My sister in law is rude to me and very bossy. I have told my husband she bothers me and he won't talk to her. This is my brothers sister. We dont see her much now but when we do she keeps repeating rude comments. My husband is inviting her to my daughters first birthday and I dont want to be miserable the whole day. Should I ignore her and be nice and put up with her or stick up for myself?
2007-03-05 11:09:15 · 14 answers · asked by oneredhotmama09 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I MEANT THIS IS MY HUSBANDS SISTER
2007-03-05 11:10:15 · update #1
DULEXY I dont agree with your answer. He can call or see his sister anytime he wants to but he CHOSES NOT TOO Because she is annoying and Ignorant. I put up with her comments for years cause I wanted her to Like me but then I Said screw that and started telling her brother how she was treating me. If she is worried about losing her brother SHE NEEDS TO GROW UP. Her brother is not a little boy. He makes his own decisions. He will always be her brother. SO Nothing you said is an issue. All she has to do is start respecting me and then Things will be better. Thats all I expect.Just been a nice person trying to keep peace in the family.Thank you everyone for your advise.Im going to stick up for myself if she starts with me. I am not going to put up with it anymore especially in my own house. Its nonsense.
2007-03-07 01:31:57 · update #2
Since it is your husbands sister u should ignore her in public of everyone.But u should get her alone.Tell her that u love your husband and that is the only reason u put up with her crap. Let her know u don't appreciate all her rude comments. That if she insist on being rude,unconsiderate,and just down right stupid.Then next time your not going to take it and put her in her place.This way u have warned her.So if u do have to put her in her place u can tell your husband that u warned her.So it's all on her.Good luck hon.
2007-03-05 11:35:44 · answer #1 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have two sister-in-laws, and about to add another one this year. Sometimes the truth of the matter is that they really don't know that they are being rude or bossy.
Have you tried talking with her calmly? Maybe if you communicate with her how her actions make you feel, then she will try harder to be more conscious of her actions toward you. If she's married to your brother, she'll be around for a long time. If you love your brother which I'm sure you do, you'll also do this for him. If you do not do anything about your relationship with her now, you'll be finding family gatherings unbearable if she's around.
Don't ignore her, don't avoid her, don't be fake. Give her a chance to be a friend by being a friend to her and telling her how you feel, nicely. Believe me, it's better than always dreading having her around.
Good luck!
2007-03-05 19:33:30 · answer #2 · answered by Concerned mom 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a much better person than I am. I would have already told her to back off! Before the day of the party either call your SIL or go see her. Let her know that you have noticed her rude comments whenever you are together and that if she cannot keep them to herself, she is not welcome at YOUR daughters birthday party. Make sure that she understands what you are saying and if she is anything but cordial at the party, show her the door. I also think that your husband should man -up and let her know that she is out of line. Good luck!
2007-03-05 19:16:20 · answer #3 · answered by Mom23 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have the exact same problem, but I won't allow her in my home. My daughter is having a third birthday and my husband is upset that I don't want her here. But if he won't help bring about a resolution, I have to stick up for myself. I won't spend an entire day uncomfortable, especially my childs birthday.
2007-03-05 21:12:10 · answer #4 · answered by mistyboo143 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is family invite her. Is she saying rude things just to you or everybody. If it is just you then you and your sister in law need to talk. Not in an disrespectful way. Be understanding. She lost her brother. What did you lose? That may be why your husband will not talk to her because it does seem that this is something between you and her. And, to ignore her could make the rude comments worse. Hell hath no furry then a woman scorned, even if it is his sister. It appears you don't like her anyway. Ignore her and see what will happen to your kids! They will turn out like you and maybe ignore you.
2007-03-05 19:28:58 · answer #5 · answered by Don't Know 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tell her like it is this is the day that you celebrate your child's 1st birthday tell you either act nice or go home you shouldn't have to put up with this grammar school crap and do it privately not around other people just between the two of you
2007-03-05 19:20:12 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I have one of those also. And I would love to tell her off, but my brother wife and for the sake of his happiness I just smile and ignore her. If your husband won't confront her then just be the bigger person and don't let it get to you. She can't make you miserable, only you can make you miserable. Don't give her that control over you. Smile and realize how stupid she is.
2007-03-05 19:18:54 · answer #7 · answered by kanoe_angel 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Invite her and give her some of her own medicine. There must be something you can say. Sometimes, it is ok to get up and fight for what you believe is right. Good luck.
2007-03-05 19:20:30 · answer #8 · answered by green_baby_dragon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stick up for yourself! If she starts in pull her to the side and say Look! I don't know what your problem is with me but either tell me why you don't like me and why you treat me like crap or don't talk to me or say anything about me anymore!
2007-03-05 19:53:01 · answer #9 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl what is wrong with you???Stick up for yourself don't let her ruin such a special day.I've learned that when you get back at jerks like her they either put up or shut up!!!
Most of the time they just have big mouths.Good luck!!
2007-03-05 19:18:25 · answer #10 · answered by klueless 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋