My husband loves his mother very much but now that we are older he is even finding her hard to deal with. She watches his brother and sister's kids, and visits them but not us. When we visit her she asks to busy and some how his dad ends up upset with us.I use to talk to her everyday and then she got a job and my mom and I mended the troubles we had. but I care very much for her, she never calls and I try to pick good times when she should be able to talk, she always rushes off the phone with me saying she has to go cause she has work to do or she has another call, not to mention she is starting to have his 10 year old sister answer the phone or call me back and ask me what I wanted. the last time she came to my house was to have me babysit his sister for her so she could work.I am a saty at home mom and I just had baby 7 months ago , so this is hard for me but has been happening almost a 2 years.My husband doesn't call his mom much cause he works away alot and barely gets alot of time
2007-03-05 10:45:17 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Why do you care about having a relationship with someone like that? Are you seeking her approval and feeling rejected?
Your husband is your family now, however, if you want the truth, you have to use the direct approach. Remind her of how close you once were and ask her directly what happened to change that. Give her some specific examples that cause you to believe there is a problem. Also, be prepared to hear answers that you may not like.
2007-03-05 10:58:59 · answer #1 · answered by Suzy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're learning a lesson in life, that not everyone will like you, or perhaps she does but something is bothering her. Do not waste time worrying about her. Focus on your own little family, your own relationship with your mom and your friends, and mostly God. Get involved with a good church, there are people out there who would like your company. It could be that she wants to bring trouble to your marraige, don't let this become an issue. Don't give anyone the power to do that. Remember honey, she has the physcological edge over you, she's much older, I have seen mean-spirited mothers in law, and they usually lack self-confidence. A person who is happy with themselves and is secure, makes others happy.
2007-03-05 11:04:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the prob isn't wit you it could be something going on with her in her life. It could also be she thinks that now that you have mended the relationship with your mom, you've in some way excluded her. Try to make one direct attempt at talking to her pray before you call and go for it. We'll Mother in law I apologise if I did anything to offend you ,but somethings going on I want you to tell me how we can resolve this situation. If she gives you and answer open dialogue but if she push the convo away. Leave it alone you tried and the ball is in her court.
2007-03-05 11:07:34 · answer #3 · answered by Nisa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best bet, in my opinion is to leave her alone for awhile. Maybe three to six weeks. In that period of time she will probably call and wonder why you haven't been calling her and you can tell her. She may be having a difficult time adjusting to working and she may not realize that she is essentially giving you the brush off.
2007-03-05 11:03:01 · answer #4 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i might tell her you experience for a while now that she is disenchanted with you. Ask what you probably did? She has 2 selections to assert it and additionally you're making up or to stay away from it and issues stay the comparable. If she isn't finding to talk then you definately have no relationship. i might provide it one final attempt for the little one. I
2016-12-18 16:03:24 · answer #5 · answered by haden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋