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what we are same problems about my ex also but we are stil love each other,also im scared that someday my feelings getting hurt what ive do is ive tel him but it is not mean that im expecting that he will cme back to me.......maybe your bf is not lying what i mean is he is still love you bt dnt expect that he will come back to you because there is posibility that someday you getting hurts....just tel him that you stil love him but dnt xpect.....ok.....
2007-03-05 12:36:43 · answer #10 · answered by gimerel_talde 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋