My daughter Molly always comes home upset. She won't talk to me about what happend.I am afraid because she's only 6. I don't want to lose my daughter. Why is she not talking to me? What should I Do? I need all the help i can get. plz help me.
2007-03-05 10:18:16 · 11 answers · asked by Queen Lyanna Love 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It's hard for kids to talk to parents sometimes. Try and have
somebody else approach her about it, like an aunt she likes, or
a family friend.
2007-03-05 10:24:08 · answer #1 · answered by redman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Home from where? School? If so make an appointment and talk to her teacher about what is going on at school. May be friend problems or school work is a struggle. Why would you "lose" her?
Have a day just with her. Keep her out of school one day and take her somewhere fun, eat at her favorite place, watch movies together...nothing but what SHE wants to do. Don't pressure her to talk about anything...just give her your undivided attention and trust. Maybe that will give her an opening to talk to you about what is going on.
Good luck, try not to get upset, it is most likely just a phase type thing!
2007-03-05 10:26:34 · answer #2 · answered by SouthernGrits 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm. Tough one. Obviously something's upsetting her. You could try to draw her out by being interested in her day. Ask specific questions like "What was the best thing that happened today?" Then "What was your least favorite thing that happened?" Asking specific questions like that rather than "What's wrong?" may help you get to the bottom of the issue, because like others here mentioned, it's possible she's not 100% sure what's upsetting her. As her mom you may be able to figure it out with a few talk sessions.
If you're still unable to get to the bottom of it, you should talk to her teacher. It's possible that your daughter is having trouble with reading or with her math and is feeling frustrated about it. Perhaps there's a kid in class that she doesn't get along with. It could be any number of things, even down to something like she does't like standing in the lunch line for lunch (my niece has a real problem with that one - the rules are very strict and they are not allowed to talk during lunch!). Or she may be having a bit of separation anxiety and that's something that a child may have a very hard time voicing.
It's obvious you are very concerned about your daughter and therefore will be sensitive to and respectful of her feelings. I also feel (from experience) that it is imperative you get to the bottom of things right away (which I know you're working on, since you're here trying to get answers). It could be something very minor that is troubling her (minor in the eyes of adults, not in the eyes of a child who feels everything so strongly) and if not remedied, could escalate. No child should come home each day upset. If you can't get her to talk and talking to her teacher gets you nowhere, ask to speak with the school psychologist (or counselor if there is no psychologist). Sometimes it takes a person trained in getting people to talk about their feelings to draw a child out.
That said, it could be something as simple as exhaustion, since school age children are expected to do so much and spend so many hours at school and doing school work (not to mention working around their parents' work schedules, daycare, etc.) that it could be affecting her all around.
Good luck
2007-03-05 10:41:45 · answer #3 · answered by Wonderin' 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel something is going on at school or the bus to upset her. You need to maybe tell her a story about things that upset you when you was a child then maybe she will open up to you. A child crys out in a way we can't understand. Being her mom you know her better than anyone.
2007-03-05 10:24:06 · answer #4 · answered by candy m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of the ideas above are good ones. But if you want to hear it from her mouth, you have to try other things.
At 6, mine was interested in coloring. Oftentimes I could tell what was on her mind by the kind of things she drew. You might try that. If I had an idea of what I thought was wrong, I'd tell her a story about it, either a book, or even a story about when I was a kid. A lot of times she'd sympathize, and tell me what was going on.
Good luck to you!
2007-03-05 12:03:44 · answer #5 · answered by ~Biz~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im 13 but maybe u could talk to her teacher. see whats going on in the classroom. if no explanation there, you could take her to a child pyscologist. or maybe you should spend more time with her. make her happy with her mommy! and then shell probably trust u more and tell you whats wrong. again im only 13 so i dont know. i hope that helps!
2007-03-05 10:28:22 · answer #6 · answered by =P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kids, no matter the age dont really like to talk to their parents if its about being picked on or something school related. My advice. Sit her down, ask her whats wrong if she doesnt want to tell, explain that it cant get better if she wont let someone help.
2007-03-05 10:24:49 · answer #7 · answered by LP's Mommy, RN 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her teacher how she acts at school. Maybe the teacher can tell you if she is having the same problem with her.
Talk to your child at 6 years old she is not old enough to ignore you. YOU ARE THE PARENT.
2007-03-05 10:29:46 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. Angel.. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can talk to her teacher and see what is wrong. Maybe it's because of some social problems. But just keep trying...
2007-03-05 10:25:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
she comes home upset from were?? School?? maybe you can try to talk to her teacher or babysitter. But take action because it maybe something serious (hopefully not)....
2007-03-05 10:30:51 · answer #10 · answered by nunez510 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋