my granddaughter daughter now calls her by her first name she almost 3yrs old lives with her farther and his mother his mother incourages it is that some sort of child abuse
2007-03-05 10:27:52 · 20 answers · asked by ? 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
It is not child abuse. Its not hurting her physically, or neglect, or emotionally abusing her. If the mom does not like it, she should talk to her daughter and tell her that its not ok with her, even though daddy and grandma say it is. Other than that, there is nothing you can do. It is just a parenting choice.
2007-03-05 10:34:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It certainly is not child abuse, disrespectful to the mother, maybe. If so mom should let the child know she prefers to be called mom, mother, et al.
Divorce is horrible for children, at best. Is there anything you can do to make the situation better for the child? Some joy you can provide that will help the 3 year old cope.
It's wonderful for you to care ~~~ Good Luck and God Bless You All.
2007-03-05 10:48:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is very common. I work in childcare for many years and a children copy what they see and hear. She's discovered that her mom has more then one name. When she gets older she'll grow out of the phase. A child hearing their parent being called by a different name all day (say at childcare if the parent is a worker their) can confuse the child of what name to use. The parent should not encourage it but, remember the child is confused and it is only a phase. She is only 3, remember that please. If she was 10 then yes that would be disrepectful and abusive.
2007-03-05 10:34:34 · answer #3 · answered by Angelica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a type of child abuse for the mom to encourage the child to call her dad by his first name. However, it is extremely disrespectful for both the child to do this, and for the mother to be encouraging it. No kids we know get away with calling their parents by their first names!!!
The mom may be trying to brainwash the child into thinking that man is not her dad, so she can get him out of their life. That happened to a friend of ours. He had two girls who were basically turned against him by their mom, and eventually resulted in him completely terminating his parental rights because the mom would do nothing but fill their heads with negative things about their dad so she could get full custody.
2007-03-05 10:34:19 · answer #4 · answered by Angie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not 'child abuse' ... it's simply the father and his mother attempting to 'abuse' his ex by having his daughter refer to her 'birth mother' by her first name rather than calling her 'Mom' or 'Mama.' The best thing for your daughter to 'do' about this is suggest to her daughter that she 'likes' not being called 'Mom' or 'Mama' because it makes her and her daughter 'closer, and more like best friends.' If she says that frequently enough, I'll bet the father and his mother will try to get the child to call her 'Mom' or 'Mama' out of spite ... but if the child doesn't, you can't really 'do anything' to change it, and as long as your daughter can 'see' her daughter regularly, the 'name' should make no difference at all.
2007-03-05 10:56:28 · answer #5 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that it is just the age. The little girl is just a baby. When I was around that age I called my mother by her first name. The babies mother just needs to correct the baby every time. The baby doesn't know about respect, and that is what the problem is basically about. I stopped eventually so will the baby.
2007-03-05 10:34:52 · answer #6 · answered by Jon T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very common-my daughter (also almost 3) sometimes calls her daddy by his first name. As hard as I try to, I sometimes do call him by his first name rather than daddy in front of her. When she does it, we just tell her "His name is Daddy" and then she will ask him her question again, this time using daddy. Not child abuse, just a phase.
2007-03-05 14:35:47 · answer #7 · answered by n2mama 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Angelica is certainly right. My son did this for a period of about a year or two when he was 5 or 6. He was a happy, well-adjusted kid, and always had respect for me. I think it was a "novelty"--honestly it never bothered me. He grew out of it, and I became just "mom." I think there are a lot worse things your kids could call you than by your first name. It's just a phase and if nobody freaks out about it, it will phase out in time. The worse thing you could do is make her feel that it is bad.
2007-03-05 10:42:54 · answer #8 · answered by Petrushka's Ghost 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't think it would be child abuse but it is certainly sad. The child should be able to call her mother a term such as Mommy that affirms to her that her relationship (child/mother) is closer than that of other relationships.
2007-03-05 10:32:40 · answer #9 · answered by Ma Dukes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not child abuse, when i was about that age i went through a stage of calling my mum and dad by their first names, the child needs to be told but in a low tone vioce 'No I'm mummy' i went through doing it for ages until i got fed up
2007-03-05 20:25:57 · answer #10 · answered by Autism's Beautiful Face 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋