I've always been told that man are all dogs and I've witnessed so much crap that men have done to back that statement up. So now I'm like scared to put myself out there with anyone because I think that I'm going to get caught up again in something that isnt worth it. I'm scared that the man will let me down in some way because it's happend to me and to so many other women that I know too many times. I want a relationship and I want to be happy but how can I when I don't feel that I can trust a man?
2007-03-05 11:42:14 · 19 answers · asked by kmcf7188@sbcglobal.net 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Trust 'em when you know 'em. Don't be afraid, just be cautious.
I was like that (before I met the love of my life Kiet,ofcourse) but I ended up realizing that every guy was like that, some more than ohers. It's supposabley a 'phase' women go through, I just say t happens.
Your not alone, so don't worry about it. You'll be ready to look for the right guy when you feel your ready, remember to do what you want and don't go too much ith rumors or people's opnions of the one yor intrested in.
Best of luck! <3
2007-03-05 11:47:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the easiest thing i can think of is that before you start dating this person or whoever know them for about 10 months to a year. a long time yeah i know. but it will pay off! this way you can see what the person is like. and not all men are dogs you just have to find the right one. some guys are super sweet and will do anything for you and other just dont give a ****. dont be scared you have to be confident and find the right one. look how many happy married couples there are in the world. and there not all with dogs. hope i helped :)
2007-03-05 11:48:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters, Quit using being scared of men as an excuse and come on out of the closet, Or , you need to get into an old fashioned holiness church, meet some married couples who are happy and see what good men are like and realize that ALL the women YOU know CHOSE NOT to pick a good man, but CHOSE to pick "dogs"instead.There ARE good men out there, but you have been looking in ALL the wrong places obviously and hanging out with the wrong girls.
2007-03-05 11:49:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well being hurt is always a risk that you have to take when entering a relationship but you can minimize it by asking certain questions and seeing if this person is right for you. That way you know before you get to emotionally involved. Little things will show if you can trust a guy, do he call when he says he will, how does he act with you in front of his friends, is he on time or ALWAYS late, will he talk openly when you ask him questions or does he clam up? Im not saying have a list of 50 questions on date 1 but if you feel your falling for this guy better to get the imporant things on the table before you get really hurt.
2007-03-05 11:49:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can live in fear, or you can try to trust someone. Most men I know aren't dogs. The ones that are, everybody knows they are, even women know when the meet them, and then go diving in head first, and get right what they knew what was gonna happen. dont be a victim, be friends with a man before you start dating, that is the best way to go.
2007-03-05 11:49:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would seek counseling. Not all men out there are bad dogs (just most of 'em, lol). When you are ready to open up to a new relationship just take it slow.
Trust your instincts. Learn to rely on yourself. Work on what makes you happy - don't undersell yourself. Once you realize what a great person you are and that you deserve only the best partner - your newfound confidence will attract the right person to you.
2007-03-05 11:51:03 · answer #6 · answered by greyrider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not every man is the same. I agree that some men are dogs and pigs and whatever else but some are the perfect gentlemen. You won't know unless you take the chance but make sure you just don't jump head first into the first one unless you feel right. Good Luck :-)
2007-03-05 11:51:33 · answer #7 · answered by golden tigress 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont let those people tell you every guy is bad. there are a lot that are, I will give you that, but thats not what most of us are like. I dont understand how a person can think just because a person is a man that they cant ever be trusted, and I know there are some women that are devious and bad, its not just men
2007-03-05 11:48:39 · answer #8 · answered by Silent Jimmy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider forgetting about relationships for a while, and focusing on friendships, instead.
Might give you some opportunities to get to know some guys and learn to value and appreciate them as human beings (and more easily recognize those cases when they're not worthwhile), without the pressure of a relationship hanging over you.
2007-03-05 11:48:07 · answer #9 · answered by tantrickster 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i got only one advice for you. when u get out there,dont rush into things.dont be too hard to get, but dont just right into in either. before u have sex, make sure you are confident in a man. make it kind of your check point. tell a man u want to wait a bit longer to make sure.if he disappears quickly,means he wasnt serious. and the most important thing!!! dont ignore the red flags. at the beginning people tell the truth about themselves.in form of a joke or smth,but they do.ask a man to describe himself. if he says: scared of commitment and player, cheater.Then you shouldnt think it was just a joke. and then...dont ever think you can change anyone!
2007-03-05 11:50:21 · answer #10 · answered by Mystery_gal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋