i am 17 is that too young to get engaged?

Question

we have been togather for two years and have been thru alot...even a long distance relationship. hes turning 18 and moving up here and engagement has been coming up alot and i think hes going to pop the question.

Answer 1

Personally, I think it's to young. But if you feel you're ready, it's up to you. Follow your heart.

Answer 2

Well first of all I wanna tell you that I am 17 and getting married this July so I know what you are going through. I asked a question like this on here before and I got some pretty harsh answers from people telling me things like my relationship would be over by time I am 25 and things like that.
I just want you to know that if you feel right about him and you guys really really love each other and are ready for a commitment then its fine. It is perfectly okay to get engaged, you can wait as long as you please to get married. And maybe things will change with you and him and maybe not. No matter what happens just do what you feel is right and listen to your heart!
Goodluck and I wish you and you boyfriend the best in life. And hopefully a great long marriage!

Answer 3

YES!

Are you the same person you were when you were 15? Of course not!

When he's the ONLY person you've dated from high school, what can you compare him to? How are you going to be able to say, YES! I know there are other people out there but I want him!

My advice: don't get married until you're finished with college. You BOTH need to gain some independence and learn more about yourselves before diving into marriage. Marriage is tough, no matter how much love you have.

I'm sure you love him. I really do. But right now you two aren't ready to move into together when you two haven't even had to pay bills yet or hold down a job.

Go to college. Experience life. THEN get married.

Answer 4

YES, I think that 17 is way too young to be getting engaged. At 17 you haven't really experienced life, you're just beginning to live your life. You should be thinking about going to college, what you want to major in , and possibly what kind of career you would like to have. At 17 you should be thinking about your high school prom, what you'll wear and who you will be going to the prom with. You should be going out with your friends and having the time of your life meeting new people and thinking about new and exciting things like traveling. Marriage is a serious commitment that you might not be ready for. Once you get married plans change and you might not get the opportunity to do the things you might have wanted to do. You might not be able to go to school because you have to work to pay bills and if an oopse happens and a baby comes into the equation, then things really do change. I say think about your future. You are very young and have plenty of time to think about marriage. If this person that you are with really loves and plans on being with you for the rest of your life then he shouldn't have any problems waiting an additional 3 to 4 more years while you finish school and get an education. Remember education is key to your success. Get your education first so that you will have something to fall back on.

Answer 5

Hi, I married a young girl of 17 many years ago. I had just turned 20. We both had known each other all our lives before we got married. The marriage lasted 9 months. No she was not pregnant. Through experience I would say no but no one knows how much you love him or how much love he has for you. If you feel that you can live with him through everything that life can throw at you and you are sure he will do the same for you then go for it. If you are not sure of that then don't. All the best which ever way you choose.

Answer 6

Is age 5 too young to go to the local park by themself ? Is age 13 too young to move out of the house and get their own apartment and job ? Is 17 too young to get engaged ?

Common theme with all these questions ? A person may feel that they are old enough...yet they haven't had the lifes experiences or maturity to step out and responsibly do those things yet.

Think of this . . . Project yourself in the future . . . Imagine you being 42 yrs. old. . . your 17 yr. old child just told you they are engaged to be married...your 17 yr. old child is trying to express and convince you that they KNOW they love the one to be engaged to because they've been together 2 yrs...and the other they love is only one year older . . . What is going on in your mind as a 42 yr. old parent of maturity and lifes experience behind them ? How would you answer your own question then ?
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Answer 7

There's no harm in waiting a bit. at least till you're 18. I've been with my bf for almost 3 years. We knew we wanted to get married when we were 17 but didn't get engaged till 19. Everything we thought just reassured itself. we are getting married in 1 1/2 years and will be 21 by then. We spoke to a pastor and he said we were very young and that most people who get married at this age don't last very long. But what he doesn't know is that we are both very mature adults and know what we want and have our goals in mind.
Don't drop out of school or do something that ruins your future goals- you should help eachother get further in life and not hold eachother back.
Talk to leaders that you trust and know you- school teacher/councelor? poastor? parent? grandparent/aunt/uncle? and talk to people who married young. They should be able to help you decide.
Make sure you follow your heart. Don't let anyone pressure you in or out of the wedding unless you know it's right.
I've heard stories of good and bad young married couples.
My great grandma and grandpa married at 18 and 17 and have been together for over 50 years.
My brother married at 18 and divorced a year later.
So you have to know for yourself.
Good Luck and God Bless

Answer 8

Unless you plan on having an eight year engagement, I think it's too young. The man I loved at 17 is no longer the man I love. We grow a lot during our early adulthood, and unfortunately, most often we grow apart. I say if you're still in love with each other at 25, tie the knot. Until then, just enjoy each other, maybe even live in sin if you must....but put off marriage until later in life.

Answer 9

Yes.

Most of my friends were engaged, discussed engagement, or were married by 21. There is nothing wrong with being young and in love, but you change a lot from when you are 17 to when you are 25 to when you are 40 and you may not be able to grow together. What I have seen from my relationship and the relationships of my closest friends is what the experts say: waiting is worth it. Those who married before 21 are struggling now and are far less happy than those of us who are still with our young loves but waited until we were settled as adults to get married. Babies, bills, and in-laws make your life a lot tougher than it needs to be.

My advice is to tell your bf that you are too young to get married because you want everyone to be happy when you tell them, not trying to talk you out of it (if you need examples watch MTV's 'Engaged and Underaged'. Instead talk about a much less expensive promise ring where you agree to get married in the future, but aren't going to get married in the immediate future. Then continue to date each other and have your own lives with your own friends. Then after college/the military/you have worked and lived on your own, discuss marriage. If you still feel the same way about each other and want to get married, do so.

To give you hope that true love can work over time, here are my/my friend's stories:

I met the love of my life at 19 (he was 20). We knew we wanted to get married 11 months into the courtship, but had to have a long distance relationship for 9 months (we saw each other 6 days in that time span). We will be engaged in a little over a year and plan to marry after we finish college and grad school.

D got engaged and pregnant at 17 and married at 18. She still lives with her inlaws and has never been to college, traveled, or worked outside the home. They are happy, but wish they waited.

S met L when he was 20 and they fell in love fast. He gave her a promise ring 13 months into the relationship and they will be engaged about 6 months after that (when he finishes college). They will get married when she finishes law school (2 years later).

B dated L all through high school. They went to the same college and got engaged in their senior year after 8 years of dating. They will be attending the same medical school and will be married 2 years from now.

E started dating R when she was 16 and he was 18. They lived together from when she was 20-22, then got married. They just celebrated their 30th wedding anniversary.

Young love works, just don't rush it!

Answer 10

If you are having any doubts, then you may not be ready. But if you feel that you two really belong together and that you will be able to support each other through "sickness and health," then go for it. A lot of people will express disapproval to being engaged at such a young age, but ignore them. If you feel it is right, and that it is in fact LOVE, just follow your heart.

Answer 11

When ya it 5+ years I would say go for it I was with someone for 31/2 years and we broke up but I still feel like it would have worked. But I think it is too young

Also think of the other stuff

A good steady job

A Place to live

Money so on