Well my daughter likes this boy and he likes her. They both are 11 years old and he asked my daughter out. My daughter is so nervous becasue she has not told him the answer yet because she has not had the time to. I was just wondering if anyone thinks that she should not go on a date with him because they are to young. Please answer!
2007-03-05 10:24:39 · 67 answers · asked by ♥<(^-^)>♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes, it's just looking for trouble. i wasn't allowed to go on my first date until i was 16. even then i was only 4 minutes late for curfew and was grounded for 6 months.
2007-03-05 10:27:35 · answer #1 · answered by trisha_r_c 3 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Dating is usually something people do to get to know each other in the prospects of having a full life together. At eleven she sounds a little young to date. I think dating in groups would be a safer alternative if you do decide to let her date him. You have to question what will happen in the next couple of years when her hormones kick in and sexuality takes over. Would she be able to control herself from temptation? Also, if the boy dumps her are you prepared to see her little heart break and be there to pick up the pieces. I think encourage her to have lots of friends who are both girls and boys and enjoy her youth while she still has it. Your the adult who can guide her and help her make good decisions. I have a 12 yo turning 13 who is not dating, I do acknowledge her feelings about her attraction to boys, which is natural but do not encourage her to date just be a kid and enjoy her youth. She sees her friends around her dating and dealing with adult issues of heartbreaks, jealousy and she feels free from all that sort of stress and is a happy, well balanced kid.
2007-03-05 10:43:26 · answer #2 · answered by n_az 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think she is too young to have a date but not too young to have a friend who may be a boy. I would let her know that she can have friends that are boys but there is not to be dating in the kissing and hugging department till she is older. I would suggest that you let her hang out but only under supervision at this age. The curiosity is there so go over the things that she may have to encounter with boys and let her know that she needs to wait till the right age so she has the wisdom to know what is going on.
2007-03-05 10:32:05 · answer #3 · answered by The_answer_person 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although it might seem young and innocent, I personally wouldn't recommend it. Eleven years old is too young and it's actually scary because kids are growing up way too fast these days. She should be able to enjoy just being "friends" with the boy. They're still at the age where if she were to even say no to him, it shouldn't affect the both of them that much.
2007-03-05 10:30:11 · answer #4 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think she is too young for a date. Explain to her that it is too soon to be dating. She will have time for dates. What is the big rush? Let her enjoy being a kid. With everything that is going on in this world, kids are growing up WAY too fast. Being a kid only lasts for a short while so she should enjoy it the best she can.
2007-03-05 10:33:01 · answer #5 · answered by rencar32002 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
11 years old is way too young to begin dating. I'm a teen, and I think that dating at that age is ridiculous. It is really sad to see elementary school kids dress like they are 20, and dating makes it worse. Your daughter probably has a crush, and I don't think that they will have a long term relationship. You should at least wait until your daughter is in high school.
2007-03-05 10:29:23 · answer #6 · answered by Emily 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Yes they are definitelly too young to date, but just saying no would be a very negative thing to do. It would be better to suggest things like group outings or having a shaperone there. Since they like eachother or they feel they do just saying no will just cause for other things to happen. i mean techinically you can't stop it. If they decide thay want to go out I'm sure thay can come up with a plan to do so without your knowledge. I'm not saying that they would, but it's possible. It's ok to give them some slack but know when is enough.
2007-03-05 10:36:24 · answer #7 · answered by kcthespian_86 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well im assuming you dont mean actually dating.... that is what a LOT of adults DONT understand about junior high relationships. im 12 and in junior high now and its so its not anything to worry about. i mean we call it 'going together' and its basically when you like each other, u get asked out, you talk on the phone and at school, and going to a party or the movies with a group of friends once in a while. nothing major. before it lasted like 3 days at the most but everyone has seemed to matured and its starting to last maybe three or four months. i know, it sounds SO silly. but to simply answer your question its perfectly fine.
you should be glad your daughter came to you about this because out of my group of friends my mom is basically the only one that knows about our 'boyfriends'. Hope I helped!
2007-03-05 10:37:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think 11 is way too young to date. I was in the 7th grade when my mom started letting me go on a few movie dates with boys, and it was too soon - even with her dropping us off and the boy's mom picking us up, i recall being alone in a dark theater with a boy who had all of a sudden turned into an octopus!
2007-03-05 10:30:57 · answer #9 · answered by feminist73 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Definitely too young. There is no way I would let her go on a date. Even a chaperoned date. If you give in to this at this age you will be asking for more trouble in years to come. Set the limits now.
2007-03-05 10:29:46 · answer #10 · answered by Virginia C 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
it depends what you mean by date. I'm pretty sure it means that they will be supervised and go somewhere out to dinner. If so, this is completely harmless. I think its a good idea to let your young girl get exposed to boys at a young age so that they understand each other more. And plus-its so cute!
I remember being that old and being terrified of going on dates, and I never accepted. I now wish i did! Its nerveracking, but isn't that the way you're supposed to feel? But if she feels too uncomfortable and you notice it, tell her that she doesnt have to if she's not ready.
2007-03-05 10:30:19 · answer #11 · answered by alyssa 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋