are you single?

Question

or in a relationship? why is it that when you are single you secretly want to be loved then when you find yourself in a relationship.... you long for your single life again xx

Answer 1

When I was on my own I was very lonely and wanted to be loved. I wanted romance of the relationship the romantic dinners the cuddles by the fire place and the candlelight dinners and the love letters but now i am in a marriage, there are times I wish i was not because you do feel trapped and you have no say on what is on the tv. The arguments and his dirty socks left on the floor again! what often happens is there is no effort is in the intimacy anymore. you get used to each other. so you miss the romance and that is when you miss being single. you need to keep the romance alive in any relationship to spice it up and keep it interesting. being in a relationship is like a strict diet you look at the menu that has the nice tasty things but you know you cant have anything other than whats on the diet sheet!!

Answer 2

Single

Answer 3

I am single and always have been. I used to despair about it, do everything possible to change my state, and hope desperately for love. Now I have decided on a 'be careful what you wish for' stance. Obviously I still want to be loved and have a relationship with someone but I no longer care how long it takes as long as I can find the right person. There's no point in a relationship for a relationship's sake.

Answer 4

If you r with sum1 and want to b single, then the chances are you r not with the rite person, if u were really giving love and being loved in return, you wldnt wan2 b without that person. Its really hard to get the balance right, to find sum1 who loves in the same way as you do, but when u do u wldnt trade it 4 a singl life coz u wld miss them too much. Im single, bt was married 4 a long time - and im still not sure which 1 i prefer - they both have theire ups n downs - Love n life - its all crazy stuff eh ? * i think the answer about findin your own happiness hit the nail on the head - ** - good luk in whateva 1 u do - n good luk with either findin the person who stops u askin the question, or finding the singl life u want ,

Answer 5

Perhaps I can laminate this...(I have been and still single for 18 years)
1: He or she does not want to be hurt again

2: every person has a different outlook on what love is and when they are offered love it is usually the love that he or she did not expect

3:He or she does not see the love worth the compromise

4:single life has a lot to offer that relationships don't offer..to find out you have to find out for your self.....(it's a hard path)

5: Like a convict who just got out of jail for a long time tends to know only the jail and finds himself scared of freedom...same concept...a single person all of a sudden after being single for a long time tends to forget what it's like being with someone and of course gets scared and returns to being single cause it's safe or it's the only thing he or she knows..

Answer 6

I am very happily in a relationship, and I have no desire to be single. I think if you have a happy relationship that allows both people to have room to be independent...then you'll never long to be single. Of course being single you always want to be loved...that's human nature. But a healthy relationship shouldn't have you longing to be single..unless you feel trapped or unhappy!

Answer 7

When I was in a relationship I didn't want to be single. I liked having someone who was there for me and who loved me. He gave me space when I needed it so that probably helped. :)

Answer 8

Because we might want company so as not to feel lonely but deep inside we totally enjoy the sense of independence while single.

Answer 9

People are always wondering what if!
What if............. I was in a relationship, I would have someone to cuddle up to tonight.
What if..............I was single, I could come and go as I pleased.

I asked my Father the same question once, he said
Think big thoughts, but relish small pleasures......
A wise man indeed!!!

Answer 10

I`ve been single for 2 months after being with my ex for 6 years and i hate it,i miss having someone to care for and spend time with and laugh with,hopefully i`ll get used to it as i`ve not much choice!!