i am dating men my age, make it clear that casual sex doesn't interest me but that seems to be all they want. is it men my age or online dating in general? i'm in good shape and dress nicely but i don't think i'm sending out a signal that i'm sexually available. any advice?
2007-03-05 11:16:41 · 15 answers · asked by lana s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's men in general. I'm in high school and it is the same thing in my age group. You just have to search extra hard for that one nice guy among the hundreds of pervs.
2007-03-05 11:22:19 · answer #1 · answered by Heather 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's so depressing, it's the same with men my age (I'm 34). Like you, I'm in shape and I dress nicely but don't expose loads of flesh or anything, but it seems all men want is casual sex. Even when I have had "friends" make a move on me, they make it clear pretty soon that they are not interested in a relationship but only sex. I'm not that kind of girl! I think it's because the whole sexual revolution was a huge con on women. Men can get free sex with no strings attached from someone, so a lot of them don't bother with all the other stuff (ie love, intimacy, caring, sharing). It's sad and pathetic and destructive. The ones who are genuine are already in relationship.
Sorry, I have no advice. Things are messed up.
2007-03-05 11:25:47 · answer #2 · answered by Victoria W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to online dating!
Most men I've encountered in online dating, have been focused on getting casual sex. I think the reason for this is that the majority of men and women alike in online dating circuits are looking for sexual relationships, mostly because they have "failed" in real life dating... Not to say that you have. I do both myself, and I have had some good experiences as well as bad.
Many people go online to date because they are insecure with themselves. A lot of women online seem to think the only way to attract men is through sex, so they give it up too easily... well I guess that's everywhere really. It then makes it hard for those of us looking for something real, because it acclimates the guys to easy sex. Keep to your ideals and morals, and sooner or later you will find a guy who at least has some tact about it. In all reality, dating is very much about sex for most of the population. What you need is someone who wants to know you too. It's not that we're opposed to getting some action, we're just not easy, ya know?
You just have to understand that most people see online dating as an easy way to hook up for no strings sex. I think only maybe 1 out of every 10 men that I've talked to have actually been expressly interested in a real relationship. Just have to remember that online, you're exposed to a much higher number of potentials, and everyone can talk to you... so you get all the info, instead of being able to be kinda picky like you would in face to face situations.
Good luck, don't give up, there really are some great guys online! Just keep your eyes open, and be careful.
2007-03-05 11:27:21 · answer #3 · answered by Lynn G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the problem isn't you, or men your age necessarily, I think it's online dating in general. To be honest the majority of men online are married - it's really hard to meet someone in general, much less in an environment where people are totally anonymous and can be anything they want - very few choose to manifest themselves as honorable men looking for a committed relationship. It also may have a little to do with men your age. It's sort of mid-life crisis time and most have either just gotten out of "bad" marriages and are looking for fun or have never been married and just want to get laid anyway. Love is out there though. Keep looking! Good luck!!!!
2007-03-05 11:24:26 · answer #4 · answered by Margaret M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex on the Internet is safe. In real life you can get turned down, fail to perform, get made fun of, expose under size and many more things. So you can be anybody on the net and no one need know. Unlike some I think the net performs a service for otherwise unsuccessful people, men and women. So leave them alone sez I, it may very well prevent mental illness or violent behavior.
2007-03-05 11:27:26 · answer #5 · answered by bigjohn B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys will be guys, but not all guys want just sex online. Some guys do want a relationship! I am doing online dating, and I am not looking for just somone to have sex with. I am 27 and I feel now is the time to settle down with someone, I want to get a relationship and possibly marriage. I feel I am now finacially prepared.and ready.
2007-03-05 11:36:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie this happens all the time. It's not you or how you're viewed by others. It's just how things have gotten to be these days. I've run into that problem a lot, and I'm 25. It happens with all ages. Just stay...you. Don't change for anyone and Mr. Right will find you!
2007-03-05 11:25:16 · answer #7 · answered by Candie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's the online men. they do this at all ages. if you are online looking to date, that makes it you are looking for sex. sorry, but that is how it is right now.
2007-03-05 11:22:09 · answer #8 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ignore those who are after sex coz the right person is on the way.
2007-03-05 11:26:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a wonderful thing and it feels good to both men and women!! They enjoy it very very much!!
2007-03-05 11:33:39 · answer #10 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋