I am an emotional mess. I’m a woman with 3 small children. At the time that I met this guy I only had 2 from a dad relationship the third one is his. I met this guy 4 years ago he was what I was looking for in a Man. Smart, well rounded He had a small child who was the same age as my oldest one. We exchange #s & began to talk he sounded at the time like he knew what he wanted, we were both on the same page. I felt that something was wrong so I told him that he needed to move on that he should explore the world. I didn’t want to tie him down CZ I was looking for a Husband. He would always tell me no I did everything that I wanted. I’ve been around. 3 ½ years to our relationship his babies mom past away; this is how he found out by court that his son of 10years was not his. I was pregnant at this time, he decided I was not shore to move in together, but I went with it. We were living 2gether for a 1 ½ when he left me. He tells me he loves me, but he can’t be with me right now. I found out he had cheated on me with is friend and now he tell me he didn’t explore everything. The bad thing I still Love him. Where did I go wrong?
2007-03-05 11:28:49 · 10 answers · asked by Natural 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When he told you he wanted to "explore" things, that was his way of saying he wasnt ready for a committment and when you moved in, he got what he wanted without committment.Heres what you do now.Focus on your 3 babies.You are MOMMY to them and always will be.They will love you when no one else does they will always want to defend you even if you are in the wrong.They are committed to you.Get in a good church that teaches and preaches old fashioned holiness and you give your heart to the LORD, HE will see that you get a good man that isnt going to use you for a sex toy , tell you he loves you and keeps stringing you along to use as long as you will let him.Dump that jerk yesterday.
2007-03-05 11:36:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to take a break , step back and take a good, long , hard look at your life. You have three children that need you right now and that depend on you. SO for the sake of your children pull yourself together. Second, let this man go. It's obvious that he isn't ready for a long term commitment and it's better that you know that right now. Third of all, you don't need anymore kids so take proper precautions so that you don't end having a 4th kid. Take a break from all relationships. You need time to be by yourself and spend time with your kids. You didn't do anything wrong. The relationship just didn't work out. I know that you will have to stay in contact with him because he is the father of your baby but maybe it's time to move on with your life. Plus, why would you want to be witha man that has already been unfaithful to you?
2007-03-05 11:41:09 · answer #2 · answered by debbie_75052 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did nothing. It was that man that you lived with. He was a bad deal since you met him and his actions are not your fault. If you really want to know what is wrong, bluntly ask him. If he gives any reasons that put you into his problems, he is not for you. It is ok for you to still love him. It is natural. He put your trust and passion into a jar, kept it for a short period, then smashed it onto the floor. It is not your fault and will never be. If you want to talk, feel free to email me.
2007-03-05 11:35:33 · answer #3 · answered by Charlie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you and I had the same turn. I said I loved her, next morning she had shaving foam in her (his) face, and talked with a truck-driver's accent!!!
The second time I looked for love, she told me, better to look for another plastic surgeon, to fix my face.
So eventually I stopped dating. Until now. I feel I have waited enough. I am 71 years, and I feel like Travolta, in that movie....not Grease.... the other one.....no, not that one..... Evil Resident 2....
yes... that one... He was the monster, right?
Believe me girl, men are hardly like woman. In Rome, Italy; Romule (129 BC) convinced his brother he should stop dating female dogs, just minutes before he was accidentally hunted by a couple of Irish who wanted to track down the "Sasquatch".
Better stay alone until your kids are older. Do not blame yourself. That guy had that figured out, much before you figured he didn't have lunch in the same place twice.
2007-03-05 11:50:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly dear, I think he was not a good catch for you, or anyone else. He has a long history. You know "a lot of baggage".
Hope he gets what he deserves. As for you, God will give you the peace you need. It is not your fault!
2007-03-05 12:03:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all i think this is stupid: why did u keep ur husband child?
2nd of all: its nice that he really said that he loved you:
3rd of all: no offence but i don't think u should have met him at all. because you nver know if he is goin to leave.
4th of all: i would stay single and be with someone just as friends untilllllllllll it got really into it.
2007-03-05 11:34:32 · answer #6 · answered by Kayla H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like Woody Allen said. He had that planned before you had a chance to notice he was not sincere.
Better cool off for a while. Keep it safe for as long as you can. And please ask your Ob-Gyn doctor, for Partial Bilateral Salpingectomy (PBS).
2007-03-05 11:57:26 · answer #7 · answered by Night Hawk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you didn't go wrong! He did! You must believe that, if you truely wish to move on.
2007-03-05 11:40:49 · answer #8 · answered by the anomaly23 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
control your thought
2007-03-05 11:32:05 · answer #9 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He went wrong, not you! MEN....
2007-03-05 11:32:16 · answer #10 · answered by tres_maqnifique 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋