else? I loved single parenthood soooo much, now that I am with my partner things are much more stressful for everyone, regardless of the fact that i love him to death. Obviously those of you that are against single parenthood will disagree because kids "can't be raised properly without a mom and a dad present in the same house."
Regardless of all of that on a basic level single parenthood was just simply easier than doing it with someone else, but it seems not many people think that way...am I the only one?
2007-03-05 10:10:14 · 11 answers · asked by juniormintsrock 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
ooh the claws come out on this one, huh.
I feel you 100%. When it's just you and yours, the routine is easier, the rules are more consistent, and better followed, errands and schedules and appointments and trips and everything are much less complicated.... etc. I also think that now that I'm a single parent I am WAY more in-tuned to my kid, we have better communication and I am focused on her.
It's much harder to have all that, and suddenly need to juggle other people and their schedules/lives/opinions/drama as well. I have to say I think it's worth it, but I agree with you it's much more difficult in many ways.
I hope you find it gets easier with time. Good luck!
2007-03-05 11:56:47 · answer #1 · answered by ~Biz~ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i am not a single parent but i think having someone makes it so easy. I can't tell how many times i have been sick and thanked GOD that someone was there to take care of the baby. Also just everyday task like getting food and getting out of the house are easier when i don't have to do it alone. There are days when i have to do things on my own and i hate it. Also for me i prefer to go the store with out the baby just because it is easier to get in and out and just do what i need to do. If i was a single parent i guess i could leave my child with a sitter but i would feel bad about that so i would have to bring her along. I actually don't know how single parents do it because i would go mad if i did not have help
2007-03-06 13:58:34 · answer #2 · answered by Big Daddy R 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not a parent, but in 9 years I really hope to be a parent. I'm 16 now, & you have to be 25 to adopt a child, so that is 9 yrs & it will be 9 yrs on the dot, probably on my 25th Birthday I will go & begin the adoption process. I will be a single parent by choice. My whole life I have always wanted to have children & to adopt. Some people may disagree with my decision, but I truely feel in my heart of hearts that its teh right deceision & I"m so aexcited about it!! & Also because I love kids & really really really want to be a mother. I don't really care if I ever have a relationship or get married, Its like almost all of my friends have boyfriends & they think that i am strange becuase I don't have one & they think I am completely insane for not caring whether or not I ever have a relationship or get married. THat just really does not concern me I really don't care. I just want a nice house, car, my dream job ( Registered Nurse), good steady pay, enough money to send my kids to college, & a few pets. I will dvote my life to my kids & love them ore than anything in my life! Even some of my family disagrees with my single parent by choice plan, bu tthat is their lose, if they will not accept my kids, then they will not be part of their lives. Anyways, It doesn't matter what others think, there will always be somone one who disagrees with you & thinks you are 100% wrong, but if you are being the best parent you can be, love your kids, & treat them right, thats essentially all that matters. If you worry about what others think constantly then it will consuem you rlife & you wont have anytiem for your kids, becuase you'll be second guessing yourself, & too worried of if everyone agrees with you, which will never be so. lol, Hopefully it wouldnt get that extreme. But anyways, just be the best parent you can be. & to answer your question yes! There are so many reasons & advantages in my opinion of beign a signle parent. Best of luck
2007-03-05 11:04:30 · answer #3 · answered by Carly 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
when my two where young YES got to agree with you, it was far easier than it appeared to be for most of my "couple" friends, the 3 of us worked as a team and for the most part worked well.
As they got older then I felt the need to be part of a couple then they felt the need to have a "father" figure in their lives as that aspect was already covered with g.dad, brother, male friends etc, but after being with my new partner for the past 7 years, got to say he came along at the right time for ALL of us.
And to the ones that knock the single parents......what about the poor ladies who's husbands died, what should they do RUN out and get a new man just to make general society happy...........being a widow and doing a good Job is no different than being a single parent and doing a good job...............I do feel that ALL single parents would and in fact most DO try that bit harder to ensure that the child en we are bringing up focus a bit harder and work harder so that the are not in the next round of statistics.................
2007-03-05 10:34:01 · answer #4 · answered by candy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a single parent and I can see why you would think it's easier. You don't have to "discuss" things with anyone. Your child asks you a question and you give your answer. Also you don't have to worry about them running to ask someone else after you told them no. I Would love to have a father in my daughters life but at the same time I'm not looking forward to all the "bull" that comes along with it.
2007-03-05 15:21:01 · answer #5 · answered by makalas_mommy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I know excatly where you are coming from. My daughters are 3 now and just until January my boyfriend (my daughters' dad) and I did not live together but we do now. Until then I was basically raising our daughters and now we both are and it is frustrating. We both don't always agree on the same thing, as how to punish or reward our daughters. It has been a big change for all of us but hopefully soon we will all get on the same track.
2007-03-05 10:39:08 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree. My husband is in the army and is here and gone constantly for classes and deployments. I love when hes here and i love when he can help, but sometimes its easier to just stick to a routine without distractions. like now i am starting to potty train while hes gone so i can stick to it without distractions or him not doing it the same while im gone
2007-03-05 12:06:22 · answer #7 · answered by tcb 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No I see where you're coming from first off you can raise your childen the way you want and you don't have to deal with annoying in-laws and their views....
2007-03-05 10:14:36 · answer #8 · answered by Monique S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being a dictator is easier than being a president as well.
2007-03-05 10:19:22 · answer #9 · answered by knujefp 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i think it is better with two! a mother and a father!!..
i understand!
it takes two to make a baby, but not two to raise one....but a child needs his/her mother and father! equally
2007-03-05 10:18:13 · answer #10 · answered by sexii 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋