To all the mothers or fathers of two or more children, is it difficult? I have a 3 year old son and I recently gave birth to a little girl a week ago and I feel like my life is over (I'm only 21) and I feel like it's going to be very difficult raising two kids. Is this a normal feeling after the birth of a second child. Will this feeling go away?
2007-03-05 12:13:59 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I have a 4 yr old son and a 6 month old daughter. It is definitely harder with two kids vs one kid. At the hospital after my daughter was born, my dad told me that most people think 2 kids mean one for each parent, but that it's really 2 for each parent. At this point I feel like I never get a break, especially since I'm a stay-at-home mom. But I am confident that it will get better.
I'm assuming that with your 3 yr old you were able to go places and do things, and almost began to feel like you had everything under control. At least I felt that way. Now with a baby it's back to square one, and there is absolutely no control. But that baby will eventually become a little girl, and things will get easier. At least I keep promising myself that :-) Hang in there!
2007-03-05 12:20:17 · answer #1 · answered by reflux mommy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-16 08:38:46 · answer #2 · answered by fette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you may be suffering a little bit of postpartum depression. Most new mothers feel a little blue and overwhelmed after they've given birth. Is it hard raising two children? Well, I have 2 and I can tell you it's not easy, but it's not hard either, because it's really so rewarding. My 2 are 4 and a half years apart, yet they are best friends. They do a lot of things together and it's always been that way. There will be times when it seems like you have more than you can handle, but there will also be times when you look at them and can't believe the time has flown so fast. You have it within you to do this, just remember that!
2007-03-05 12:22:23 · answer #3 · answered by Vicky L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm pregnant with #2, and I'm hoping it'll be easier because they'll have each other to play with.
Post partum depression is very real and scary. If you find yourself feeling like you want to hurt yourself or your kids, or like you want to run away from home, please talk to your doctor right away. Zoloft is a beautiful thing! I have it packed in my hospital bag and ready to take as soon as this kid is OUT (I had to stop taking it because of the pregnancy, but I want my happy pills back!). You won't believe how different you'll feel on meds, if that truly is the problem.
You're so young. What kind of support do you have? Can your mom or sister come take care of you for a few days? Where's Dad? What can he do to help you more, so that you don't feel hopeless?
LOTS of people have raised more than one kid, and been fine. There's a girl down the street from me who's 23, and she has a 7 year old, a 5 year old, and a 2 year old, and she just got divorced, the poor kid. But she's ok, and you will be too. Lean on the people in your life who love you, they'll help you get through this.
2007-03-05 12:49:52 · answer #4 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I am 22 and I have a 2 year old and a 6 month old (both boys) it is hard and it can feel some times like your life is over but if you try to get both your children into a good and similar routine then you will have the ability to go out and do the things you need to and want to. My boys both have a nap in the afternoon which means every morning I have time to do the things I need to do, and some time to myself in the afternoon. Then I put them both to bed at 7:30pm every night giving me the ability to go out when I want to.
It is a little harder with newborns because they just sleep whenever but one of the best things you can do if your driving around a lot is get a car capsule so you can take the baby in and out of the car without waking her up (that way she wont be grumpy).
2007-03-05 12:58:01 · answer #5 · answered by rtozanis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would keep an eye on the "I feel like my life is over", because you may be suffering from post-partum depression. I love having two children, I think it's wonderful. Don't get me wrong, there are days where I would love to just shut the door and have a moment of peace and quiet, but I wouldn't change it for the world. Your oldest can be such a big help! Use it to your advantage. Have him help you with little things. Can you get Mommy a diaper for your sister? Can you get Mommy the burp cloth, etc.? I wish you the best of luck.
2007-03-05 12:21:30 · answer #6 · answered by Melissa R 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can also think of it as you have born your best friends (your children--love, hug, and kiss them early). If you are raising children on your own hard work. Getting pregnant early is good because you get to grow with your children and get it over with. Your 3 year old is at the age for Child Development School that will give you some time.
2007-03-05 12:22:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like you are going thru the normal postpartum blues. Its not easy raising kids period! Your hormones are out of whack. Give yourself some time.The baby is only a week old. If these feelings dont subside or get worse you need to seek treatment. In the meantime try to rest and just know that it will get better!
2007-03-05 12:20:01 · answer #8 · answered by SKITTLES 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try raising 6 all under 10 years old.
Remember this, you are not the first to do it and you won't be the last. You don't have to be there for every second of each of your children's day.
2007-03-05 12:29:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very normal.... talk to your doc. you might have postpartum depression. The best advice is to still find time to spend away from your children and alone with your husband. your life is far from over... it is just beginning. you have 2 beautiful children who depend on you ... dont give up, just find some help. Good luck.
2007-03-05 12:22:48 · answer #10 · answered by sushihen2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋