This guy I've been kinda with since August told me all his feelings and ideas for the future a week ago. We used to talk every night pretty much, and we have great chemistry, I truly think he could be the one but now it's hard for me to be patient.
He is a strong, tough kind of guy, but I know he's been hurt before. He knows I've been hurt too. His opening up to me makes me think he might be feeling just as strongly as I do... But then, he hasn't called me since then. He went on vacation this morning, and will be gone for a week. he decided without telling me that he's not going to stay here with me after he returns, but he says he will call. I find myself having little faith in this. I know he cares and he doesn't want to hurt me but I'm forever expecting him to be "typical". What is going on in his head? Are there any ways I can learn to be more patient? I've not been this confused in a long time.
2007-03-05 10:34:15 · 2 answers · asked by Lynn G 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sometimes guys will back off a bit after opening up because they feel vulnerable. Give him his week vacation to collect his thoughts and to start to feel less vulnerable and then talk to him.
Explain how you feel, what you want for the future and that you have no intentions of hurting him, but that you need a little reassurance that he won't hurt you.
Hopefully, things will go well and you will have what you want out of this relationship. If things don't go well, its better to know now than to continue seeing each other and become more involved, only to be hurt later.
2007-03-05 10:40:45 · answer #1 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't blame you for not having faith. He is sending you mixed signals. OK he is not going to stay with you? What does this mean are you two living together? I don't think he is feeling as strongly as yours. You have a week to think all of this through, and if you want to pursue a relationship with him or not.
2007-03-05 18:46:09 · answer #2 · answered by Janst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋