ive had 4 open heart surgeries in my life, and i am beginning to like this guy in my class. we dont really talk much in class, but we talk a lot on aol and through e-mails. i dont know how to tell him. but do you think i should keep it a secret? or should i tell him once we start talking? i don't want to scare him off, do you think he would care?
2007-03-05 10:37:33 · 10 answers · asked by aminallover29 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sure you're a wonderful person, and he should be happy to get to know you. I wouldn't keep your surgeries a secret - celebrate life!! No time like the present to tell him. But if he can't handle your past then he's definately not worth your future. Good Luck!!
2007-03-05 10:42:57 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think theirs any need to tell him right away. It's not really something important right up front. After you've been talking to him for a while just let it come up in conversation. Let him ask questions, and respond in a casual and comfortable manner. At that point if he cares about you it won't be an issue. I"m not saying to wait and tell him like 3 years into a relationship or something, but it dosen't have to be a first date type thing. Good Luck!
2007-03-05 10:45:01 · answer #2 · answered by lilly g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think he would care because he would like u just they way u r.But, dont keep it a secret or it can mess things up in the future. If u really love him, he should understand and then u wouldnt be afaid to tell him anything anymore.
2007-03-05 10:42:54 · answer #3 · answered by VanessaRose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes tell him, if he is caring and compassionate he will want to spend time with you as much as possible for fear of you not being there tomorrow.The fact that you have lived thru 4 heart surgeries tells me someone upstairs must have plans for you and that it isnt likely youll be dropping dead anytime soon.Live everyday like it is your last.
2007-03-05 10:43:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best policy. I would let him know that you have had heart problems, had heart surgeries and what your health is like now. Either he will accept you as you are or you will have to move on and find someone that will.
2007-03-05 10:43:11 · answer #5 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
l don't think telling him something like that would be ok to bring up during emails or online chatting...but I would share that once you start talking...keeping secrets is not a good way to have a relationship...(not that I would bring it up on the first date either)...
2007-03-05 10:45:20 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you need to tell him that in the first place. In my opinion thats something you talk about when you guys are more intimate. Your just friends.
2007-03-05 10:41:32 · answer #7 · answered by Gabriel G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should tell him the truth about what is going on n your life n if he doesn't care about it then it was never going to happen
2007-03-05 10:43:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
welll nobody's body or life is perfect and if u feel comfortable telling him then its okay..
2007-03-05 10:41:49 · answer #9 · answered by firstclass088 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
self-disclosure opens you up to be vulnerable. be careful
2007-03-05 10:41:57 · answer #10 · answered by mizzmel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋