My friends marrying a jerk. I'm going to be her maid of honour at her wedding and i am proud to be, but i dont like her fiance.
I think she can do much better, but she loves him? I personally think she loves him but isn't in love with him. They fight a lot he hardly spends any time with her, and they're not even married yet.
I dont think i would tell her, but would you tell your friend if you didn't like their fiance.
2007-03-05 12:14:48 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-03-05 12:18:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah...carefully worded and only if my friend asked me. This happened to a friend of mine. SHe was asked to be the maid of honor because the original person couldn't make it. They were'nt BEST friends (had been years since they hung out). Anyway, my friend told the bride..oh...she was MAD! But like my friend said, she didn't feel right standing up there thinking her friends was making a mistake. She carefully worded what she said and gracefully backed out.
She pretty much said she wanted her friend to be happy and worried that the guy wasn't the one. What happened? She married him. My friend went to the wedding as a guest and didn;t talk to the bride for over a year. She later found out the bride was pregnant with twins. A year later the bride got pregnant again and then doubted if she had made the right decision. I never heard what happened after that..yikes!
2007-03-05 20:26:18 · answer #2 · answered by R! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a really hard one.
You want to be supportive of your friend, but what to do?
I think if you really feel that he doesn't treat her well and that he won't be good for her long-term, it's OK for you to tell her gently that you have reservations about him. Not that he's bad but that he doesn't treat her as well as you think she deserves and that you are concerned about the future of the relationship. Tell her that you are trying to look out for her, and that you will support her decision (whatever it is) and hope for the best, but that you wanted to give her an opportunity to really think/talk through the good and bad sides of the relationship before she gets married.
She may be having second thoughts herself and feeling like it's too late to back out. Your talk could help her avoid a big mistake.
Good luck.
2007-03-05 20:25:09 · answer #3 · answered by Abigail 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is OK to express your feelings about your friends fiance.It's a delicate thing though,you need to use tact to make your point,without hurting your friend.If you two are good friends,I believe she would respect your opinion and thoughts without getting mad.People sometimes can't look outside the relationship that they are in and see the bad things going on.
2007-03-05 20:31:30 · answer #4 · answered by rockman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i would say something i would ask her what she sees in him and let her tell me what makes him the guy she must marry. maybe their a side of him that she sees noone else does.
2007-03-05 20:18:29 · answer #5 · answered by Juliaysha247 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, don't let your friend make a mistake and if they do fail then she can't say that you didn't tell her so.
2007-03-05 20:25:28 · answer #6 · answered by L3monDr0p 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would, but it never turns out good for the friendship.
2007-03-05 20:19:50 · answer #7 · answered by vospire s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋