Rejection....what kind of feeling is this?

Question

..all of a sudden someone rejects you...how do you feel about that?

Answer 1

it hurts.... and the first few weeks could be hard, but eventually, you will find something else to focus on, and the hurt goes away...

Answer 2

That primarily depends on your evaluation of their ability to truly and accurately judge you.

If you think that they are intelligent, mature, and psychologically healthy enough to be able to accurately judge you, than you will probably take rejection very hard, because rejection is ultimately a judgment of yourself by another individual as not worthy to be around.

If you realize that they are not mature, psychologically healthy enough, and intelligent enough to be able to accurately judge you, than you wlll probably be able to shake it off pretty easily.

So when confronted with rejection, if you had for a long time unconsciously assumed that this person had all of those health and intelligence atttributes in enough quantities to be able to really see into you as a person, than maybe you need to re-assess that assumption.

If that assumption still seems solid, than search yourself to see if there are ways that you can improve yourself (don't invent any if there are none there!), and if there are, and if those came out in this person's rejection of you, than the rejection will be more easily handled if you humble yourself to admit those faults and seek to change them.

However, it is also possible (because Jim Morrison is right) people are always strange, that it has nothing to do with either of you or any inherent traits, just an inability to make your personalities (BTW- another factor that might help is an understanding of Meyers-Briggs/ Keirsey and Bates style personality types) fit together.

And if that is the case, than you simply need to make your own interior sense of yourself strong enough to be able to handle the fact that not everyone will always like you all the time.

And, no matter what faults on either side might have led to the rejection, always try and remember your positive attributes. Your intelligence, your quick wit, your horseback riding talent, your hula dancing (whatever you take pride in, are good at, etc).

Answer 3

Hurt ? Resentment ? Anguish ? Isolated ?.....But you know nobody can reject us if we have already accepted ourselves. If we accept to deal with the good, the bad and the ugly that life will throw at us. The negative of rejection is like the proverbial ostrich head in the sand. The positive of rejection is the motivation to discover new truth about ourselves and the world around us.

Answer 4

i have been rejected lately but 1st of all in retrospect i realise i am too fast in expressing myself as a gal told me. so i try not make the same silly mistake again but i am thankful she is not the right gal for me. in life we can be so obsess with someone that we can't see the truth until we reflect mths later. now i am seeing a better gal who appreciate me. cheers.

Answer 5

I'd probably try to figure out why they rejected me .

Answer 6

Hurt

Answer 7

It is rough, You are judged for your character showing your ability to bounce back and get back to normal life. Grieve and get on with life. Do not dwell on it.

Answer 8

Not so good