Can anyone translate womanese for me?

Question

what is the difference between serious and too serious?

We broke up for a while because she was afraid she was falling for another blind love/fruitless relationship but we talked it out and I told her to trust me.

So she says OK. But it will be a while before she will be able commit to anything too serious.

We have made out, and according to other questions I have asked here, she is definitely in to me ( I really think so too).

So what does this mean?

That was a great worthless answer Larisa...

I don't spend any money on her, and the only things I do with her are my hobbies which she doesn't even like but she comes with me anyways.

I think the folks that said she has been hurt and is afraid to fall again are right, all the things that I know about her and the things she has told me make it clear that she has avoided men and not been on a date with anyone since her ex over a year ago.

She wasn't sure why she decided to meet me, but she started to see that she was falling for the same thing again and was afraid of getting hurt.

She may be playing me but I doubt it, so I will see where it goes but in the meant time I will continue to date other women.

Answer 1

It really means she doesn't want to hurt your feelings, she likes the attention you give her, but she's not that into you.

Plain and simple. Womanese translated.

Answer 2

It means she's scared of getting hurt, and you need to take it slow. Maybe she feels that as long as it stays light hearted, as in making out and rather casual dates, little to no sex, she won't be as vulnerable. If you really like her, you need to let her have some time, and show her by actions and reality, other than words, that she can trust you.

She doesn't want to rush into love and get hurt again. It means she really likes you. For girls who have been deeply hurt, really liking a guy and getting emotionally involved is very difficult and scary. Relationships develop naturally if you don't push, so if you guys like each other, just go with the flow. It will work out, and if you don't push, she will feel like you actually understand what all the other guys have not.

Answer 3

This means that she likes the money you spend on her and the attention you give her but that's it. She doesn't want the relaitonship to go any further than that. Cut her off and see how far it goes then. You'll be seeing her behind walking out the door. The wikipedia definition for her is Succubus. Although she won't be the death of you, she will suck all of your money and time until you run out of either. Then it's back to being a lefty again.

Answer 4

The mistake you are making is that you are trying to be reasonable. You cannot reason with an unreasonable person. Women have never been reasonable, they know this, but figure why change what works. They will always be a couple steps ahead of a man, and there is nothing we can do about it but continue to stumble along the best we can.

Answer 5

She's afraid of getting hurt. She really likes you but is afraid that she's going to fall for you only to have something bad happen. She's probably got some baggage from another relationship. Just stay the course and you'll work it out. Good luck!

Answer 6

She's gonna play you until the other "blind/fruitless" relationship is confirmed or denied, then you'll get sloppy seconds until the next "blind/fruitless" relationship comes along. Where you are in this relationship is slightly ABOVE her fat girlfriend and right below her "GAY boy friend" I say that, because the gay boy friend can actually give her fashion advice.

Sorry to say it dude, but you're getting played.

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Answer 7

There are multiple possibilities... She wants to keep hanging out with you, but doesn't want to get too serious in case someone better comes along OR she's scared of falling too hard for you and wants to keep things slow so that she won't be hurt OR she's really busy and doesn't want to get your hopes up too high that she will be available because in the near future her life will be unpredictable...

Answer 8

Well if she says she doesn't want anything too serious, I think that means that she doesn't want to commit to just you. I think yes, she probably does like you, but perhaps she still feels like she has other options with other guys. Sorry, I hate to tell you that, but really that what it means when anyone says it - men or women.

Answer 9

This girl has been badly hurt in the past it sounds like. If she's worth it, be patient with her. Not too long though. Sometimes it's not healthy to be in a relationship with someone who can't let go of the past.

Answer 10

It sounds like while she may be interested in you, she's not looking for a commitment and she's trying to keep her options open. She may be more comfortable having a boyfriend than being alone, but she doesn't want to get tied down with you in case someone better comes along... that's what it sounds like to me.

Answer 11

She may be into you, but she doesnt want to commit to you...Is that fine with you? She doesnt want to be monogamous just one on one. That is what she meant by not being able to commit to anything serious. She may be into you but she still wants to keep looking. You may not be the "one". Making out doesnt mean much to someone who doesnt want to commit to you seriously. Dont give her your heart just yet, take it slow and observe or you may be in for a heartache.