I always have thoughts that i will never get asked out on a date.?

Question

I am not very pretty. No one understands how i feel. I feel wierd talking to my mom about dating. I feel like no one will ask me out. How do i put my self out there and date? i am 13 and i want to date. How do i get boys to notice the inside of me. If i be there friend, they will think that is all i want to be. What do i do?

Answer 1

You're 13. You shouldn't be dating now, anyway.

I know that's not what you want to hear, especially because you're stressing about how pretty you are, or aren't, and are worried that you'll never be wanted.

Trust me. You can grow up a LOT between now and 18, and you probably will. Between now and then, you can learn how to make the most of what you've got, beauty-wise, and learn to assemble a decent wardrobe of clothes that flatter your assets. Work on your personality by being kind and appearing confident. Learn the art of conversation. Do well in your studies. Learn to take care of your health, and lose weight if you need to.

When the time comes, and you're mature, you'll have no problem attracting mature men.

It's sad that at your age, you've probably been sold the lie that men want women who look like supermodels and act like hookers. That's what boys want--and by "boys", I mean a good many adult men who haven't grown up, as well.

Real men want women who are healthy (not necessarily rail-thin), intelligent, confident, well-spoken, kind (as opposed to bitchy), well-informed, and who show a great deal of self-respect in the way they look, dress and act.

If you expect that you're going to get any teenaged boy to be interested in any of that, you might as well buy an elephant and expect it to purr. At this point, any boy who wants to date you is not going to care so much about WHAT'S inside you, as he is about GETTING inside you.

So don't worry about what you can't have now. Instead, prepare yourself to have what you want later, when it will be available.

Answer 2

Be outgoing, but not annoying... talk to them like you would talk to your best friend. Once you've befriended them, and you happen to make eye contact once in awhile, don't turn away and pretend it didn't happen. Give them a little smile and nod. Then turn and walk away. If you do this to many of your potential "boyfriends", chances are, one of them will probably end up liking you. Remember, always be yourself, you never should have to change yourself to get guys. and don't' worry, your only 13! You still have the rest of middle school, high school, college, and the rest of your life! Trust me, you'll have plenty of boyfriends. And also the "If i be there friend, they will think that is all i want to be" stuff, that is not necessarily true. Most people have better relationships if they are good friends with the person first. I know, I've had experience. Also some girls mature master than others. (And I'm not talking about on the outside.) It does seem like talking to guys comes so naturally to some girls, but just give it some time and if you keep talking to potential guys it will keep getting easier.

Remember: No guy is worth crying over, b/c the one that will make you cry....... won't.

Answer 3

You're 13? Simple- don't date! You're way too young, for starters, boys that age are just silly. If you don't feel pretty now, give yourself 6 years... those same boys you thought you wanted to date will be dying to go out with you, and you will have several other opportunities... you will have long forgotten about them. Just enjoy your friendships for now, you will have plenty of time for dating later...

Answer 4

Ok really I've never known a girl who likes to talk to their mom about dating. So try to start maybe flirtering a little bit or find just one guy you really want and just be yourself and if you don't get a date that shouldn't really matter just go and have fun with your friends do something, just do something kind of crazy but not too crazy to just get a little attention. well good luck and have fun

Answer 5

I feel your pain (only i'm 16...and still don't have a bf).
Well, just be yourself! I've learned that if you talk to guys more, they'll get to know you better! Just go up to a guy in your class that you think is good-looking and start talking to him (talk about the class, homework...then casually change the subject to something interesting...like his favorite candy or something) Then just move on from there. Good Luck!

Answer 6

there is some one for everyone .if you have a beautiful personality any guy who trully likes you he will ask you out no matter what .think it like this you are just 13 and bearly blooming ,i was ugly when i was 13 ,yeah i was .as i started growing i started wearing makeup and dressing pretty and excercising.i transformed from ugly duckling to a beautiful swan.everybody has something that makes them unique,like their natural beauty.just dont let yourself go,love yourself first and then people will start loving you.dont ever under estimate yourself or let people put you down.good luck and dont change who you are if you ever turn pretty.

Answer 7

you shouldn't rush into it. it will happen when it's meant to. having a whole bunch of guy friends is the best thing for you. talk to them, bond with them, learn to understand what it is that 13 year old boys want in a girlfriend or date. one of these days, one of those boys is going to open his eyes and realize what's right in front of him--you! oh yeah, and for the record, you are beautiful inside and out, i don't have to see your picture to know that! don't rush your life, enjoy it and have friends and the boy thing will happen when it's meant to! take care! good luck!

Answer 8

the best thingo to do is be yourself, you only 13 dont worry so much, if you were 50 then it would be difrent but as of now enjoy your life and love will find you, its weird how it works, but it hits you at the most unhexpected times, you got plenty of time to date. BE YOURSELF!!!