My three and a half year old daughter is, in general, very easy going and well behaved. We have always stressed consistency with our discipline. However, since I have been working part time, she has been staying with a friend of mine every afternoon for two hours. My friend has two kids that are my daughter's age and younger. She has so much fun that she throws a fit when it's time to leave. The first few weeks, I took away privileges immediately after getting home. It worked once or twice out of about 3 weeks. I then tried spanking. COMPLETELY inneffective. These are punishments that work in every other behavioral situation, and the lack of effectiveness here is frustrating. I feel like maybe I'm too close to the situation and cannot see the obvious solution.
Please do not say "Bust her butt!" or "You're the parent-make her mind!" It's not helpful or appreciated. My child is not a problem child-she just doesn't handle leaving play time well.
2007-03-05 10:45:52 · 9 answers · asked by Jennie Fabulous 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Most of these are such good ideas. Switching sitters or having her come to my house is, unfortunately, not an option. Neither is having another sibling (I don't pop out babies like candy. More babies is not a good idea for everyone). I have given time warnings, picked her up and taken her out screaming, allowed a bit more time for play...
I guess I'll just have to hope she grows out of it. This is really my only disciplinary issue, so I guess I will just have to hope she grows out of it. Thanks for all your help.
2007-03-05 11:02:53 · update #1
Maybe you can stay longer at the friend's house. Not much longer, but just a little. Then, tell her, "We have to go in a few minutes, get ready to say goodbye and we will see them tomorrow." Or, have the friends come over when you get out of work, just for a little while. The other thing you could try is to reward her if she leaves without a tantrum. Maybe take her for ice cream or buy her a small toy. Or start a rewards chart. I have 3 kids under 4, so I know that sometimes, no matter what you do, they will have those tantrums--it's part of being a toddler. She must really be having fun with those friends. So, don't be too hard on her. Just try to remember how much fun you used to have when you were a kid with your friends. Gosh, I don't know what other solutions there could be. This is a tough one b/c kids are usually set in their ways!!! Good luck and I hope everything works out.
2007-03-05 10:57:10 · answer #1 · answered by skg529dkg312 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 06:09:40 · answer #2 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, warn her when it is about time to go. Tell her ten minutes before and then five. If you need to leave the second you walk in, have your friend warn her, but I would suggest giving her time. Have her clean up and say goodbye. Then ask her to tell you what she did that day while putting on her coat or shoes. Remind her she´ll be coming back tomorrow. Talk about something exciting to do at home - something to bake or eat, something to watch, something to play. Get her thinking about that.
2007-03-05 10:50:58 · answer #3 · answered by sunniedaisies 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give her plenty of notice ahead of time that play time will be over in such and such amount of time before you even have the play date. set up a consequence if she acts up that she will have to do. you MUST follow thru.
when the time to leave gets close tell her that youre leaving in like 30 minutes. then tell her (whisper to her ear) that you're leaving in 15 minutes. then 5 minutes...then ask her to help you clean up cuz it's almost time to go. ask her if she wants to come back. if she says yes then tell her if she's good when you leave then you'll call when you get to the car to set up another play date. then just fake a call in the car.
2007-03-05 18:25:31 · answer #4 · answered by tryinthis2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesnt want to leave because she likes playing with her friends. I dont know what to tell ya though-no child likes to leave something that they think is fun. Maybe tell her if she doesnt behave youll have to find a different babysitter and she wont get to go over to her friends house anymore.
2007-03-05 10:51:37 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that if she cant leave playtime nicely, then she wont be able to go at all. if it happens again have a babysitter come to your house the next time you have to work. i know it is inconvenient, but it will show her that you mean business. hopefully it will only take one time of doing this, but if it takes a few, it will be worth it in the long run.
2007-03-05 10:50:02 · answer #6 · answered by krystal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
End the playtime by setting up a new one with a friend or offering to play her favorite game with her when you get home.
2007-03-05 10:49:59 · answer #7 · answered by cjm 3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at her age she may find it hard to understand punishments, i have a 3yr old son and use reverse phycology on him. Works a treat. May help you too
2007-03-05 10:50:31 · answer #8 · answered by robopets1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in "spankings", I suggest another sibling?
2007-03-05 10:54:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋