I like this guy who is me and my brothers friend. He flirts with me all the time. I asked him out and he said no. But he still flirts with me and acts like he likes me. When we are alone it is awesome, but when we are with other people he is a jerk.
2007-03-05 12:06:11 · 7 answers · asked by Britt 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Perhaps he's gay and doesn't know it. Or he might not be attracted to you and doesn't want to mess up your friendship. I dunno, but I hope this helps.
2007-03-05 12:15:38 · answer #1 · answered by Rhettski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a typical guy to me. Flirts in private because flirting is fun and you're responsive because you're into him. However, if he said no when you asked him out, he prolly just thinks of you as a fun, play around friend. Either that, or he feels like he should be the one to ask. If the flirting is bothering you, you are perfectly within your rights to ask him to tone it down if he doesn't like you. Just bluntly ask if he likes you or not, and if he says no, ask him to stop the flirting because it's confusing and mean.
At the same time though, I enjoy a good flirty friendship... So if the feelings you have aren't all that strong, you could just keep having fun.. If he's a jerk in front of other people, he's either insecure about himself, or wants to make it clear to you that he's not wanting more.
2007-03-05 20:12:32 · answer #2 · answered by Lynn G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brittany,
This guy is emotionally immature. That plus the fact that you are willing to put up with this treatment tells me you are both pretty young. Under 18? Probably if you are trolling your bro's friends for a date... If he doesn't have the maturity to either like you and date you and treat you well or stop jerking you around, then stop talking to him. When he comes over, avoid him completely. Go out on your own and find another guy. I think he might like you but is afraid of the mess it would make between him and your bro, and he just can't deal with all the emotional stuff that would come along with the relationship. I think this guy needs to grow up and you need to get out of this situation because if you don't already have low self-esteem, this situation will make sure you get that problem. Life is tough like this sometimes but do what's best for you and you will be happy in the long run. If he really likes you, he will have to pursue you in order to get you to spend time with him. Then he will have to deal with the issues it may cause with your bro, etc. If he's not mature enough to handle that, then he's not mature enough to be dating anyway.
2007-03-05 20:09:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I think he just a big flirt. You can do way better than that. Find a guy who you want to be with that also wants to be with you. Forget about the outher guy. Make him a lil jealous, it will make him regret that he didn't say yes and it will make you feel a heck of alot better.
2007-03-05 20:13:04 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps it's his male ego. maybe he DOES like you but wants to make the first move but doesnt know how. just wait and see how things play out... good luck!
2007-03-05 20:14:34 · answer #5 · answered by b3lla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes either just wierd or a true player my bests on the 2nd one
2007-03-05 20:11:21 · answer #6 · answered by dd d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel..i have the exact same problem..it sucksss guys are soo dumb sumtimes..idk i like my bro's friend and we were about to date but now he has a gf idk its juss so weird..im sorry i don't know what to tell you either
2007-03-05 20:11:16 · answer #7 · answered by ree<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋