In short, im 18 & a sr in hs & want to leave hs w/2 months left & want to leave my mark before its over, & want to be remembered well. basically, ive gotten into my own bubble in a few classes & want to change it. im known as someone who likes to fool around & joke, but shy in class. in middle school, i talked a lot more in class, & in frosh yr, but by soph yr i got disgruntled w/ politics in sports & quit them & became more independent & to myself. i had a rebound end of jr yr where i became more highly regarded & self confident again, talking in many classes & all the friends back again & new ones, & after spending part of summer prepping for soccer, as i finally had a chance to make vars as most of the players graduated, i missed a tryout cause of wisdom teeth & didnt make it. it hurt me at first, not talking in many classes, creating a bubble, however it didnt hurt much cause i still had a rep as being that character. but then my friend ruined my chances w/ a (more below)
2007-03-05 12:18:39 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
a girl i wanted to meet, but tht blew up, & i was upset & kept to myself since the end of Nov. it wasnt 'til about a couple weeks ago i recovered/rediscovered myself again & realized all along i made WAY too big a deal of girls/sports/class, & could have been self confident all along. it took that time to recover, but i feel it might be too late, now that things are winding down, & i have only really regressed (a lot of those people just ignore me now). i want to get back, & i feel like i could have confidence now, but after realizing my regrets & what i should have done, can i really be blamed? why do you have to be made into yourself by sr yr in hs? But most of all, what can i do to jump in & take over the class without being phony & out of the blue (most teachers stopped calling on me cause i messed up & theree was nothing there). is it too late?
2007-03-05 12:26:39 · update #1
It is never too late to turn things around! But, please don't fall into the idea that "making your mark" means that you should do something crazy and get in trouble. This will just get back farther then when you started. Trust me, no one looks back in the hs days and fondly remembers that prank that one guy pulled. It sounds like you are still putting to much pressure on yourself. Why should it matter what everyone else thinks about you? Are you happy about who you are? Don't worry if you are not, you don't have to have everything fgured our by 18.
Just because the teachers don't call on you doesn't mean that they will not notice a difference in your behavior and studies. You have to start living for yourself and no one else. Apply yourself to your studies because you want to better yourself, not just because you want to stand out. Believe me, once you get to college everything about hs begins to fade. I barely remember anything about it anymore and what I do remember is much less important then it once was.
2007-03-05 12:42:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. First, try to actually keep it short. You went on so long that it got boring.
You have seen some things about yourself that you would like to change. That is cool. And you can achieve this. But not overnight. And not drastically. Relax. Try to just be open to people and they will respond to this. From this openness will come opportunities to learn how to use humor and showcase your qualities.
Don't try to become another person in the time left in your school year. You will end up being embarressed by looking silly because you act like someone you are not.
Believe it or not, in a year or two it won't matter at all. You will go on to build a life that has little, if anything, to do with the kids you went to school with. Put your energy and focus on your future.
2007-03-05 20:48:29 · answer #2 · answered by Batty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of what you said boils down to you wanting to be remembered...as a good guy?...as a class clown?....or someone that was a great friend and terrific person. You probably don't know this, but the people you are with in high school will phase out over the whole country and go to many different colleges and jobs...they won't be the freinds you have all of your life...not the ones that matter. THe friends you make in college are more likely to be the ones you have a serious relationship with, and who will remember you.
2007-03-05 20:24:47 · answer #3 · answered by bflogal77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i didnt even read the whole thing. sounds like ur somewhat like i was. Quiet in class, loud when you get to know me. Have more confidence in yourself. Get a job, itll help a LOT. Dont worry about missing one chance, look at the past. Seriously, think about it. Do you remember any time in the past when you thought something was horrible? now, what do you think of it? this, too, will pass...
dont worry. If your in a bubble, talk to other people, other adults, students, do some community service, take a leadership role, what are you good at? socceR? ask the coach if you can get on. Practice and prove yourself. Remember, dont give up. You can do it. Believe in yourself, others will believe in you. IM or email me if you need anything, dontask_34@yahoo.com. Hope this helps. take care.
2007-03-05 20:24:16 · answer #4 · answered by Joey B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt try going out with a bang or anything... Your friends are the only one that is required to remember you... im 21 and i cant even remember peoples names that did goof off the last year of high school... its just not worth it... this is probably something you didnt want to hear but its the truth... save your rep and humiliation of something going wrong and be you! Dont try acting like someone else its not worth it!!!... try being more social! that always works! =) have fun and congrats on the upcoming graduation!!... dont do anything that will ruin your chance of graduating......
2007-03-05 20:27:46 · answer #5 · answered by csmutz2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try internet Dating, try Yahoo singles or friend finder, list your age as 19 and come clean later in chat. Use Yahoo messenger to contact the ladies of interest. get out and do some dating. It won't be easy at first it takes practice. But the self esteem and confidence will come.
2007-03-05 20:36:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's late in the year but if possible try-out for another sport. You can't go back, face it. Your HS acheivements are what they are. Be kind to everyone, sit with new people at lunch, talk to new people. Vote for yourself as prom king etc.... talk to guidance they may have something up their sleeve to help also. Pose for yearbook pictures.
Congratulations by the way on your accopmplishment and upcoming graduation!!
2007-03-05 20:34:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have no clue what ur talking about but if u want to be popular get some new clothes get ur wisdom teeth pulled be friendly and ask girls out on dates that will get u really popular oh yeah try out for sports like football and basketball
2007-03-05 20:25:52 · answer #8 · answered by michael g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, please remember you are not there to impress your peers, but to get a good education. I know high school is very very hard with all the peer pressure and such, but don't let a setback get you down.
Buck up, and you will be okay. You did not finish your statement but if a friend ruined your chances, that was not a friend.
Bottom line, please graduate.
2007-03-05 20:25:31 · answer #9 · answered by makeitright 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really think you should talk with a counsillor
you would be surprised at the help they can give you
2007-03-05 20:26:50 · answer #10 · answered by caffsans 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋